Social Anxiety Disorder and How to Cope or Stop It

Posted by Nay313 @nay313, Sep 28, 2012

Hello Everyone, I am currently suffering from social anxiety disorder, it bothers me from day to day and I don’t know how or when it started. I’m always worried about how people view me and what they may think of me. I don’t talk to many people and its not that i don’t want to but I worry about saying something wrong or doing something stupid and nowadays if you don’t look like you know what your saying people would bash you and hurt your feelings in the most painful way, I don’t really go out as much unless i’m with my identical twin and some of our friends and even that kind of gets me anxious. Sometimes I hide these feelings because i don’t want people to know but really it affects me everday. I hate that it affect my thinking and even how i view myself, relationship with my family and friends. I worry if this would be something I’ll deal with for the rest of my life and these same reoccurring feelings will come back. Have anybody suffer this, and know how to cope or stop it?

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Ann my saviour over the years has been talking through the issues and concerns that I have had. We do need to do this to get help and feel better. Thanks for your kind words Take care Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hello Piglit, there is a limit to what psychiatric medicines can do. They do not cure people. They make things easier to manage through therapy and other pursuits. My meds are in balance. So I am focusing on therapy visits every two or three weeks. I have a lot to work on. This is because I have a psychotic mood disorder – Schizoaffective disorder. Clinical anxiety, clinical depression and hearing voices are characteristics of this illness.. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder where I experience other depression until the warmer, lighter months offer more light. There is a biochemical basis for this. Although nothing can be as good as regular sunlight. I use a light box and take an extra antidepressant to off set the blues. My therapist uses a light box. I need her expertise in dealing with all of this stuff. Thank God for therapists too.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Ann. I have been blessed with a wonderful G.P. who has been my saviour for over thirty five years. Unfortunately didn’t have much luck with the therapist side of things lost faith in the one I was seeing as was taken advantage of for all the wrong reasons. I was put onto so many different meds to try to help and they did nothing but eventually took my health hence the commencement of my clotting problems. I am happy for you that you have the trust in your therapists to give you the support and care to help you. Take care Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I talked to my primary doctor. He gave me this madications. But. Is the shorten of breath from the anxiety or is it something els. I did all me blood test i have done the EKG. Everything comes put good normal. But the thing is that. I have stress and. I think a lot of thought. I dont feel my self. Is it from the anxiety or stress.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Anna could news that the results have come back all okay. I am not a dr but have had shortness of breath due to anxiety, so from past expereince in answer to your question I would be inclined to think that it is a combination of anxiety and also being stressed for the way that your feeling. Tell you dr that you are still having these feelings as it’s important for him to be aware and it also helps to talk about it. Try to relax with exercise and slow deep breathing can help as well, both of these heave helped me as well as lavender oil or cream. Take care Always here anytime Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Yeah my doctor he knows about everything what i feel. And he said try to help your self try to give out you bad thought. Stop thinking about negativ think positiv. But still. I keep thinking. Of bad thought. I dont go out to much. I hide my feeling from people. I feel ia only me like this. I dont i this gonne go away. I try going out but still is the same every where i go. I dont know what to do. Sometimes i feel sad.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi sweetie try to think more positively it does help and also try to go out a little even if it’s for a walk it does help. We do have to help ourselves as much as we can, I know that it can be hard but give it a try Take care always here Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I agree with Piglit. Make a point to think positively. When you have negative thoughts tell them to bug off. Do you worry too much? I do. You and your doctor may want to talk about worry. If you do worry too much there ;is a book written for kids, but it can be used for adults also. My therapist suggested it. ” What to Do When You Worry Too Much – A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety.” The author is Dawn Huebner, Ph.D. It is a fun way to fight worry.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Dear Annie……I have missed our communication. How are you? We are getting winter here on the coast of Canada…..rain, rain, rain. You are coming into summer. Are you feeling any better and are you on medical leave? Miss you. Mary Ann

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. ‘that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Mary Ann I am okay have started back at work in residential care working in a nursing home and enjoying the work very much, but finding it physically wearing. How are you/ You are on my friends list and can talk to me anytime Lovely to hear from you take care Annie

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For the people who want them –psychotropics drugs aree OK…but I would try ALL other avenues first..because what usually happens is: you start getting obsessed about the drugs!…in one way or another. I would try hypnotherapy…or perhaps joing a support group…I have a friend and the group helped her tremendously. Good luck!

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@bettyann

For the people who want them –psychotropics drugs aree OK…but I would try ALL other avenues first..because what usually happens is: you start getting obsessed about the drugs!…in one way or another. I would try hypnotherapy…or perhaps joing a support group…I have a friend and the group helped her tremendously. Good luck!

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Hi I also suffer same I have been helped greatly with psychotherapy and meds I still get attacks if I am driving and I don’t know where the destination is even with a gos. Chey

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@lain59

I take Ativan which helps a bit but now I am trying Mindfulness, a Zen like approach. Let it flow through you like current and dissipate. Life is absurd. People are absurd in their constrictive tiny boxes. Life moves on. What matter what they think? To agonize over social mistakes, will it matter? No. I don’t think so. You sound like a real person to me. Real. That is what matters. People behind their social masks hidden in their snug little worlds are sad. Be free and be whoever you wish. Life is learning. We learn from our successes but tend to ignore them instead, blowing up painful mistakes.

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I like that meditation can be so elating the body and mind are so intertwined when one is out of balance so is the other. Chey

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@bettyann

For the people who want them –psychotropics drugs aree OK…but I would try ALL other avenues first..because what usually happens is: you start getting obsessed about the drugs!…in one way or another. I would try hypnotherapy…or perhaps joing a support group…I have a friend and the group helped her tremendously. Good luck!

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I too agee with Betty to try different avenues. Group interaction can be very benefical. to many people. It maybe well worth a try. Take care

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@bettyann

For the people who want them –psychotropics drugs aree OK…but I would try ALL other avenues first..because what usually happens is: you start getting obsessed about the drugs!…in one way or another. I would try hypnotherapy…or perhaps joing a support group…I have a friend and the group helped her tremendously. Good luck!

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You need to talk to your psychiatrist about this. The chemicals in your brain de-
termine how you think. It is up to both you and your doctor to know your symptoms . Then the psychiatrist determines whether there is a chemical imbalance in your brain. Ask your doctor whether you need psychotropic drugs. Not taking drugs when you need them is dangerous. Let your doctor lead.

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