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Sister still drinking despite consequences, any advice?
Hi. I had a liver transplant and am not a drinker. Never really was much of one except for college. My sister is 61 and recently divorced with two adult kids. Her drinking was the biggest factor in her divorce. She finally hit bottom in her family's eyes with a DUI and was too drunk to show up for her court date. Only a very good lawyer has kept her out of jail. She has also got drunk and fallen 3 times and has had 2 brain surgeries. Somehow minor enough to be shortly released. She somehow still lives to drink (in our eyes and behind everyone's back). Has had terrible fights and has cut off most of her sons, friends brothers, mom, etc. . Admits now she has a problem but still lies whenever her mouth opens and refuses inpatient or outpatient treatment. And continues to believe she can drink and "just cut down" despite 3 serious falls, two accidents , two brain surgeries, excetera in the last 6 months. My wife, brother , nephews, friends and I have strongly counseled her to get help before she kills herself or someone else. But she defies logic and insists she can live without treatment/help and has either broken off relations with or barely puts up with her circle of people. I know it has to be her decision and I (we) can't do it for her but any suggestions from you guys who have more experience in this topic than I do. Than you.
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@diverdown1 oh no I haven't had even a sip in over 30 days I get drug tested weekly and if they want any time so I no longer even take or look at beer in a store it's 15 minutes and you are on the street lettereally it's a VERY strict program all ua tests have alcohol tests on them so it's zero tolerance and yes they know my past and everything about my life currently I don't even take a sip it's not worth it,I already know our tests are very sensitive I have seen alcohol show up on one not mine 8 days after consuming. Lol no I am alcohol free 100*/*
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3 Reactions@jennroseclark sorry my testing is not good going blind pretty fast as for as being able to see my phone.and letters.
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2 Reactions@jennroseclark I LOVE to hear that!!! You can do this.
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1 ReactionThank you I will say it sure beats missing all my Drs apponments and not getting infusions and just losing the will to live yes??
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2 Reactions@diverdown1 She means 2 prayers a day. She's got a solid program going.
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3 ReactionsShe should take ozempic. It really works.
@laurabamford4015 For alcoholism and/or addiction?
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Ozempic kills the desire to drink I’ve been told. And if you do drink you may feel sick later. Worked for my alcoholic friend. Plus you lose interest in eating all the time.
Thank you Jennrose. You are a very determined person. You have and will continue to overcome the obstacles thrown your way.
Please know that a lot of people care very for you.
Joe
I do not believe I saw this discussed in the other comments - apologies if it was - one of the most profound times I experienced that pushed me into treatment and getting honest with myself was an intervention with many family and friends, organized by a woman who is a professional in planning and executing interventions. While there is of course no one right way to do these, an experienced professional can set the stage for a more likely positive result. I am sure an internet search for such persons in your area, or asking addiction counselors in your area may produce the name and contact info for such a person. It really shocked me to attention. They had it planned in our airport conference room for when I exited a plane coming back home. Thank goodness I had not drank on the flight and not a ton on the days before, but I had been drinking in those days. I was alert and articulate, though shocked, and felt grateful for these people taking the time and interest. It is ultimately out of love. I finally succeeded in my journey to recovery though I have had a few ups and downs after that treatment which was many many years ago. Had to go out and experiment while being on the cliff. I learned. I am lucky to be alive. Thank goodness! I agree with other comments made - you do not control this person and Alanon may be a good resource for you. All you can do is try to help. Ultimately it will have to be her to make the decision. An intervention may expedite that or at least send a shock to the status quo which is a path to death.