@justjenn What a wonderful thing you are doing! What is your boyfriend’s diagnosis? Serious? How old are you and boyfriend. Does he need 24-hr help or do you do several hours a day? Does his family help at all? Are you paid? And what are his preferences? There are just so many things here before a good decision can be made.
Who, in his family, is causing you trouble? You know, people who are left out of things are often jealous. Course, his family has taken it too far by saying mean things about you. You know, I often volunteered to help people, then I wondered why. The most problematic was my helping my husband’s aunt during her final weeks and months. I couldn’t imagine NOT doing it but it made my husband’s mother furious. Oh,well. The aunt needed help and i could provide it. But, I think your situation is different. If you know who his doctor is or what hospital he was in, give them a call. They can probably help you find a therapist for both of you. The therapist can help you understand ,juiwhat your next steps should be. And what you can and can’t do.
I think if we know a little more about the situation, it will be easier for us to help you.