Agitation/Shadowing
My DH is entering stage 6 of Vascular Dementia. He is beginning to get agitated at times and so far I have been able to redirect him. I fear that his agitation will progress. I wanted opinions on medication for agitation. Our PCP said that the meds could progress him faster. I hate to give him anything to escalate this disease.
He is mildly hyper-sexual but very clingy and shadows me everywhere I go. My fear is how much worse this could get.
Any experience with these types of medications will be appreciated.
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All of these recent posts have resonated with me….some with a smile and some with heartache. Here are my thoughts—
1. For me sex is not a priority right now. I wish I still wanted that type of connection.
2. I also need an admin assistant or caretaker. I have way too much responsibility on my not so wide shoulders.
3. My husband is also slowly getting worse. He uses Rivastigmine patches, which may or may not be helping.
4. I saw a sweatshirt recently that said Drink Coffee, Read Books and Be Happy. It speaks to me.
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9 Reactions@georgescraftjr
I just read your response. I'm confused about a reply that you think offended me. Please share that reply with me because I am not offended by any comments I received. I don't recall sending you a reply. I need this site just like everyone does and my intentions are not to get sideways with anyone. Please accept my apology if there was something I sent to you that made you think I was offended. We are all in this horrible journey together and need to be supportive of each other. Thank you very much for your response to this.
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6 Reactions@ljchr
I am relieved that I did not offend you. (I had posted something about Karla's response--just to tease her; and at that point, I had not yet address the issue of your husband's agitation and shadowing. Afterwards, I realized that you might have thought that I was being too flippant about the dilemma presented by your husband's behavior.)
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4 Reactions@georgescraftjr
Thank you for the clarification. I appreciate your response and I didn't take it as flippant towards me. We all have more on our plate than most humans deserve and I understand trying to have humor to get through it.
You take care and keep the humor - we all need it.
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5 Reactions@kjc48
I think someone should invent dementia summer camp. We can all be down by the river with adult beverages and the camp counselors can be with our loved ones.
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7 Reactions@judimahoney I love that. I can always count on you to come up with THE BEST ideas...and ones that lead me into a chuckle when I read them. Okay, so last night was hotter than hell! The AC stopped working in the rental. You would have thought my husband was sitting in a fire with two fans on his body that he claimed still didn't work. Of course with no logic and reasoning, he couldn't muster the ceiling fan remote, and I needed an MBA to figure out how to get that fan on. Dementia Summer Camp, camp counsellors to help figure things out, Caregiver wives, all sound so good to me. great to me. I guess for now, just you guys on this site, is just what I need this morning. Thanks for your post this morning. Best, Karla
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6 Reactions@georgescraftjr @ljchr It's good that we can still find something inside of us to muster up a bit of humor, especially during "tense" times. It would be great if we could all sit in front of each other - where we can see each other's faces, show support and our good will in all of this. Posting can be tough at times as it's all subject to interpretation. As caregivers in this together, I appreciate the kind, savvy advice from all of you who "walk this walk." Best, Karla
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5 Reactions@kjc48
I sometimes log on to the virtual caregiver meeting that this Mayo site hosts on Thursdays (at 11 or noon depending on if you're in Arizona or we're in a time change).
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"Make the world go away
And get it off my shoulders
Say the things you...say
And make the world go away."-- Eddie Arnold
Thanks for your kind words, Karla. Your compliment is undeserved, but much appreciated. (Glad you wrote this post before you saw the one wherein I used a comma instead of a period at the end of a sentence. Even worse, in that post, I inadvertently omitted the word "not" before "stay" in the sentence immediately following the comma.)
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3 Reactions@judimahoney
Band Camp!!!!!! We all get the loudest instruments we can handle. Me???? Drums, Baby! Or shred on an electric guitar with the amp turned up to 11! Now, I have no musical ability or rhythm to speak of, so ear plugs are a must.
All are welcome - the more the merrier. We need a camp name… thoughts?
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