Partial erection and erectile dysfunction is affecting my marriage

Posted by stephonadams19 @stephonadams19, 6 days ago

I’m 29 and take sadenafil 75 mg each time I use them but it’s effecting my marriage has anyone gone through this and if so what helped save the marriage

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At 29 u should have several full erections a day

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@muscledad That is not true. Maybe during puberty. If true, then you might want to get your hormones checked for balance. Or stop watching phone porn while at work.

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Is your spouse not able to stimulate you sufficiently?

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You’ve received good advice about getting help for your problem. One very experienced sex therapist whom I’ve worked with in the past does virtual sessions online in case you need a referral: https://www.martyklein.com/sex-therapist-licensed-marriage-family-therapist/
Most of us men have issues such as yours that are very treatable. Best of luck to you.

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A 29 y.o. male should not have difficulty getting an erection. You said you saw a urologist who gave you the meds and he didn’t think anything was wrong. Did he perform any testing on you or do any blood work? He referred you to a therapist because he feels since your plumbing is fine it must be in your head (the one on your shoulders).
Have you masturbated lately? Do you still get turned on by the sight of a naked woman or man? Try the postage stamp test to check your erection. Get a small roll of postage stamps and wrap once around your dick flaccid and seal the ends. If you get a nocturnal erection the stamps will come apart. If it turns out you have ED you need to see a cardiologist ASAP. If some of the smallest vessels in your body are clogged than other more important small vessels are clogged or on that path. Reality sucks!

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While I am here, does anyone know if taking an ED medication can help with desire. I am 78 and have lost my desire for sex. Or, perhaps my lack of erection caused my lack of desire. It's not that I don't want to have sex. It is frustrating to want it but cannot really desire it... if you get my drift.

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@heisenberg34
I’ve been looking into natural male-vitality supplements myself, and one I came across is Jeemya Men’s Vitality. It contains things like Tongkat Ali, maca, L-arginine, ginseng, and zinc, which are used to support male vitality, energy, stamina, and healthy circulation.

I wouldn’t expect a supplement to work like an ED medication or claim that it will restore desire, but I like the idea of supporting general vitality rather than jumping straight to something stronger. That said, at 78 I’d definitely talk with your doctor before taking anything—even something natural—because “natural” doesn’t automatically mean risk-free, and some supplements can interact with medications. Your doctor can also check whether the loss of desire or erection is coming from an underlying issue that should be addressed.

You can check out this one and see its ingredients and tell you doctor about it:
https://www.jeemya.com/products/male-vitality-supplement

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@heisenberg34
I’ve been looking into natural male-vitality supplements myself, and one I came across is Jeemya Men’s Vitality. It contains things like Tongkat Ali, maca, L-arginine, ginseng, and zinc, which are used to support male vitality, energy, stamina, and healthy circulation.

I wouldn’t expect a supplement to work like an ED medication or claim that it will restore desire, but I like the idea of supporting general vitality rather than jumping straight to something stronger. That said, at 78 I’d definitely talk with your doctor before taking anything—even something natural—because “natural” doesn’t automatically mean risk-free, and some supplements can interact with medications. Your doctor can also check whether the loss of desire or erection is coming from an underlying issue that should be addressed.

You can check out this one and see its ingredients and tell you doctor about it:
https://www.jeemya.com/products/male-vitality-supplement

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@medoo Ah, yes, erections. I can vaguely remember them. Interestingly, occasionally when I am watching an R-rated film with some scantily-clad beauties running around, I will feel "Dick" starting to rise. However, it's short-lived. I refuse to watch porn. Two bodies pushing back and forth while "screams of ecstasy ring out". Idiotic stuff.

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A 29 y.o. male should not have difficulty getting an erection. You said you saw a urologist who gave you the meds and he didn’t think anything was wrong. Did he perform any testing on you or do any blood work? He referred you to a therapist because he feels since your plumbing is fine it must be in your head (the one on your shoulders).
Have you masturbated lately? Do you still get turned on by the sight of a naked woman or man? Try the postage stamp test to check your erection. Get a small roll of postage stamps and wrap once around your dick flaccid and seal the ends. If you get a nocturnal erection the stamps will come apart. If it turns out you have ED you need to see a cardiologist ASAP. If some of the smallest vessels in your body are clogged than other more important small vessels are clogged or on that path. Reality sucks!

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@jenatsky my blood work came back fine I’m very attracted to my wife and and still very much aroused with her but sometimes nothing. Still no morning wood and sedanfil works sometimes .

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@jenatsky my blood work came back fine I’m very attracted to my wife and and still very much aroused with her but sometimes nothing. Still no morning wood and sedanfil works sometimes .

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@stephonadams19 with prostate cancer I went to Trimix. works for 2 hours every time. I have plenty of desire. Although you might check Testosterone . The normal range runs pretty low. When mine reached 350 I started to supplement. So a low normal might not work for you.

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@jenatsky my blood work came back fine I’m very attracted to my wife and and still very much aroused with her but sometimes nothing. Still no morning wood and sedanfil works sometimes .

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@stephonadams19 did the urologists check your testosterone levels? I’m 74 and I experience the symptoms you describe too but for my age it’s normal, not at your age though. Check out Dr. Rena Malik a urologist who specializes in sexual health on YouTube (she practices in Md) and you may find some answers from her podcasts. I also wanted to ask about recreational drug use. If you’re using cannabis it may negatively affect your wood. It happens to some people but not all.

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@medoo Ah, yes, erections. I can vaguely remember them. Interestingly, occasionally when I am watching an R-rated film with some scantily-clad beauties running around, I will feel "Dick" starting to rise. However, it's short-lived. I refuse to watch porn. Two bodies pushing back and forth while "screams of ecstasy ring out". Idiotic stuff.

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@heisenberg34

Don't you wish your mate would act as eager and agressive as some of the gals in those flix? Just a rhetorical question. Some are just normal folks posting home videos as opposed to paid commercial stuff. http://www.xhamster.com

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