"Why bother?" What can we do when we are stuck?

Hi @parus. Be honest with your family. It is too much for you. If you are overwhelmed now; more so closer to the day. Depression and anxiety issues is a real battle. Strange how we know once we get moving, we are better for it. But it is that first move; the struggle to get up and go- ongoing. It does not help when you have pain on top of it. Interesting mix of pain factors I have, if I do not move I pay for it dearly. And others, if I move, it hurts so. I do both. Maybe have a relative stay with at least while housitijngvwith the dogs- whatever, your despair , etc will make less effective And meds adjustment does change, more dosage at certain times of the year- less other times. Or wrong one as times goes on. Please be aware; you are important and needs to do the best by you. Take care

@parus Good to see you this morning! Can you get a medical alert thing that would summon help if you have a problem? Is there a friend or other family member that you would like to have stay with you, would that work? At some point in our lives we need to put our hand up and say, "no, this isn't going to work anymore". Maybe you've reached that point. While you don't want to jeopardize somebody else's vacation, you need to think of yourself first. I know that you will consider all the options available to you and make the right choice that fits for you. Please take care of yourself first and be gentle on yourself. Sending you hugs this morning,
Ginger

It is important to consider your safety, as you aren't going to be in a good place without knowing that you are secure. I had a medical alert device, but it was funded by another source, and they are not inexpensive to have, either. If you are able to afford it, and if your insurance will help with that, you should probably consider it in any case. The wireless option is the way to go there. Sometimes we aren't able to do the things we hope to do, and you alone know if that means saying "no" to this offer now.

@parus If you feel this way Parus you should talk it over with your son You said other family members have house keys maybe they could check on the house and dogs .I wouldn't want anything to happen to you in the state your in with pain and anxiety If you don't say anything now it will be to late when they leave .I hope you think about the possibilities that could happen and make the right decision for yourself .

Hi this is a hard one. Create for you - or find other avenues for creativity. There are homeless needs for clothing stuff FYI. Also place that looks for free pretty things for folks to put in their homes.
As for your son, get answers somehow maybe someone who both trust to sit down with you. Unanswered queries gets one down- I do not know to this day why I was kicked out of Friwnds in the city - minor compared to you- no straight answer- being hearing impaired I have a bad sounding voice and I mentioned that a reason- no answer either way and I was not reached out by the organization. No disputes no issues otherwise bits bothersome. Wears you down- underdermining confidience.
It’s important to get answers-

sad that so many are suffering . Me too. Take 1 day at a time. I do not feel liker myself since my sweet hubby died...its so so hard to not have that special someone. Friends are good but have family & problems of tier own Lifetime savings almost gone... Then what can we do ? worry is my constant companion . WE worked so did not expect this kind of struggle with money. Billionaires Corps own & control al Notl ike it was back in my day Congress no longer works for the people ... just themselves and GREED>

@parus I agree with all the comments above. You’ve had a really hard time with your health and now is not the time to take on extra commitments and worries. Please sit down with your son and his wife and explain what’s going on with you. Say that ‘you would really love to help, but are physically unable to’. Be very frank with him! Don’t hurt yourself! If something were to happen, the first thing your son would say is ‘why didn’t you tell me? I could have made other arrangements! You are more important ‘. Do something today—we care. Becky

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Great for ginger I am losing my memory & confused. Scare to death Whats next ? dementia ?

@dianrib Good morning! Your response has me worried. What is going on that you feel you are losing your memory and being confused? Do you feel like you’re getting dementia? Have you seen a doctor recently? Please take care of yourself. We’re always here to listen