What is Normal when the end is near?

@vcawnjo08 Normal is only a setting on a washing machine. I have learned to embrace the "normals" in my life and learn from them. It is not easy but I have a wonderful mind and a beautiful canvas of scenery to view. I'm proof you can teach an old dog new tricks.

@sillyblone Beautiful words and memories. Keep them close to your heart.

@vcawnjo08 Yes, you are so right! We had a wonderful service for my husband! Actually he is buried near a beautiful tree! He loved the outdoors! His flowers were still fresh! Just a little down the road was the church we were married in! I loved him more than I could ever imagine!!

That's great! Keep your heart open for the ways God will show you your husband is completely healed now and waiting for you. God Bless you my dear! ❤️

@kjc48 Thank you for your support! My family is really close! Meaning mostly my cousins, children and my siblings sometimes..lol I am the oldest and sometimes it feels like I am their mother! My mother and grandmom were there and taught me love unconditional love! Life is hard for the time being.. but I will persevere! Losing the love of your life is so very hard! mayoconnect has been a way to reach others and whether they know it or not have helped me!

@vcawnjo08 love this! I’m actually doing laundry this morning and noticed I have “Normal” and 10+ options. We get to choose😊

@sillyblone God gave you the gift of a close family - I'm glad they are there with and for you, even though you feel like their mother! That's a good thing, I'm sure for them to know they can always lean on you. And you show up every day!
My best, Karla

@trav77
what is a grief counselor and how do they help?
i’m in a similar situation and feel lost most days

@tunared A grief counselor will help you and your family to understand how to cope and deal effectively with the grief and the loss of your loved one! It may help you sort out your feelings and that is the beginning of the process! I was offered through hospice and I really was not ready ! Everyone is different how they deal with grief! Grief is different for everyone but, that being said I am more interested in finishing all the things that we are supposed to do to finish the ending of life! You know like then bank, the big one Social Security and all the other insurance stuff! It was like I need your name’s, proof that he was born, I was born and of course I was married to him! On and on! It is so ridiculously aggravating! The fact that we had done all the legal stuff seemed like it didn’t even matter!!I only have a few things left! I paced myself and it was almost finished!! The biggest one is the changes in your overall experience and pre-planning! I still have to bury my other loved one! Those things we are required to do seem trivial.. but it is necessary! I thing that I would like is a “widows” group! They get us and see it from the points I referred to as well, as the emotional support! I have plenty of support from my family , friends and my church! I’m not sure the answer for myself totally! I just know it is hard and life doesn’t always go the way we plan! I am not an expert! Please don’t let the process be overwhelming and do what fits! God gave us a brain and we have to use it and we cannot let others tell us what works for us! Good luck with whatever you choose! Hugs to you as well!

@kjc48 Thank you! 🙏🏻