Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

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lioness | @lioness | Jan 24, 2019

In reply to @lioness "@hodagwi You,ve got that right sister if only our bodies would cooperate" + (show)

@hopeful33250 @Parus heres the picture I did today

654321 | @654321 | Jan 24, 2019

That is really pretty..

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jan 24, 2019

In reply to @lioness "@hopeful33250 @Parus heres the picture I did today" + (show)

Just lovely, @lioness

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jan 24, 2019

In reply to @lioness "@hopeful33250 @Parus heres the picture I did today" + (show)

What medium did you use? Is it watercolor?

lioness | @lioness | Jan 25, 2019

In reply to @hopeful33250 "What medium did you use? Is it watercolor?" + (show)

@hopeful33250 No it's Acrylic I think I'm going to add some stuff to it that's all we finished in class

Parus | @parus | Jan 25, 2019

In reply to @lioness "@hopeful33250 No it's Acrylic I think I'm going to add some stuff to it that's all..." + (show)

@lioness It can be difficult to finish a painting in a classroom setting. I am happy you have done a class!!

lioness | @lioness | Jan 27, 2019

In reply to @hopeful33250 "Actually, @parus, you are the one who told me about him a long time ago in..." + (show)

@debbraw I'm grateful that I feel good today as yesterday I had a fibromyalgia flare . Having Welsh Rarebet

helenannmarie55 | @helenannmarie55 | Jan 28, 2019

Yes I do My kids think it is in my head and want no part in anything related to my health care. My adult children have said mom you don’t tell us anything unless in the hospital and life threatening. I am always called if they need a babysitter. I love my grandchildren and if I babysit that is the only way I see them. I have to rely on taxi cabs to get me to appointments when I need a driver. It is a lonely disease that no one seems to understand the mental part of it all. I have built my faith in Good and pray a lot. With the the extreme cold every part of my body aches. You are not alone thanks for sharing

654321 | @654321 | Jan 28, 2019

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That is just horrible !!! Shame on them. Are you active in church? That really helps and praying g for your children . They ate the ones who need compassion .

AFRobin | @afrobin | Jan 28, 2019

I, too, am a grandmother. I have vowed not to be what I consider 'a burden' to my overworked, busy, exhausted children. I would take a taxi rather than ask them to drive me somewhere. (I have a car so can drive myself...) I want them to think of me as a bright and cheerful light in their lives. I do the grandmother thing; bringing soups and muffins and spaghetti sauce to help them out. I buy clothing for the wee ones on line. I just babysat a grandchild with a high fever and bronchitis...risking getting it myself. (I take oregano oil in the throat and oregano oil diluted in olive oil in my nose at the first sign of a cold...and have ALMOST had probably 2 dozen colds in the past 7 years plus 3 actual colds that I didn't catch right away!)
My children have told me to please tell them if something is wrong with me. They were upset with me when I kept things to myself. So, I tell them. No mind games. Maybe I sound harsh. If I do, sorry. I am just telling you how I handle the granny role.