Survivors of toxic relationship with a Narcissist: Let's Connect

Also, May 18. "I married a narcissist ."

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Thank you...will definitely google it

It’s a tough thing to do if you’re not ready. I struggled for years to leave, but always went back. I didn’t fully appreciate the danger I put myself in by staying in tne relationship . Fortunately, I did leave permanently. I stayed until my ex had destroyed the love I had. It dwindled away completely and I eventually had no feelings for the man. At that point, I walked away with no pain, no emotion and no desire to be missed by him. I felt nothing at all about it. I wasn’t even sad. I had cried out all my tears. I was anxious to move on with my life and share it with a kind, emotionally open person who was right there. It was hard to believe I ever loved the ex. I had been under a delusion that he was one thing, but he wasn’t. He was a fake.

I never regretted getting my life back. Beware of people like that. They are good at grooming and love bombing.

Today, I would suggest getting a legal opinion….you may need a restraining order AND a consult with a professional about leaving a toxic relationship. Those with NPD can react violently if disappointed. Have a plan and place to go. Establish a support system. A good therapist is always a plus, imo.

Best wishes with your decision.

I suggest watching Dr. Ramani on YouTube. She is a psychologist that is an expert on Narcissism and Narcissitic Personality Disorder. She has many videos. My father was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I have, over the years, been drawn to those types of people due to it being familiar (unconsciously). She helped me understand a lot about myself and narcissism. I truly believe you will find some help watching her videos.

This totally describes my situation....thank you

For me….I had no idea that a wonderful life was right there. My misery was being instigated by a person who delighted in that misery. Being free and happy was my choice. The NPD in my life would never allow that.

Good luck with your brighter days ahead.

It is difficult to dis-engage with a narcissist. Probably because it seems important to have the record straight for a reasonable person. A narcissist is not a reasonable person. When you’ve come to the end of your rope, and it sounds like you may be ready, let go. And try to understand that by continuing to believe you can have a reasonable connection with an unreasonable person, you are not being truthful with that person. Be truthful, let go. It’s better to deal with your sadness because you stand a chance to save your sanity. Recite the Serenity Prayer, in its entirety, several times throughout the day. “Taking this world as it is and not as I would have it.” Find someone that has had to do this and let them help remind you that it is not wise for you to think you can fix a narcissist.
If you are able to successfully stop engagement you might be able to be a person that can help someone else with this difficult task. You don’t have to feel brave… just Be Brave.

Reference Narcissist.
Like me and a lot of others you look at yourself and asked what am I doing wrong? Is it me?

What I suggest is go on any major medical web site and look up Narcissist. It will list the symptoms of it and also their responses to those who say something back.

It really helped me understand it was not me and what ever I did was not going to help. The narcissist needs mental health treatments to see why they developed it and treatment to try and address they why and do things to counter the personality disorder.

I am at peace with myself after reading medical and mental health reports on causes and symptoms of narcissist. I did in depth readings on Mayo, WEBMD, Cleveland Clinic, etc. What I saw and read was exactly what I was seeeing and dealing with.

I am married to a male narcissist and it's starting to make me feel crazy . I need someone to tslk to and get support. I need help to figure out what to do .