Social Anxiety Disorder and How to Cope or Stop It

Posted by Nay313 @nay313, Sep 28, 2012

Hello Everyone, I am currently suffering from social anxiety disorder, it bothers me from day to day and I don't know how or when it started. I'm always worried about how people view me and what they may think of me. I don't talk to many people and its not that i don't want to but I worry about saying something wrong or doing something stupid and nowadays if you don't look like you know what your saying people would bash you and hurt your feelings in the most painful way, I don't really go out as much unless i'm with my identical twin and some of our friends and even that kind of gets me anxious. Sometimes I hide these feelings because i don't want people to know but really it affects me everday. I hate that it affect my thinking and even how i view myself, relationship with my family and friends. I worry if this would be something I'll deal with for the rest of my life and these same reoccurring feelings will come back. Have anybody suffer this, and know how to cope or stop it?

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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As a person who has been diagnosed with clinical anxiety, the symptoms that you are posting are indicative of somebody who needs a health care professional. A psychiatrist might be able to give you a prescription in order to help you. You may want to go to a therapist as well. If you have anxiety you may have other psychiatric disorders. According to a former psychiatrist most people with mental illness have more than just one thing that is wrong. Be as open with the professionals as you are with us.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I take madications for anxiety. Its xanax. But i dont wanna get addictit to that.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I suggest that you tell your doctor that you are afraid of getting addicted to Xanax. You are the customer and have a right to know.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I agree with Ann talk to your dr if you have any concerns in regards to your medications. Take care

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Piglet, thanks for suggesting that anna777 open up with her psychiatrist. We all need to get everything out of our psychiatrists and therapists that we can. This all comes down to survival.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Ann my saviour over the years has been talking through the issues and concerns that I have had. We do need to do this to get help and feel better. Thanks for your kind words Take care Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hello Piglit, there is a limit to what psychiatric medicines can do. They do not cure people. They make things easier to manage through therapy and other pursuits. My meds are in balance. So I am focusing on therapy visits every two or three weeks. I have a lot to work on. This is because I have a psychotic mood disorder - Schizoaffective disorder. Clinical anxiety, clinical depression and hearing voices are characteristics of this illness.. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder where I experience other depression until the warmer, lighter months offer more light. There is a biochemical basis for this. Although nothing can be as good as regular sunlight. I use a light box and take an extra antidepressant to off set the blues. My therapist uses a light box. I need her expertise in dealing with all of this stuff. Thank God for therapists too.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Ann. I have been blessed with a wonderful G.P. who has been my saviour for over thirty five years. Unfortunately didn't have much luck with the therapist side of things lost faith in the one I was seeing as was taken advantage of for all the wrong reasons. I was put onto so many different meds to try to help and they did nothing but eventually took my health hence the commencement of my clotting problems. I am happy for you that you have the trust in your therapists to give you the support and care to help you. Take care Piglit

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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I talked to my primary doctor. He gave me this madications. But. Is the shorten of breath from the anxiety or is it something els. I did all me blood test i have done the EKG. Everything comes put good normal. But the thing is that. I have stress and. I think a lot of thought. I dont feel my self. Is it from the anxiety or stress.

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@annheaney

Yes, I have social anxiety and tend to run away from authority figures. When I really like someone I get self critical. My therapist and I are working on other things. When I have things settled then I will address social anxiety. I am afraid to answer the phone, for example. Some of this is biochemical and some has environmental factors. Just imagine. You would not treat a friend as bad as you treat yourself. 'that part has been covered between my therapist and me. Like you I have a lot to work on. And it is not our fault. As to whether it will last the rest of our lives I do not know. If I were you I would tell your mental health professionals what I have told you. Maybe you need more medicine and/or therapy. I have the right medicine and need therapy every 2 or 3 weeks. Con-
sider what I have told you.

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Hi Anna could news that the results have come back all okay. I am not a dr but have had shortness of breath due to anxiety, so from past expereince in answer to your question I would be inclined to think that it is a combination of anxiety and also being stressed for the way that your feeling. Tell you dr that you are still having these feelings as it's important for him to be aware and it also helps to talk about it. Try to relax with exercise and slow deep breathing can help as well, both of these heave helped me as well as lavender oil or cream. Take care Always here anytime Piglit

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