Is it ok to feel angry?

Posted by Gratia @gratia, Jun 17 5:00pm

Venting. Here it comes again, the anger. It arrives in slow waves. Anger at my mother for not being more proactive about her life choices. Anger at dementia. Anger and frustration at the medical system. Anger that I’m losing sleep and exhausted all the time & above all, angry that I lost my job and the life I built due to her disease and slow decline.

And then I get angry at the deep guilt I experience because I feel angry!

I try to take deep breath and be in the moment. It’s a game of constantly reframing how I see this. I keep repeating to myself the word “acceptance”.

How do you cope if you experience these difficult emotions?

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georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | 22 hours ago

In reply to @kjc48 "@georgescraftjr Hot damn, I'm having a cold glass of Pino Grigio! Wish you were here! Best,..." + (show)

@kjc48

Good for you!

georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | 22 hours ago

In reply to @gratia "@kjc48 @georgescraftjr I’m having Cabernet in a coffee cup! It’s the little things. Cheers my virtual..." + (show)

@gratia

What's your favorite cab? (I live 20 minutes from Napa.)

georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | 22 hours ago

In reply to @sillyblone "@georgescraftjr You are so welcome! Update: some days I cry and I also talk to him..." + (show)

@sillyblone

Your love is eternal. Your beloved will be a part of you for as long as you live. He would want you to be happy. So, carry on!

kjc48 | @kjc48 | 22 hours ago

In reply to @gratia "@kjc48 @georgescraftjr I’m having Cabernet in a coffee cup! It’s the little things. Cheers my virtual..." + (show)

@gratia You go girl! Cabernet in a coffee cup. We just need to cherish the small things in life! Gosh, we so deserve it. Best, Karla

sillyblone | @sillyblone | 21 hours ago

In reply to @georgescraftjr "@sillyblone Your love is eternal. Your beloved will be a part of you for as long..." + (show)

@georgescraftj His burial is coming up soon ! Not ready yet to move on!

Gratia | @gratia | 21 hours ago

In reply to @georgescraftjr "@gratia What's your favorite cab? (I live 20 minutes from Napa.)" + (show)

@georgescraftjr ahh! I dream of going there to do a wine tasting tour! How beautiful to live so close!

Gratia | @gratia | 21 hours ago

In reply to @kjc48 "@gratia You go girl! Cabernet in a coffee cup. We just need to cherish the small..." + (show)

@kjc48 I just close my eyes and envision a moment on a balcony in the riviera. Then one sip and back to reality!!! lol 😝

shmerdloff | @shmerdloff | 21 hours ago

In reply to @georgescraftjr "@georgescraftjr Sorry for all my sleep-deprived-induced errors: "remarrked," unfinished phrase ("retired judge"), etc. Please take care..." + (show)

@georgescraftjr
This is Life. Glad to be here with youse.

georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | 21 hours ago

In reply to @shmerdloff "@georgescraftjr This is Life. Glad to be here with youse." + (show)

@shmerdloff

"Many times I thought of cutting out, but my heart won't buy it
But if there's nothing shaking, come this here July [almost here]
I'm [NOT] gonna roll myself up
In a big ball and die"

...because of our little community, and especially, because of people like you! Seriously, more often than I care to admit, I think that death would be merciful--just not sure whether that would be more so for George or for me!

With love and admiration for you, and all the members of this forum.

George's Wife