I can only imagine the shock and sorrow you are feeling now. Your daughter died too soon and my daughter died too soon. It took months for me to realize that love lasts forever. Death doesn't have the power to erase love and you will always love your daughter. My daughter had a marvelous sense of humor. Some even thought she could be a stand-up comic. Now, when I have a big laugh or belly laugh, I dedicate it to my daughter. My husband and I, in conjunction with the co-music leaders at our church, commissioned a song in memory of Helen. It is a beautiful song and one that other choirs could sing. It is important to say your daughter's name and tell stories about her. Often people avoid saying a name for fear they will make you sad. You're already sad and saying your daughter's name and telling stories keeps her alive. You may wish to write some stories down for your grandchildren. After our daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash, my husband and I developed a buddy system. One day he would be the driver and I would be the lookout. The next day I would drive and he would be the lookout. Finally, tears are beneficial and release emotions. Give yourself permission to cry for as long as you need to and anywhere you need to. You will feel better afterwards.

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