What strategies do you use when Dr not listening or taking serious?

Posted by sing26 @sing26, Oct 25 7:41am

Does anyone else have trouble getting dr to listen to them? For 50yr my birth defect went undiagnosed. I understood, it only showed up in the right conditions. Since 09 I've added all kinds of arythmias. It's been gradually changing to something new. Went to Er..chest pain, short breath, BP 211/194...left after aspirin+nitro ... and script i can't take. They tell you to get help, but no one listens.

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@rbl I believe women get the brush off far more often than men. I have experienced it first hand too.

What’s EP?

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@rashida
cardiac electrophysiologist
Especially elderly women. I'd be lost if I couldn't change doctors.

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@rbl I believe women get the brush off far more often than men. I have experienced it first hand too.

What’s EP?

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@rashida electrophysiologist, sorry for the abbreviation.

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The solution is to go to a different doctor and tell the new doctor what you experienced with the former doctor. Jot down all your health issues that you’ve been experiencing, before going and go over each one. Sometimes if you are totally up front with the doctor, it resets their attention to really listen to what you are saying to them. I’ve had to do this several times over the years, as a doctor you’ve been seeing for awhile, tends to only partially listen - many are too focused on how much time your visit is taking, as they are essential on the clock with each patient with their practice and the insurance companies. No matter what, even if it takes several different doctors, stand up for yourself and demand that they listen to what you need to tell them. We have to be our own advocate.

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@mbixler my experience here in that respect is the doctors stick up for each other! They will believe what the other doctor has written in your charts. In any case, it is not easy to switch doctors - never mind find one! When we moved to a new city it took us a whole year to find a doctor - and we were the lucky ones! There were people who had been living here much longer than we, and they were still looking! Our new doctor - fresh out of medical school - stopped taking new patients two weeks after we registered with her!

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Yes, they believe what others say, even if you show them different. I was taken by ambulance, started crashing right before we got to the hospital. Er Dr, said serious, sent me to a so called cardiologist. He was the worst. Didn't even see me till next morning, never even stepped in my room, ran a couple of tests, ( not the ones I needed) and sent me home, said I OD on caffeine. It took 2yr to find a dr to listen and run the right tests. Then the hospital fired her because she spent to much time with her patients. She did manage to send me to a good cardiac surgeon. He did my ablation. Good dr that listen are rare.and when I find one they never last. It's exhausting and frustrating to find a good one. Their oath means nothing only $$$

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@rbl I believe women get the brush off far more often than men. I have experienced it first hand too.

What’s EP?

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@rashida agree, we're still considered ignorant and drama queens. I hate it, it's not the stone ages. Though I will say it's not only that. My dad spent years arguing with his PCP. Dr wanted to refer him to a shrink ( Dad's word not mine) he got so bad before he found a real dr. Had tests, couple weeks later had open heart for 5 bypasses. They are not held accountable anymore. I tried to sue the Dr that nearly killed me . ( Not for $$ to stop him)I couldn't get a attorney to take it, because I was one person and they have insurance with lots of $$$

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@rashida agree, we're still considered ignorant and drama queens. I hate it, it's not the stone ages. Though I will say it's not only that. My dad spent years arguing with his PCP. Dr wanted to refer him to a shrink ( Dad's word not mine) he got so bad before he found a real dr. Had tests, couple weeks later had open heart for 5 bypasses. They are not held accountable anymore. I tried to sue the Dr that nearly killed me . ( Not for $$ to stop him)I couldn't get a attorney to take it, because I was one person and they have insurance with lots of $$$

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@sing26 true thst! Here you have to sign a waiver before getting any surgery or procedure, so if you need to sue the doctor if something goes wrong you are the only one who loses money!

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The only way to sue is a class action. It's wrong, they should be held accountable. Drug companies are being held accountable. But Dr isn't. Healthcare is getting worse.

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Yes, they believe what others say, even if you show them different. I was taken by ambulance, started crashing right before we got to the hospital. Er Dr, said serious, sent me to a so called cardiologist. He was the worst. Didn't even see me till next morning, never even stepped in my room, ran a couple of tests, ( not the ones I needed) and sent me home, said I OD on caffeine. It took 2yr to find a dr to listen and run the right tests. Then the hospital fired her because she spent to much time with her patients. She did manage to send me to a good cardiac surgeon. He did my ablation. Good dr that listen are rare.and when I find one they never last. It's exhausting and frustrating to find a good one. Their oath means nothing only $$$

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@sing26 I found a good electrophysiologist by signing on with and waiting to be seen by a renowned guy at a major teaching hospital in a large city. He brings so much money (rainmaker) into the hospital that they give him everything he needs to run a high quality operation. He has the money to hire the staff required to supply excellent care and follow-through, filled with only the most accomplished fellows and other intelligent staff committed to excellence. Even communication is prompt and thorough.
I hope seeking help from a similarly highly reputed electrophysiologist may work for you too.

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@mbixler my experience here in that respect is the doctors stick up for each other! They will believe what the other doctor has written in your charts. In any case, it is not easy to switch doctors - never mind find one! When we moved to a new city it took us a whole year to find a doctor - and we were the lucky ones! There were people who had been living here much longer than we, and they were still looking! Our new doctor - fresh out of medical school - stopped taking new patients two weeks after we registered with her!

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@rashida Have you tried a DO?

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@rashida Have you tried a DO?

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@clj9821 what’s a DO? I am terrible with acronyms!

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