@jimhd, Now that's funny Jim. "...wish you weren't a minister?" Thanks for the funny. See you can do it!

@jimhd, I had to read that again. I've had run ins with a few preachers over the years and they can be kind of unkind. Anyway that comment is funny. Thanks for another laugh.

Could someone please remove me from this conversation.  I don't know why I'm receiving all of these emails.  I have tried to remove myself without success.

I would so appreciate it.  This is the second time I have reached out for help.

Thank you

@missy4396 If you go to the bottom of the email you will find an "unsubscribe" link. However, you will need to "unsubscribe" from each discussion group from which you receive emails. Give that a try.

Teresa

@badboys1965,
Hi, hope you're doing well! Earlier I told I pick up a lot of strays on French Gulch Rd. Picked up another one about four o'clock today. It's a black lab with a bob tail?, hope he was born that way. Who would do that on purpose? Anyway he's a good dog so I've contacted Animal Svcs, so hopefully the owners will do the same and we'll get him back home. He's well cared for and answers to the usual calls, Food...he'll keep me company tonight and probably all night long as he seems to be missing someone.
Anyway hope you're doing well and your grief gets lighter each day. Some days it doesn't seem like it's going away but it gets to be like poison oak, it itches less as the weeks go by, caught that a lot when I was a kid and some as an adult.
Sometimes I want to hold onto it but I know she's not coming back so I'm getting it set in my mind that's the way it goes. I just have a big problem with that nut job being around her. He abandoned her once, and his 11 wives since then, so why not again? He won! My research into his traits indicate he will likely stay to pattern. I wonder if it's not some kind of punishment handed me for daring to marry her. Hope he doesn't do that but also I think unkind things towards him. Went back to AA so I'll work anger out all over again. Great outfit.

So anyway have a good day and all.
Mark

@muppey -- I really like your word picture here about grief: Some days it doesn't seem like it's going away but it gets to be like poison oak, it itches less as the weeks go by. I realize you are in a lot of pain, still, naturally, but you seem to have yourself in a good place by dialoguing with others here experiencing grief and going back to AA.

So nice of you to care for the stray dog and try to get it back home. Glad you have a "buddy" there with you for a little bit, anyway.

Did you pick up anything at the AA meeting that you think might be helpful to others going through grieving?

@lisalucier,
Thanks for the reply! Animal control returned my call and no ones claimed him yet. I'll go out and put up some posters. Small town, somebody should know him.

At the meetings you come to realize that their is an enormous amount of grief and pain which has played out with the people for many years. The one great thing is that everyone is aloud to tell their story or not. One guy last night was quiet as silent night, just said hello to him but it's easy to see he's got a lot on his plate.
We are all in the same boat and nothing leaves the room, which is unlike my experience with the situation which quit literally changed my life. All the people here have had their lives changed and I know it's very difficult to come to terms with it all.

The idea with this group is long term support and they don't care how messed up your life and story is. They've all been there.

Muppey,

I haven't been on the Mayo site much the last few days, having a bit of a
downer right now.  I think I caught a bug of some sort.  You
have been on my mind and in my prayers and from what I have seen in my
notices it seems like you are doing well.  I am glad for that. 
I take it as a good sign that you are sharing and reaching out to other
people.

I am curious about something and did not wan to ask it on the main
feed.  Before I ask, I want to assure you that I mean no disrespect
to you.  My question is, how did you come to this site?  I am
glad you did, because you are so helpful and caring to everyone.  I
ask because you don't seem to have much for physical or medical needs so I
am wondering how you got associated with Mayo?

I wonder if and how these pages of assistance, sharing and information
could be available to people without medical needs that they have taken to
Mayo.

Take care and God Bless.
 

@2011panc, Get over the bug! My x called and said she'd caught a bug and not feeling good and all that. Well, you are living with a six year old germ factory now. Get a clue.
Thanks for thinking about me! I've got some people on a little list from this site. I appreciate that.
How'd I get here? Ummm, pain can drive a person crazy but there is a pain that doctors can't touch and know little about IMHO. Doctors at the hospital just thought I was crazy and one lady doc talked with me for a while and she huffed and puffed at what I was saying. "It's your imagination." she said. "Well doctor I'm not totally stupid and I can read and the x didn't take everything away." She waved me away and left the room.
Love letters speak volumes, but I didn't read the whole things, just noticed and stuffed them into her briefcase. Dumb ass thing to do to someone, don't you think.
Although I appear well physically it doesn't feel so good inside.
What brought me here was what appeared to be an open invitation for anyone who'd just been smacked down and destroyed. That's what I feel like because it has changed my whole life. That particular night I knew I was going down and I knew at around 4-5 am, still stuck in my chair, that if I didn't get help I might not be here much longer. I sort of knew I was in shock but so confused. The paramedic confirmed what I thought. I latter asked a nurse what it was but he said, "Your vitals are all stable and everything is fine." That's a...not going to tell you answer!
Two weeks later about the same thing happened but I stayed glued to this chair for over 48 hours before I called for help. Couldn't close my eyes because I'd get shocked along my spine and it'd jerk me around. 3 seconds was the longest I closed my eyes, I counted. TV spine doc got mad at me for disturbing him I suppose. Just a drunken idiot dismissed. I understand but I'm well groomed and not drinking, but I did admit to drinking a half pint of Peppermint Schnapps earlier at around 7-8 pm.

Anyway I searched the internet for a place like this, hadn't thought of AA yet. So glad I found you guys, kept my sanity sane, sort of.

A bob tailed black lab wandered into my yard yesterday with no collar, he spent the night here. I left my name at Animal Control and they connected me with the owner so he's coming by at 7 tonight after he gets off work. The bob tail was there at birth so no one did that to him.
Get better and thanks for asking.
Mark

@muppey I am just checking in to see how you are doing. I have not seen you on for a couple days or so and was worried. I feel like I am going crazy sometimes but I am good.