How long have you been sober or substance-free?

Posted by trellg132 @trellg132, Aug 11, 2019
@stsopoci

Move ahead and be your healthy self right now. Learn from your past but stay in the present. Kicking yourself from past addictions will not help. Be kind to yourself and move forward.

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I don't I'm just thankful for being able to move ahead of where I use to be

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@lisalucier

I think that @stsopoci @savana1 @hisgrace6992 @kamama94 @jcbonne1 may also like to join this discussion about how long a person has been sober.

@jim1208 – I'm wondering if you'd share a bit more about your mention of emotional sobriety. What does that mean for you? What have you found challenging with this?

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Hi,@lisalucier! I am a grateful recovered alcoholic and drug addict. I took my last drink and took my last illicit drug the night/early morning of January 15, 1994. Although it's now difficult for me to get to meetings due to mobility and health and transportation issues, friends in recovery come to visit and we stay in touch by phone and messenger and they help me practice these principles in all my affairs one day at a time. It's been quite a journey! I wish everyone success in staying sober, whether physical or emotional, as well as peace and many blessings.

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@lisalucier

I think that @stsopoci @savana1 @hisgrace6992 @kamama94 @jcbonne1 may also like to join this discussion about how long a person has been sober.

@jim1208 – I'm wondering if you'd share a bit more about your mention of emotional sobriety. What does that mean for you? What have you found challenging with this?

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My emotional sobriety is peace, gratitude, and serenity Not having a need to control people, and places A lot of healing, spiritual growth, and forgiveness. Too many details to mention. Emotional sobriety can be very broad depending on the needs of a person. I will cover a few areas. Resolving past issues with the change of behaviors. Identifying character defects such as self-centeredness, self-righteous, ego, resentments, and other issues. Maybe mental health issues: meds and/or therapy. Those are just a few. It may mean fewer lows and fewer highs. Practicing principals: 12 steps. People can go to AA but not be in the program. What is challenging? constant honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. Living it! AA is not for the people who need it, it is for people that want it. SOBRIETY and more! It is a simple program for complicated people-lol!

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@johnwhitfield

My emotional sobriety is peace, gratitude, and serenity Not having a need to control people, and places A lot of healing, spiritual growth, and forgiveness. Too many details to mention. Emotional sobriety can be very broad depending on the needs of a person. I will cover a few areas. Resolving past issues with the change of behaviors. Identifying character defects such as self-centeredness, self-righteous, ego, resentments, and other issues. Maybe mental health issues: meds and/or therapy. Those are just a few. It may mean fewer lows and fewer highs. Practicing principals: 12 steps. People can go to AA but not be in the program. What is challenging? constant honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. Living it! AA is not for the people who need it, it is for people that want it. SOBRIETY and more! It is a simple program for complicated people-lol!

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Spirtual growth and mental and physical heath with me

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well, I"ve started over 3 times since March. I"m a newbie. Temptation is always there and last night , I was organizing my late sister's photos… um.. well,, had to stop,, wanted to drink.. but I held off.. I'm hoping all this gets easier. There is so much temptation with all the new alcohols being.advertised on TV, and with the emotional stuff I"m going thru. It is a battle now,, but ,, I will win…..

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I've been sober 20 years but I find that a much more important question is to ask myself every day "What are you doing to stay sober today?"

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@mcmurf2

well, I"ve started over 3 times since March. I"m a newbie. Temptation is always there and last night , I was organizing my late sister's photos… um.. well,, had to stop,, wanted to drink.. but I held off.. I'm hoping all this gets easier. There is so much temptation with all the new alcohols being.advertised on TV, and with the emotional stuff I"m going thru. It is a battle now,, but ,, I will win…..

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Remember you only do this one day at a time and half of that time you are sleeping. Just take it one minute at a time is need be. I have been there myself and know how difficult it can be. I had the compultion the first two years of my sobriety and didn't think I could make it, but I did. I will soon be celebrating 27 yrs. of continuous sobriety. How did I do it? One Day at a Time. Hang in there, you got it.

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Those type of excuses bought me a new liver. Stay sober! All addictions are facilitated by an excuse.

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It was May of 1985 and I had serious thoughts of hurting my wife and infant children. I remember going into the bathroom of the motel my wife and I were at and I was so scared I saw the devil in the mirror. At that point I woke my wife and told her my thoughts and please watch over me. I was doing a lot of drugs at the same time (snorting all kinds). It happened a second time a month or so later. That "fear" has always been with me. Certainly after all these years I would say to myself "Oh, you can have a glass of wine to be social". Hundreds of times and after the first year or two I would say "You've come so far. Why screw it up?" Like all addictions – the urges don't come as frequent; but when they do…………."Be PREPARED" I do envy those that can have that glass of wine with dinner; but it's just the way I'm wired. EVERYTHING I enjoy…..I go off the deep end.

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One day at a time 21st of this months I've been sober 6 months that god for keeping me

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@dmkane

It was May of 1985 and I had serious thoughts of hurting my wife and infant children. I remember going into the bathroom of the motel my wife and I were at and I was so scared I saw the devil in the mirror. At that point I woke my wife and told her my thoughts and please watch over me. I was doing a lot of drugs at the same time (snorting all kinds). It happened a second time a month or so later. That "fear" has always been with me. Certainly after all these years I would say to myself "Oh, you can have a glass of wine to be social". Hundreds of times and after the first year or two I would say "You've come so far. Why screw it up?" Like all addictions – the urges don't come as frequent; but when they do…………."Be PREPARED" I do envy those that can have that glass of wine with dinner; but it's just the way I'm wired. EVERYTHING I enjoy…..I go off the deep end.

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Yes you have came to far but congratulations

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@mcmurf2

well, I"ve started over 3 times since March. I"m a newbie. Temptation is always there and last night , I was organizing my late sister's photos… um.. well,, had to stop,, wanted to drink.. but I held off.. I'm hoping all this gets easier. There is so much temptation with all the new alcohols being.advertised on TV, and with the emotional stuff I"m going thru. It is a battle now,, but ,, I will win…..

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You can win this fight

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@JustinMcClanahan

Hello @trellg132. I'd like to invite @jim1208, @luckonetj, @johnwhitfield who have recently discussed their sobriety as well. If you are comfortable sharing a bit more, and only if you are comfortable, would you mind sharing with the other members what you are sober from?

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I took my last drink April 6th, one week after being told I had cancer.

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@mom23boys

I took my last drink April 6th, one week after being told I had cancer.

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Can it be treated? I hope so.

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