~ Whining again: Mistake when I moved here ~

Good morning @amberpep . I’m so sorry the move hasn’t worked out as you wanted. What have you done to get involved in your community? Maybe try to get involved with those groups that help seniors who also feel alone and isolated. I looked at one this morning that has volunteers doing weekly, small grocery trips for seniors.
You know, I moved 16 times in my married life and sometimes I just hated where I was. But, I was stuck until we moved again. 🥴. I always tried to find at least one thing that would get me out. One person, one activity. Then I began to slowly meet others and things improved. I really hope you’ll look around. I know it’s hard, but it’s doable and worth it. You can always whine to us!

Good thoughts, @becsbuddy!

@amberpep There must be at least one positive thing in your new environment. You get to see your grandchildren more than you would have staying in Maryland, correct? So that is a positive. Can you build on that? Can you volunteer at their school or get somehow involved with a group that you find interesting? Almost any town has people who need some help or assistance. Or groups that gather together for similar hobbies and such. Please take time to look for these groups. Something that will help make a difference not only in their life but in yours. I know from experience that needing to feel needed is critical. Just remember that you come first and your mental well-being has to be paramount so that you don't get too involved.
Ginger

There are those times we need to persevere and settle for what we have and not what we want. Not an easy task.

Point well taken, @parus.
"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

@parus. I really like your statement! We also need to accept what we have and then do our best! Thank you!

I like that quote by MLK. I have gotten involved in a new start-up Western Ortho. Church, which will hopefully lead to friendships as it did when I was in MD. I also am going to a group called Transitions, for people who have been in therapy but who need a bit more help getting acclimated and making the necessary changes. It's amazing when you're in a group of hurting people how quickly and openly you bond. I've only been there 2x and I already feel safe. That won't go on forever, but for now, it's good. Re. my grandkids, I really don't see them too often. I didn't know them when they were in their early formative years, and now that they're 14 and 9, they're very close to my X - who only lives 20 min. away ..... THAT I didn't realize until I got here. I thought he was much farther away. So, I've decided to only go to Christmas, my grandkids birthdays, and that's it. He's always there, and as such, just takes over ..... he's just "Mr. Wonderful" ..... being a narcissist. When I see him I have the urge to tell him "what for" or smack his head. But, I won't .... I just stay away from him. I'm still contemplating reopening the alimony portion of our divorce and have that evaluated.
abby

Hi @amberpep

The new church start-up as well as the Transitions group sounds just ideal for you. Church and support groups have always helped me to see beyond myself and my disappointments and have helped me put it all in perspective. I hope that it does the same for you.

It sounds like you've set some good boundaries with the time you have set to see "Mr. Wonderful." Good for you. I know it isn't easy.

Here is a new MLK quote for you, I hope you like it: "Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."

@hopeful33250 Hi Teresa, I really like those MLK quotes! Are you getting them from a book?......Karen

@karen00 No, not a book. However, there are books of inspirational quotes, probably your library might have a book like that.