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Well, fiesty76. You've done it again. btw: do you have red hair….or was that God's first choice of hair color? I think 'yes'. If not, He made a mistake 'cause you should have red hair. You're personality says so….and I love red-heads. Beautiful and special. My mother had beautiful red hair, was a red haired personality, whatever that is. Blessings, and Happy New Year!
@ess77, Your post has me laughing out loud Because…when I became engaged and learned that my "intended" had been previously engaged to a redhead, I became verrry intolerant of redheads in general!
My best friends threw a Raggedy Ann and Andy baby shower when hubby and I became pregnant. What a royal hoot that was!
After a very long labor and eventual C-section, I first came out of surgery to find best friend's hubby at my bedside telling me that he "simply couldn't wait for me to meet my new little princess for the first time!" My hubby was out of the room at the time and that was my first news of the baby "girl".
About that time, the nurse brought in our newest addition and when I saw this tiny adorable with Red Hair, I said: "Don't know Who put you up to this but take that baby back and bring me my Real baby!!! Friend went into peals of hysterical laughter and nurse gave me one of those alarmed looks of "oh this woman really has something seriously wrong with her!"
Turns out that both sides of the family had some redheads and it wasn't the postman's fault after all! vbg
In fact, I can now proudly boast that not only does my daughter have gorgeous red hair but she married a great auburn haired fella' and now there are two extraordinarily "handsome" red haired grandboys in our clan!
A natural blonde turned brunette and now turned silver, I'm not sure either what a "red haired personality" is but agree that your mom and my little family are proof positive that reds are truly special and wonderful blessings for the rest of us. Thank you for your post! You made my day! Hugs!!!!
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@fiesty76 Hmm, what is a "red-haired personality"? I was a redhead growing up, my husband and daughter still consider me to have red hair although now it is more of a light auburn, that which is not yet grey. I was the only red-head in my family and I had a family of 5 cousins, all red-heads, except one. I always felt like somehow there was a mixup there, although the brunette and I were years apart.
My red hair was pretty much like Nicole Kidman's, but I had freckles too. She may have them but cover them up.
I feel flattered that my daughter often puts a reddish tinge in her brown hair. She and her brother have coloring more like my husband's.
@fiesty76 I love these.
You had some crazy 'best friends' back in the day! Love the story….love redheads!
I originally had beautiful blue-black hair.My father had black hair and my mother was a gorgeous red-head. Did I ever have a shock when I was in my early teens and everyone wanted to be sexy blonde, Marilyn Monroe, of course. So, I did what some friends thought would be a great solution to wanting to be blond..and our mothers said absolutley not….I got some peroxide, poured a half bottle on a big wad of hair in the front of my head, and waited….and waited…..and waited…..finally, after hours, literally, of waiting and gettting really nervous, I washed my hair and had quite a shock.
It was the brightest, orange-ist, red-ist head of hair you've ever seen!!! I now know I have too much red in my hair, genes, to ever be blonde w/o extreme work by professionals, which I would never do. What a time that was! It took forever for me to look in the mirror again…..
I began going gray in my 30's, every time my son or I got sick or whatever, I got more gray hair. I truly earned every gray hair! So, I began to enjoy the salt/pepper look, which with light skin was nice.
Then, turned 50, looked in the mirror and didn't recognize myself, so went to store and got what I thought was a lovely color of Loreal. I went to church choir the next night, walked in expecting everyone to applause with the vast improvement, and met howls of laughter! Cries of horror! Apparently, I chose a color with Ash in it. Not good for my hair or my skin tone.
My hair, under the flourescent lights, was green!
Yep! So, I had it returned to God's first choice, black, and lived with black hair for years.
Then, about 3 years ago, I really wasn't doing well physically or emotionally, so I decided I needed a change and simplification in my life. I decided to go to God's 2nd choice, white. I let it go au naturale…..was lovely growing out with both colors, then was totally a silver gray/white.
I loved it. My son hated it. All of a sudden, he had an old mother!
I've 'striped' it with some black once in a while just for fun and to add interest….no purple, just black and it does look good like that. But, now, after finding I needed infusions of iron for deficiency, and taking iron +C tablets daily, it's back to natural salt/pepper! Didn't know it, but apparently the iron is adding some color back!!!
Believe me, this is all true. Crazy, true and fun.
Now, I do, if not feeling really perky, at times think of a change. Maybe, purple? Or…no, it's stays as God chooses now. And, now, I'm happy to have hair!
Blessings to you, my friend. I do enjoy you. Elizabeth
@ess77 I also discovered that peroxide turns dark hair red. I was using peroxide on spots on my scalp that were continually developing sores, without paying much attention to what was happening to my hair. Until I took a trip with my parents and they both remarked on it. Unfortunately, it not only changed the color of the hair, it removed all the oils and nutrition from my hair and made it very dry and frizzy. I stopped using the peroxide and got a cut that removed most of the damaged hair. I've always been satisfied with what God gave me, even though I would dearly have loved to have my father's auburn color.
@ess77, I enjoyed your changing hair color stories…especially the choir laughter at your new "flourescent" lighted new green locks!
Lovely Elizabeth, your post reminded me of the one time I thought I'd restore some blonde highlights to my darker locks also at about the age of 50. The colorist must have gotten carried away because the reveal was a mop of horrible dish water gray…that one sitting aged me 20 yrs!!! Lesson learned.
