Aging and Changing

Posted by bakerwise @bakerwise, Oct 16, 2018

Discussion Group for people frustrated by eating out in public or feeling as if behavior with a diagnosed but not “solved” problem could result in exclusion from their family’s dinner table. Examples: Spontaneous urination and laughter during dinner or tremor that causes food to be pushed off a plate.

@parus

I certainly did not anticipate being in the condition I am now. I have had to gear way down physically as well as mentally. It has been an adjustment and being limited in what or how much I can do. Endeavoring to keep a positive attitude. Still have struggles with feeling worthless. I know others who are retired and do all kind of things, have lots of friends and family. They travel and have adventures they always wanted to have and go south for the winter. My mind cannot fully grasp how quickly things can change-working on it still.

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I so agree with what you said, "working on it still." It is a continual process isn't it, @parus? I'm in the same place in life, finding ways to find fulfillment in a body that does always move in the direction (or for the time period) I would want. The process continues, so we march on!

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@jshdma

@elwoodsdad What you say may just be an accurate description of living, a mixture of the good and the bad in different proportions. Your life may be tilted towards difficulties. Everyone needs to have a compelling interest in something outside himself–in that you can (even briefly) look away from your problems and feel your greater value. After a life of so much care-giving, maybe that outside interest should focus on developing your own talents, friendships, or even adventures.

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Thanks for your reply and interest. I do have some friends with whom I meet weekly, and have some church-related activities which I do as a volunteer. Volunteering is frustrating, or maybe I am frustrating. I find that when one gives away one's time, the recipient is not especially appreciative…now a large check is a different story. I am an Elder in my church (much to their chagrin, I'm guessing), and attempt to do those things we have been tasked with in the care of others. I work with a homeless program, a food bank, and work in the administration of ministry in this Presbytery. I stay busy enough, for the most part. Just enjoying the prospect of the unknown…

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@harriethodgson1

Well, sometimes life doesn't give you choices, and you have to do the best with the hand you're dealt.

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Thanks for the like.

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What is frustrating to me is the lack of energy to do all I once did in a day!!! Now in my 80's, my husband and I laugh that we thought we could just keep going as we always had, and then one day…drop!!! Doesn't seem to work that way – we're breaking down, one part at a time. and learning to deal with the limitations is so difficult.

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@barbarn

What is frustrating to me is the lack of energy to do all I once did in a day!!! Now in my 80's, my husband and I laugh that we thought we could just keep going as we always had, and then one day…drop!!! Doesn't seem to work that way – we're breaking down, one part at a time. and learning to deal with the limitations is so difficult.

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@barbarn thats a good way of putting ageing.Im just 76 but feel it I told my Dr how I just dont have the energy to do things I use to.

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Well, I am not alone in the fatigue arena for the aged. Sad when I read how many of us are affected by weariness. I am only 67. Is what it is. We do the best we can. Disheartening when the mind says go and the body cannot obey. Currently eye drops and BP medication has me zapped and in more pain than I have been for quite awhile. It has been a week with no improvement with what I am told are side effects. Choices are deal w/ side effects or eventually lose my sight and/or risk a stroke w/o the medications. I do detest these side effects and hoping my body can adjust. I know others that do not have these type of side effects. Discouraged for now. ☹️

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@parus

Well, I am not alone in the fatigue arena for the aged. Sad when I read how many of us are affected by weariness. I am only 67. Is what it is. We do the best we can. Disheartening when the mind says go and the body cannot obey. Currently eye drops and BP medication has me zapped and in more pain than I have been for quite awhile. It has been a week with no improvement with what I am told are side effects. Choices are deal w/ side effects or eventually lose my sight and/or risk a stroke w/o the medications. I do detest these side effects and hoping my body can adjust. I know others that do not have these type of side effects. Discouraged for now. ☹️

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@parus have you told your opthamalogist about how they hurt maybe theres something else they can give you.Oh are golden years where are they?

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@ethanmcconkey

Today's Connect member spotlight features a participant in this discussion as well as many others throughout Connect, @thankful. Learn more about @thankful in his interview with @johnbishop

Fly Fishing, Gardening and the Northwest: Meet @thankful https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/about-connect/newsfeed/fly-fishing-gardening-and-the-northwest-meet-thankful/

Follow the About Connect page to read all the Member Spotlights: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/about-connect/

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Hi @thankful – Great spotlight! I share your passion for walking – but mine are in balmy Florida and yours are in the Northwest! Thanks for sharing a beautiful story.

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