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Aging and Changing

Posted by bakerwise @bakerwise, Oct 16, 2018

Discussion Group for people frustrated by eating out in public or feeling as if behavior with a diagnosed but not "solved" problem could result in exclusion from their family's dinner table. Examples: Spontaneous urination and laughter during dinner or tremor that causes food to be pushed off a plate.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Oct 23, 2018
In reply to @parus "Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For..." + (show)
@parus

Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For me acceptance of conditions and now being diagnosed as having disorders, syndromes and chronic conditions may not be designed to encourage me to feel like I am a failure-well, at times it does. I am chronically old what more can I say???!!!!
I can have an attitude and oft feel I am entitled to have thus-I am not. Being chronically old does not suddenly lavish me with rights.
Now where I was heading with this I have no idea-I forgot as I am also chronically forgetful...😉
I can comment that acceptance has been a start. I can also find myself back at the starting line at times and this is okay although I must use caution at to where I admit thus.

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I really enjoyed your post! So well said, @parus. The "chronically forgetful" is really the pits, isn't it?

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Parus | @parus | Oct 23, 2018
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I really enjoyed your post! So well said, @parus. The "chronically forgetful" is really the pits, isn't it?

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@hopeful33250 Yes it is a pitfall and honored to have you here in the pits with me and/or us. There are times when chronic forgetfulness does serve well though. Also one of my chronic escape routes. 😜

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Oct 23, 2018
In reply to @parus "Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For..." + (show)
@parus

Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For me acceptance of conditions and now being diagnosed as having disorders, syndromes and chronic conditions may not be designed to encourage me to feel like I am a failure-well, at times it does. I am chronically old what more can I say???!!!!
I can have an attitude and oft feel I am entitled to have thus-I am not. Being chronically old does not suddenly lavish me with rights.
Now where I was heading with this I have no idea-I forgot as I am also chronically forgetful...😉
I can comment that acceptance has been a start. I can also find myself back at the starting line at times and this is okay although I must use caution at to where I admit thus.

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@parus @lioness @grandmar @hopeful33250 Each day we have the opportunity to create ourselves. There is a purpose to our lives, even on the day we don't feel like there is. Chronic forgetfulness? Sure, it is there to let us invent ourselves again [that's my story and I'm sticking to it!] The aging process can be a blessing and a curse. How grateful to be alive to feel old! How grateful to feel! Do I recall or mourn the days when stamina seemed endless, well, sometimes. But each day now is more thoughtful, more purposefully spent, as I have accepted that we all have an unknown-to-us expiration date. My goal is to do my best each day, don't compare myself to others, be kind to myself and others, and make a difference.
Ginger

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Oct 23, 2018

So well said Ginger. Thanks for your post.

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lioness | @lioness | Oct 23, 2018
In reply to @gingerw "@parus @lioness @grandmar @hopeful33250 Each day we have the opportunity to create ourselves. There is a..." + (show)
@gingerw

@parus @lioness @grandmar @hopeful33250 Each day we have the opportunity to create ourselves. There is a purpose to our lives, even on the day we don't feel like there is. Chronic forgetfulness? Sure, it is there to let us invent ourselves again [that's my story and I'm sticking to it!] The aging process can be a blessing and a curse. How grateful to be alive to feel old! How grateful to feel! Do I recall or mourn the days when stamina seemed endless, well, sometimes. But each day now is more thoughtful, more purposefully spent, as I have accepted that we all have an unknown-to-us expiration date. My goal is to do my best each day, don't compare myself to others, be kind to myself and others, and make a difference.
Ginger

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@ginger thanks ginger well said you lifted my spirits

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grandmaR | @grandmar | Oct 23, 2018
In reply to @gingerw "@parus @lioness @grandmar @hopeful33250 Each day we have the opportunity to create ourselves. There is a..." + (show)
@gingerw

@parus @lioness @grandmar @hopeful33250 Each day we have the opportunity to create ourselves. There is a purpose to our lives, even on the day we don't feel like there is. Chronic forgetfulness? Sure, it is there to let us invent ourselves again [that's my story and I'm sticking to it!] The aging process can be a blessing and a curse. How grateful to be alive to feel old! How grateful to feel! Do I recall or mourn the days when stamina seemed endless, well, sometimes. But each day now is more thoughtful, more purposefully spent, as I have accepted that we all have an unknown-to-us expiration date. My goal is to do my best each day, don't compare myself to others, be kind to myself and others, and make a difference.
Ginger

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@gingerw
You must have been a writer and a therapist in one of you lives, if not this one.
I don't know how old you are, but I want to be like you when I grow up (lol...I'm 63).
You are the single most positive person I have read.
There are certainly many in the many groups, but for some reason, I feel like you are looking into my soul and answering the questions I think about (especially when my pain and health....are a pain).
Thank you for posting!!!
Ronnie
(GRANDMAr)

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jshdma | @jshdma | Oct 24, 2018
In reply to @parus "Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For..." + (show)
@parus

Aging has brought about many changes thus causing existing issues to appear and/or become worse. For me acceptance of conditions and now being diagnosed as having disorders, syndromes and chronic conditions may not be designed to encourage me to feel like I am a failure-well, at times it does. I am chronically old what more can I say???!!!!
I can have an attitude and oft feel I am entitled to have thus-I am not. Being chronically old does not suddenly lavish me with rights.
Now where I was heading with this I have no idea-I forgot as I am also chronically forgetful...😉
I can comment that acceptance has been a start. I can also find myself back at the starting line at times and this is okay although I must use caution at to where I admit thus.

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@parus - A relative of mine who was a doctor told me that the "golden" years are not golden at all. Reality is that if you are fortunate enough not to have died young or contracted some chronic disease at an earlier age, it all waits for you in old age. Many people affirm the benefit of acceptance. My instinct tells me to fight and not accept, as much as you can. Did we accept bad things in all the previous years? Bad grades? A bad job? Domestic violence? Not if there is any chance of resisting and not giving in.

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Oct 24, 2018

I'm no fighting age, I'm trying to make it work for me. In his book, To Bless the Space Between Us, Irish priest and poet describes age as a time of "gracious harvesting." I'm harvesting the seeds I've sown and continuing to do what I love to do. My 37th book, The Grandma Force, comes out next fall.

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Parus | @parus | Oct 24, 2018
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@jshdma

@parus - A relative of mine who was a doctor told me that the "golden" years are not golden at all. Reality is that if you are fortunate enough not to have died young or contracted some chronic disease at an earlier age, it all waits for you in old age. Many people affirm the benefit of acceptance. My instinct tells me to fight and not accept, as much as you can. Did we accept bad things in all the previous years? Bad grades? A bad job? Domestic violence? Not if there is any chance of resisting and not giving in.

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@jshdma I apologize if my accepting sounded like giving up/in. I have accepted there are things I can no longer do. Narian on giving up. I have found new ways to do things as I am not a quitter nor are you. Thank for the opportunity to clarify.

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Oct 24, 2018

Thanks Parus. Sounds like you and I are chugging along.

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