Recent, totally sudden, traumatic loss of our daughter, 45.

@ihtak46. Hello. This is just a hello and I'm saying a prayer for you. Grief is a unique process for each of us. It's been 3 years and I wear his sweatshirt and his cologne is in my drawer. I spray some on my wrist now and then. I have gone through each and everything you describe. I continue to go through it but I have bits of time when I'm okay. Tiny tiny bits of time. It's our new normal for a while. Until our new normal shifts a little and wobbles, and takes different shapes at different times. I just want to tell you it's okay. Whatever you do, or feel, or think, it's a part of grief. Blessings.

Thanks for writing georgette. Today I needed it. Its been bad enough but today for some reason it was just horrible. I woke up crying and like ‘suddenly’ realized my daughter was gone. She passed June 3. I cried almost all day til I gave myself a terrible headache. Everything today reminded me that she was gone. Everything. I broke down crying all day, husband tried to comfort me but I kept it up. Felt ill, my face hurt! I could NOT believe she was really gone. Am I going to have days like this? It was horrible. I couldn't eat, I just cried! I still cant seem to realize shes gone! Horrible day today.
I dont hear from many people on Mayo Connect. Where do I go so people can write me so we can share stories and seek help from each other. I guess im still unsure how this works.
Thank you.
I cant sleep so thats why im writing now. Its12:30.

Thanks for writing georgette. Today I needed it. Its been bad enough but today for some reason it was just horrible. I woke up crying and like ‘suddenly’ realized my daughter was gone. She passed June 3. I cried almost all day til I gave myself a terrible headache. Everything today reminded me that she was gone. Everything. I broke down crying all day, husband tried to comfort me but I kept it up. Felt ill, my face hurt! I could NOT believe she was really gone. Am I going to have days like this? It was horrible. I couldn't eat, I just cried! I still cant seem to realize shes gone! Horrible day today.
I dont hear from many people on Mayo Connect. Where do I go so people can write me so we can share stories and seek help from each other. I guess im still unsure how this works.
Thank you.
I cant sleep so thats why im writing now. Its12:30.

I can only imagine the shock and sorrow you are feeling now. Your daughter died too soon and my daughter died too soon. It took months for me to realize that love lasts forever. Death doesn't have the power to erase love and you will always love your daughter. My daughter had a marvelous sense of humor. Some even thought she could be a stand-up comic. Now, when I have a big laugh or belly laugh, I dedicate it to my daughter. My husband and I, in conjunction with the co-music leaders at our church, commissioned a song in memory of Helen. It is a beautiful song and one that other choirs could sing. It is important to say your daughter's name and tell stories about her. Often people avoid saying a name for fear they will make you sad. You're already sad and saying your daughter's name and telling stories keeps her alive. You may wish to write some stories down for your grandchildren. After our daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash, my husband and I developed a buddy system. One day he would be the driver and I would be the lookout. The next day I would drive and he would be the lookout. Finally, tears are beneficial and release emotions. Give yourself permission to cry for as long as you need to and anywhere you need to. You will feel better afterwards.

I can only imagine the shock and sorrow you are feeling now. Your daughter died too soon and my daughter died too soon. It took months for me to realize that love lasts forever. Death doesn't have the power to erase love and you will always love your daughter. My daughter had a marvelous sense of humor. Some even thought she could be a stand-up comic. Now, when I have a big laugh or belly laugh, I dedicate it to my daughter. My husband and I, in conjunction with the co-music leaders at our church, commissioned a song in memory of Helen. It is a beautiful song and one that other choirs could sing. It is important to say your daughter's name and tell stories about her. Often people avoid saying a name for fear they will make you sad. You're already sad and saying your daughter's name and telling stories keeps her alive. You may wish to write some stories down for your grandchildren. After our daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash, my husband and I developed a buddy system. One day he would be the driver and I would be the lookout. The next day I would drive and he would be the lookout. Finally, tears are beneficial and release emotions. Give yourself permission to cry for as long as you need to and anywhere you need to. You will feel better afterwards.