Sister still drinking despite consequences, any advice?

Posted by craigcraig @craigcraig, Jun 28 5:58am

Hi. I had a liver transplant and am not a drinker. Never really was much of one except for college. My sister is 61 and recently divorced with two adult kids. Her drinking was the biggest factor in her divorce. She finally hit bottom in her family's eyes with a DUI and was too drunk to show up for her court date. Only a very good lawyer has kept her out of jail. She has also got drunk and fallen 3 times and has had 2 brain surgeries. Somehow minor enough to be shortly released. She somehow still lives to drink (in our eyes and behind everyone's back). Has had terrible fights and has cut off most of her sons, friends brothers, mom, etc. . Admits now she has a problem but still lies whenever her mouth opens and refuses inpatient or outpatient treatment. And continues to believe she can drink and "just cut down" despite 3 serious falls, two accidents , two brain surgeries, excetera in the last 6 months. My wife, brother , nephews, friends and I have strongly counseled her to get help before she kills herself or someone else. But she defies logic and insists she can live without treatment/help and has either broken off relations with or barely puts up with her circle of people. I know it has to be her decision and I (we) can't do it for her but any suggestions from you guys who have more experience in this topic than I do. Than you.

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@jennroseclark I am just curious. Does the sober living know you are having two a day? If there is an AA Big Book there, I suggest reading the first 164 pages. Can't hurt, might help. I lost my partner of 28 years from alcoholism. I found him dead in the floor. He did not believe it would kill him. I guess, part of me did not either, but he was 56. His liver was spent, pancreas, varicies in his esophagus and I had already taken him to the ER 6 times in the span of a year. This is just to let you know that sometimes the bottom is like his and people sometimes, do not come back. Alcohol and other drugs do that, more than not. I want you to live.

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@diverdown1 oh no I haven't had even a sip in over 30 days I get drug tested weekly and if they want any time so I no longer even take or look at beer in a store it's 15 minutes and you are on the street lettereally it's a VERY strict program all ua tests have alcohol tests on them so it's zero tolerance and yes they know my past and everything about my life currently I don't even take a sip it's not worth it,I already know our tests are very sensitive I have seen alcohol show up on one not mine 8 days after consuming. Lol no I am alcohol free 100*/*

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@diverdown1 oh no I haven't had even a sip in over 30 days I get drug tested weekly and if they want any time so I no longer even take or look at beer in a store it's 15 minutes and you are on the street lettereally it's a VERY strict program all ua tests have alcohol tests on them so it's zero tolerance and yes they know my past and everything about my life currently I don't even take a sip it's not worth it,I already know our tests are very sensitive I have seen alcohol show up on one not mine 8 days after consuming. Lol no I am alcohol free 100*/*

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@jennroseclark sorry my testing is not good going blind pretty fast as for as being able to see my phone.and letters.

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@diverdown1 oh no I haven't had even a sip in over 30 days I get drug tested weekly and if they want any time so I no longer even take or look at beer in a store it's 15 minutes and you are on the street lettereally it's a VERY strict program all ua tests have alcohol tests on them so it's zero tolerance and yes they know my past and everything about my life currently I don't even take a sip it's not worth it,I already know our tests are very sensitive I have seen alcohol show up on one not mine 8 days after consuming. Lol no I am alcohol free 100*/*

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@jennroseclark I LOVE to hear that!!! You can do this.

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Thank you I will say it sure beats missing all my Drs apponments and not getting infusions and just losing the will to live yes??

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@jennroseclark I am just curious. Does the sober living know you are having two a day? If there is an AA Big Book there, I suggest reading the first 164 pages. Can't hurt, might help. I lost my partner of 28 years from alcoholism. I found him dead in the floor. He did not believe it would kill him. I guess, part of me did not either, but he was 56. His liver was spent, pancreas, varicies in his esophagus and I had already taken him to the ER 6 times in the span of a year. This is just to let you know that sometimes the bottom is like his and people sometimes, do not come back. Alcohol and other drugs do that, more than not. I want you to live.

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@diverdown1 She means 2 prayers a day. She's got a solid program going.

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She should take ozempic. It really works.

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She should take ozempic. It really works.

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@laurabamford4015 For alcoholism and/or addiction?

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@laurabamford4015 For alcoholism and/or addiction?

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@diverdown1
Ozempic kills the desire to drink I’ve been told. And if you do drink you may feel sick later. Worked for my alcoholic friend. Plus you lose interest in eating all the time.

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@heyjoe415 t now 30 days I don't get per say get drunk on binges but keep it at 2 tall boys. But I have referred to UT southwest to the MS specialist clinics so rgt now I am pretty scared as I stated above I think my husband killed himself and shot my my dog our dog on a relapse to vodka last April. I been lost ever since. Needless to say they have a very long waiting list. So it's up to me to have 💯 percent control of my mind and body. It getting hard to even walk I am sitting here in a McDonalds awaiting orientation because in texas our SSI runs bout 990i think and my rent for a bunk bed with 3 women is 600 so I in my head think I can stand for hours and hours slinging burgers but it's better than sitting and thinking of things the pain I have rgt now in my arms makes me wonder how many drinks am I gonna drop I drop stuff all the have for years but @ a whopping 10.00 an hour I feel blessed texas is the new Mexico for minimum wage it's still 7.25 here so whoop whoop I actually have over 3 yrs of college but this is what it come down too I wish love and kindness to you all!!

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Thank you Jennrose. You are a very determined person. You have and will continue to overcome the obstacles thrown your way.

Please know that a lot of people care very for you.

Joe

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