Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....

@ellerbracke good for you to make such a brave confession of an unwanted prejudice. I'm pleased to see that members treated this topic honestly and respectfully, without judgement, keeping Connect open, respectful and inclusive.

Such unwanted, or in some cases hidden, prejudices are recognized as implicit or unconscious bias. You can read more on Project Insight’s website which is an Harvard founded organization that studies unconscious bias: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/education.html

Recognizing one's unconscious bias is the first step to changing them. @ellerbracke @georgette12, @imallears, @ihtak46 @jakedduck1, when you notice biased thoughts, how do you try to change your judgement or unwanted bias?

@contentandwell I love the 72% dk chocolate from Trader Joe,s I'm going to try the recipie @Parus wrote about

@ellerbracke If you think Godiva is good, try Burdick’s. It’s in a small NH town but they now have shops in NYC, Boston, and Harvard square in Cambridge. They were named as the best chocolate in the country one year by Consumers Reports, and they are decadent, but of course pricey. I’ve been in the Harvard square shop and had hot chocolate. It was an ecstatic experience! They make each cup to order, dark chocolate, milk chocolate or white chocolate. Their fame started with their chocolate mice.
https://www.burdickchocolate.com/
JK

@ethanmcconkey I do notice that I am biased at times, especially in crowded places where all sorts of people are. Then I kick myself and remind myself I’m not perfect either! As my dad said, it takes all kinds to make this world. Most people are in situations beyond their control. The problem with weight is mostly the high cost of fresh fruit and veggies and the lack of good grocery stores in lower income areas. Known as ‘food deserts.’ Also, food is a sign of love in many cultures. I encountered so many people trying to feed a dying loved one. They just couldn’t understand that food could do more harm than good.
A good example is when we had lunch with a former graduate student that we had sponsored. He is from India, has a masters degree, and now a good job. He mentioned that he would be ok with his parents setting up an arranged marriage. I just couldn’t believe it! Later, my husband and I watched a good movie about Indian arranged marriages in the US. It is such a strong part of the culture and made sense, so there went my bias! Good question, Ethan

@contentandwell I have seen the more conservative in the Northeast and now the Liberal in Calif. But a lot of eastern folks have migrated to here . My daughter in law is of India hertitage and is Muslim so everytime like 911 the Muslim community there houses are egged. Her parents place was everytime . So I think prejudice is all over and different in the areas of the country . Down South it is a different prejudice .

@ellerbracke good for you to make such a brave confession of an unwanted prejudice. I'm pleased to see that members treated this topic honestly and respectfully, without judgement, keeping Connect open, respectful and inclusive.

Such unwanted, or in some cases hidden, prejudices are recognized as implicit or unconscious bias. You can read more on Project Insight’s website which is an Harvard founded organization that studies unconscious bias: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/education.html

Recognizing one's unconscious bias is the first step to changing them. @ellerbracke @georgette12, @imallears, @ihtak46 @jakedduck1, when you notice biased thoughts, how do you try to change your judgement or unwanted bias?

@contentandwell I have seen the more conservative in the Northeast and now the Liberal in Calif. But a lot of eastern folks have migrated to here . My daughter in law is of India hertitage and is Muslim so everytime like 911 the Muslim community there houses are egged. Her parents place was everytime . So I think prejudice is all over and different in the areas of the country . Down South it is a different prejudice .

@lioness. A Trader Joe’s opened in our town last year but I’ve probably only been there about 3 times. I buy a lot of fresh vegetables and meat and those are not things that Trader Joe’s is known for. When I do go there, I end up buying some of their yummy snack foods, and I do not need that!
JK

If you’re into cheeses, TJ is one of the very , very, very few stores (at least near me in SC) that ever carry Camembert cheese. If you don’t know what that is, don’t worry. If you do, and can get it locally, good for you.

To be honest - I still can’t quite let go of some bias/prejudices. And some may be confirmed. Aside from fat people etc.... an acquaintance who sometimes works with homeless people in church settings absolutely knows that even if given free food and shelter and access to jobs and medical care, in his experience 80% of those people reached will quit their jobs, junk their lodgings, and go back to living on the street. So should I not consider them street people? Or, not “label” them? Or not be upset, either because they won’t let themselves be helped, or because they live on the streets? About to spend some time in Portland, OR, and that is really challenging to walk downtown. Homeless everywhere, like locusts. Mostly harmless, but still smelly, semi-lucid, side-walk dwelling. Not pleasant.
So, I think I still will always harbor some resentment, or just can’t get why people don’t get available help, or why they don’t help each other more.
How about I will give some 2nd thought before judging? But not a 3rd one, if your buggy is full of pork rinds and chips, and you need a scooter to get them into your basket.