Reactions when you tell people you have Parkinson's Disease?

Posted by kathy49 @kathy49, May 19 10:34am

This is not a question so much as a chance to share experiences. My doctor warned me about the reactions I would get. I am 77 so it is not an early diagnosis. He was right. People have all sorts of ideas about the disease most of which are not accurate. I have mostly only told other medical professionals as it is important in terms of what I am taking and how it might impact other conditions I have. The nurses' reactions are sometimes shocking. "Oh I am SO SORRY. My grandpa died of that" and similar. I really get offended and correct their thinking. I have told few friends and mostly just family. Do other PD patients get those kind of reactions? I find it easier not to tell people now that the tremor is controlled. Any input on this.

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@emmit

While I am not young what I have learned is more symptoms may not be experienced f or many many years. My father had PD and many family members never knew. He took the Sinemet and PD never really impacted his daily life.

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@kathy49 Glad to read your encouraging comment.

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This disease is like a unwanted friend who never leaves. Sure, you can forget about it for a short while, but it always seems to find ways to hit back harder. I remember the days where I got so concerned if people saw my arm swing or not. Did that arm swing seem normal? Am I walking in a weird way? Look in the mirror, assess, yes, I am all right. What about now? Look at that person to see if they suspect me. Ironically, by looking at them, I am making things weirder.

These are the things this disease makes you consider for years until you get used to just existing and dealing with it. But every day is a battle, and if you don't keep on guard, you will find yourself sitting at a desk or in the bathroom for long periods of time waiting for the medicine to kick in , pretending to be all right.

I wish I knew the secret of what causes you to switch from the "off" state to the "on" state. I think that just laying there and doing nothing doesn't help much. You can't quite exercise, but moving around seems to helps. So does distracting your mind. Sometimes. But stress can delay everything, and unless you figure out what the source of the stress is, you remain in the "off" state. If you have asthma or are generally under the weather, that delays things too. Or if you slept badly. Or if you didn't exercise enough the previous day. Or if you didn't eat enough food. Parkinsons can be an equation that you have to solve every day, with only have a vague notion on how to do it.

I think hearing everyone's perspective has been helpful,. Not that misery loves company, more that I am not a complete outlier. Thanks for reading.

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Yes, like me, people are uninformed and only knew about the tremors. Then I started watching a friend from church once a week for an hour or two while his wife went to a staff meeting. He had advanced Parkinson disease, and was having a very tough time with lots of symptoms. That was my educational experience with the disease. He passed away a couple of years ago.
Now, I was diagnosed with Parkinson disease about 6 months ago. It was like a severe kick in the gut. I'm doing well, and learn more about what helps me, and what doesn't help.

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@barryl

Thank you for this as it is a good way to cope

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This disease is like a unwanted friend who never leaves. Sure, you can forget about it for a short while, but it always seems to find ways to hit back harder. I remember the days where I got so concerned if people saw my arm swing or not. Did that arm swing seem normal? Am I walking in a weird way? Look in the mirror, assess, yes, I am all right. What about now? Look at that person to see if they suspect me. Ironically, by looking at them, I am making things weirder.

These are the things this disease makes you consider for years until you get used to just existing and dealing with it. But every day is a battle, and if you don't keep on guard, you will find yourself sitting at a desk or in the bathroom for long periods of time waiting for the medicine to kick in , pretending to be all right.

I wish I knew the secret of what causes you to switch from the "off" state to the "on" state. I think that just laying there and doing nothing doesn't help much. You can't quite exercise, but moving around seems to helps. So does distracting your mind. Sometimes. But stress can delay everything, and unless you figure out what the source of the stress is, you remain in the "off" state. If you have asthma or are generally under the weather, that delays things too. Or if you slept badly. Or if you didn't exercise enough the previous day. Or if you didn't eat enough food. Parkinsons can be an equation that you have to solve every day, with only have a vague notion on how to do it.

I think hearing everyone's perspective has been helpful,. Not that misery loves company, more that I am not a complete outlier. Thanks for reading.

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@nova11723
My husband told a friend that I have Parkinson’s. The friend asked, “Is that why she walks funny?” And I have been so proud of my gait improvement with PT! Oh, well.

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Yep "oh well". Confirms my opinion not telling anyone except medical doctors.

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Yep "oh well". Confirms my opinion not telling anyone except medical doctors.

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@kathy49 Well, it's your choice, but telling close friends has its advantages. One person ended up telling they had two in their family with Parkinsons, so it worked out. I wonder many people actually have Parkinsons.

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@kathy49 Well, it's your choice, but telling close friends has its advantages. One person ended up telling they had two in their family with Parkinsons, so it worked out. I wonder many people actually have Parkinsons.

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@nova11723
I think way more people have it than are actually diagnosed. Often it can be as you say and you feel not alone and realize it is not that uncommon but so far that has not been the case for me. I also think it depends on how controlled your symptoms are. It is an adventure.

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@nova11723
I think way more people have it than are actually diagnosed. Often it can be as you say and you feel not alone and realize it is not that uncommon but so far that has not been the case for me. I also think it depends on how controlled your symptoms are. It is an adventure.

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@kathy49 "I also think it depends on how controlled your symptoms are. "

Very true.

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When I was a child, my mother, rest her soul, said to me, "If you care what other people think, they will take space in your head and control your thoughts, emotions, and actions for the rest of your life." I was being bullied in school, and this statement made a huge difference in my life. Bottom line, don't care what others think! When it comes to PD, it really is no one's business. For those who can't handle it or criticize it, that is their problem, not yours. Remember, don't let anyone rain on your parade. You are beautiful!

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@kathy49 Well, it's your choice, but telling close friends has its advantages. One person ended up telling they had two in their family with Parkinsons, so it worked out. I wonder many people actually have Parkinsons.

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@nova11723
"I wonder many people actually have Parkinsons. "
I think many millions more than have been diagnosed.
Who have symptoms, but never happened to encounter a doctor with the training to recognize them. 🙁

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