I’m boyfriends caregiver & they are spreading rumors about me.

Welcome to the forum. An attorney's letter to the suspected family members could do wonders.

You are trying to help someone who is ill and they accuse you of poisoning him? That is awful! Royce's suggestion of a letter from an attorney is a good idea. However, that can be expensive. Perhaps you should just remove yourself temporarily from the situation. Let the family take care of him while he's ill. You two can reunite when he's recovered. Before you leave do let your boyfriend know what the family said and why you are temporarily stopping to care for him.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope things work out for you.
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@justjenn, I'm sorry your being accused of something. This sounds like a complicated situation. Has your boyfriend recently become ill or has he been living with a condition that requires caregiving for a while?

@justjenn What a wonderful thing you are doing! What is your boyfriend’s diagnosis? Serious? How old are you and boyfriend. Does he need 24-hr help or do you do several hours a day? Does his family help at all? Are you paid? And what are his preferences? There are just so many things here before a good decision can be made.
Who, in his family, is causing you trouble? You know, people who are left out of things are often jealous. Course, his family has taken it too far by saying mean things about you. You know, I often volunteered to help people, then I wondered why. The most problematic was my helping my husband’s aunt during her final weeks and months. I couldn’t imagine NOT doing it but it made my husband’s mother furious. Oh,well. The aunt needed help and i could provide it. But, I think your situation is different. If you know who his doctor is or what hospital he was in, give them a call. They can probably help you find a therapist for both of you. The therapist can help you understand ,juiwhat your next steps should be. And what you can and can’t do.
I think if we know a little more about the situation, it will be easier for us to help you.

@becsbuddy
I agree with Becky. We don't really know enough to provide meaningful comments. Sounds complicated..sooo sorry!