Early Alzheimers: He thinks he can do things he no longer can

Everybody! Good morning! I just read the comments here and it is unbelievable how similar what you all say is to our situation…my husband (not diagnosed formally yet) also thinks he is fine but is far from it.
He has taken over the banking and checkbook- after 47 years- hes decided i cant do it myself and he needs to take it over! 😳we have had some issues with it, but its because he messes with it- moves money around, into applepay, out of applepay— into applepay, out— and never writes it in anywhere. He doesn’t remember to. this causes the checkbook to become overdrawn — (has many times) — of course, from his shenanigans but he thinks the problem is me. I am now locked out.
Besides that— he nowis obsessed with projects he is completely unable to accomplish— now he wants to wrap our car which is $400 but also read a book and do it himself instead of bringing it in. I feel like im about to die of a stroke from the stress. you guys….there are moreof us in this boat out here…your stories help a lot.

@rebeccagrover gosh, reading this makes me wonder how I would handle the "moving in and out of Apple Pay" - with short term memory loss, from what I've seen with my husband, you don't want him moving any money, anywhere. You can't be locked out, as if something happened to him, you need immediate access. I've been on my husband for us to "BOTH" do the bills, as I keep telling him, if he was to pass first, he has to show me what to do, to make it easier for me, or I would be stressing over how to do it. It's a bit of a stretch in the "I wouldn't be able to do it." Of course I would, but I don't know how to get him to give up control, so I'm making him think the problem is me. I created a typed sheet of all of our bill pays, and another sheet that shows Auto pay, etc. since he has a "ratted up book, I can't even read......He thinks the book is great, meanwhile, missed payments, double payments, and mistakes we find out about three months later. So, I've really had to get involved with any money transfers anywhere. PS, I keep tellling him, my getting involved has more to do with me, than him since we're up there in years, and if one goes before the other, we need access. Best, Karla

@rebeccagrover gosh, reading this makes me wonder how I would handle the "moving in and out of Apple Pay" - with short term memory loss, from what I've seen with my husband, you don't want him moving any money, anywhere. You can't be locked out, as if something happened to him, you need immediate access. I've been on my husband for us to "BOTH" do the bills, as I keep telling him, if he was to pass first, he has to show me what to do, to make it easier for me, or I would be stressing over how to do it. It's a bit of a stretch in the "I wouldn't be able to do it." Of course I would, but I don't know how to get him to give up control, so I'm making him think the problem is me. I created a typed sheet of all of our bill pays, and another sheet that shows Auto pay, etc. since he has a "ratted up book, I can't even read......He thinks the book is great, meanwhile, missed payments, double payments, and mistakes we find out about three months later. So, I've really had to get involved with any money transfers anywhere. PS, I keep tellling him, my getting involved has more to do with me, than him since we're up there in years, and if one goes before the other, we need access. Best, Karla

I could have written your post six months ago. You feel like you need a crash helmet on at all time.
Dementia has no rhyme or reason and I feel like I live with a preschooler.
I get annoyed with the constant interruptions with orders to look at a bird or event happening in our neighborhood. My husband taught shop classes for over 20 years and slowly could not do simple tasks around our house. He is at the point now where he does not realize that he was ever capable of doing said tasks.
My husband is not as angry as he used to be. He has not threatened to leave me or shout in the past few months. I am going to enjoy this stage, not knowing what the next stage will look like.
I do tire of him showing me pictures or telling me things multiple times a day.
Two doctors and a lawyer told my husband that he could not drive. My husband is upset about, but surrendered his license on his own. I am trying to get used to being the primary driver.
This forum and the UPCAP support groups are fabulous and help.
I keep reminding my self that I am in this for the long haul and to put my seatbelt on.

@upgirl2013 Oh gosh, it's been such a horrible day, and I'm usually Ms. Positive.
Really, horrible. But I laughed out loud when I saw we feel like we need a "crash helmet." Amen, maybe that would cover my continued bald gray head. Yes, put our seatbelt on. My husband wants to show me birds too, what's up with the brain and birds? Right now, I just wish one, two of three of you were here at the table with me, trying to figure this all out. Thanks for being there, every one of you. Karla

Everybody! Good morning! I just read the comments here and it is unbelievable how similar what you all say is to our situation…my husband (not diagnosed formally yet) also thinks he is fine but is far from it.
He has taken over the banking and checkbook- after 47 years- hes decided i cant do it myself and he needs to take it over! 😳we have had some issues with it, but its because he messes with it- moves money around, into applepay, out of applepay— into applepay, out— and never writes it in anywhere. He doesn’t remember to. this causes the checkbook to become overdrawn — (has many times) — of course, from his shenanigans but he thinks the problem is me. I am now locked out.
Besides that— he nowis obsessed with projects he is completely unable to accomplish— now he wants to wrap our car which is $400 but also read a book and do it himself instead of bringing it in. I feel like im about to die of a stroke from the stress. you guys….there are moreof us in this boat out here…your stories help a lot.

@rebeccagrover
My heart goes out to you and all the others struggling. My husband diagnosed about 5 months ago after prostate cancer. He now gets angry if you question what he is doing. He has left for an hour and returned and apologized. This is a very difficult disease. I really find comfort I all the suggestions from everybody!! Thank you and wishing you all strength