Years later at the symphony I asked a good friend what color she'd call my hair. Amidst her infectious giggles, she stammered out: "Well gray of course!" Others in our little group joined the laughter….I preferred to think they were inspired by her giggles and not my own blindness! Impertinence I told her later! lol
I absolutely believe what you wrote and as for adding a stripe of black from time to time, a good friend, who can still wear her hair longer has her hairdresser leave a natural silver streak near her face when adding new black periodically. Really a striking and great look for the friend.
At our age and stage, I'd say if you want to go purple, why not??? It might prove the boost you and all your friends would truly appreciate!
Like you, I have long been thankful for my thick, fast growing hair and most thankful of all that I still have a head full. Now, with quarantine, I'm trying to manage the use of fingernail scissors in trimming around the ears and bangs. We never grow too olde to learn new tricks, right?
Best to you and all as we enter a new year filled with hope for much better times!
@2011panc, I read your post with added interest when your mentioned that peroxide removed the natural oils, making your hair very dry. I live in a very dry area and during winter, I add oils to my bath and apply lotion & baby gel combos on a soft back brush for the body.
However, while I don't ever have dandruff, my scalp gets very dry and itchy too. I've used both Nizerol and Selsun Blue and both seem to work for the itchiness, even with the use of conditioners, my hair seems to have that fly away dryness. Any suggestions for something to restore more oil? A light application of VO5 for dry hair helps after blow drying it.
Having a chuckle here about how far our conversations have diverged from the original post about "animal smile bringers". OTOH, some of these posts have also brought smiles…so maybe "no harm", "no foul"?????? lol
@fiesty76 I am no hair or head specialist, but since you asked . . . (watch out now! lol) here are some ideas I have:
Brushing: Many years ago when women all wore their hair long and bathing was much less frequent, women were instructed to brush their hair 100 strokes a day. It turns out this brushing served several purposes. I not only removed hair knots, it removed the dead hairs that had broken off or been pulled out by over-quaffing. It also distributed the oils from the root of the hair shaft to the ends of the hair, helping to reduce the "greasy" look at the scalp and keep the ends more moisturized and healthier. So maybe daily brushing
Shampoo: Check your shampoo to be sure it is not stripping natural oils from your hair. Many people with fine, dry, flyaway hair use baby shampoo for the gentle cleaning it provides. You are not cleaning crude oil off your scalp.
Conditioner: Check your conditioner to be sure it is providing good moisture. When applying conditioner, do not apply it to your scalp; only apply it from the middle to the end of your hair shaft. That is where it is needed and will do the most good. If applied to your scalp it may actually close the pores and interrupt the proper function of the pores on your scalp.
Blow Drying: Do you have to blow dry your hair? Can you "wash and wear"? By that I mean, comb it out and let it dry naturally? If you do need to use the blow dryer, use it on low setting and go over each area several times. Keep the dryer moving and direct it toward the scalp rather than the ends of your hair. Once your scalp is dry your hair will be also.
Product: You might have better luck with a spray-on gel used before you blow dry instead of the VO5. However, if it is working for you, do what works.
Please be aware these are just my ideas with no basis from professional hair training or experience. If anyone else knows better suggestions, please share. Thank you. Happy Hair and Hoppy Hares!
Well, I think you, fiesty76,…..uh,oh….I just ck'd. I'm the one who began this hair color diversion with my red-head remarks. No apology, my friend. I take full responsibility. We've had a great time with our hair, obviously, all our lives. It's an important part of our personality, our self-awareness, self-confidence, and even relationships! Plus, I haven't laughed such good belly laughs in a long time. Thanks for starting this thread…..Blessings on this kooky day! Elizabeth
@2011panc @fiesty76 As I age [why?!] my red hair is going silver, not gray. It has never been colored, and is naturally wavy [never had a perm or chemical treatments]. The health of my hair seems to rely on decent quality of water wherever I lived, and my general health. I try to use non-sulphate shampoos/conditioners, and wash it every five days or so. Often a leave-in conditioner or light oil is used. It is air-dry only [again, have never used blow dryer or curlers]. It is happier being shorter now, although three times I have grown it out to my waist, over the years. Hope this helps your situation.
@ess77, @2011panc,@ginger, Wanted to add that I just found a slew of Mayo posts in my Spam folder…Again! Boo! Hiss!! Have sent them back to reg. e-mail so hoping firefox "gets the message that these are Important".. Time will tell.
Elizabeth, I agree! Our "hair shares" have been fun! So thankful to have a place to share and often come away with smiles and laughter. Best tonic ever for lightening whatever the load! Who would have predicted that an "off the wall" question about hair taming could lead to such good ideas!!! Luv these forums and members!!!!
@gingerw, Interesting comment about the water quality! Makes a lot of sense even though I'd never considered its effects on hair. I live in a very "hard water" community and used to comment to daughter on visits that her "soft water" made my skin almost feel "silky" and much improved hair management. I bought a large quantity of bottled water…just in case… and may give a few of those bottles a try at next shampoo. Also never looked for "leave-in conditioners" Ahh, we're never too olde to learn!
Another aside, Ginger, is that years ago, I discovered that when my hair was short, my spirits were brighter; longer locks drew down my "happy-go-lucky" attitude…weird I know but true for me. Our quirks are "what make us who we are", yes?
Wishing a very good day and smiles to all!
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