Partial erection and erectile dysfunction is affecting my marriage

@muscledad That is not true. Maybe during puberty. If true, then you might want to get your hormones checked for balance. Or stop watching phone porn while at work.

Is your spouse not able to stimulate you sufficiently?

You’ve received good advice about getting help for your problem. One very experienced sex therapist whom I’ve worked with in the past does virtual sessions online in case you need a referral: https://www.martyklein.com/sex-therapist-licensed-marriage-family-therapist/
Most of us men have issues such as yours that are very treatable. Best of luck to you.

A 29 y.o. male should not have difficulty getting an erection. You said you saw a urologist who gave you the meds and he didn’t think anything was wrong. Did he perform any testing on you or do any blood work? He referred you to a therapist because he feels since your plumbing is fine it must be in your head (the one on your shoulders).
Have you masturbated lately? Do you still get turned on by the sight of a naked woman or man? Try the postage stamp test to check your erection. Get a small roll of postage stamps and wrap once around your dick flaccid and seal the ends. If you get a nocturnal erection the stamps will come apart. If it turns out you have ED you need to see a cardiologist ASAP. If some of the smallest vessels in your body are clogged than other more important small vessels are clogged or on that path. Reality sucks!

@medoo Ah, yes, erections. I can vaguely remember them. Interestingly, occasionally when I am watching an R-rated film with some scantily-clad beauties running around, I will feel "Dick" starting to rise. However, it's short-lived. I refuse to watch porn. Two bodies pushing back and forth while "screams of ecstasy ring out". Idiotic stuff.

@jenatsky my blood work came back fine I’m very attracted to my wife and and still very much aroused with her but sometimes nothing. Still no morning wood and sedanfil works sometimes .

@stephonadams19 with prostate cancer I went to Trimix. works for 2 hours every time. I have plenty of desire. Although you might check Testosterone . The normal range runs pretty low. When mine reached 350 I started to supplement. So a low normal might not work for you.

@stephonadams19 did the urologists check your testosterone levels? I’m 74 and I experience the symptoms you describe too but for my age it’s normal, not at your age though. Check out Dr. Rena Malik a urologist who specializes in sexual health on YouTube (she practices in Md) and you may find some answers from her podcasts. I also wanted to ask about recreational drug use. If you’re using cannabis it may negatively affect your wood. It happens to some people but not all.

@heisenberg34

Don't you wish your mate would act as eager and agressive as some of the gals in those flix? Just a rhetorical question. Some are just normal folks posting home videos as opposed to paid commercial stuff. http://www.xhamster.com

@heisenberg34
Here is my experience. Nitric oxide is required to have an erection. I found that taking one or two 750 mg capsule of (Now brand) l-Citrulline every day for a month seemed to help with erections and increase interest. Then I found a journal article about using it for mild ED. I also take one 5 mg tablet of Tadalafil at least once a week. This combination seems to bring back those feelings you are missing!
So I wondered if nitric oxide is helpful for women too so I found this article that says it is very helpful: https://www.revitalyzemd.com/the-nitric-oxide-connection-female-sexual-health-circulation-and-vitality/ You don't need to buy their tablets. Just use the l-citrulline daily.