Sucide calls to the police that she's going to kill herself

@asf1234 Hospice Medicare is federal so those rules for qualifying may be federal. Our two local hospices differ quite a lot in how they interpret them. One large hospice qualifies people with dementia who are not obviously facing death in 6 months. It might be worthwhile to try. My mother's dementia wasn't that advanced. She did have congestive heart failure but that was managed and basically her only medical issue.

To get a loved one into memory care in an assisted living facility, one strategy is to let them bother or harass staff, preferably administration, at the facility. One person in my mother's facility didn't wander or fall, but constantly went into administrative offices and was very needy. They tried to set her up near the front desk with coloring books but that didn't work and she finally got memory care.

The secret to "unassisted living" is dependence on family members. We paid a lot for care but with dementia my mother refused help with shower etc. Guess who showered her? They are "tenants" and can say no no matter how cognitively impaired they are.

I'm so sorry.