Adults On The Autism Spectrum

Posted by Mamacita, Volunteer Mentor @mamacita, Apr 29, 2018

Maybe you were really shy as a child. Perhaps you took home a huge stack of books from the school library, read them, and returned them the next day. Or did your best friend find you crying in your closet, unable to answer the question “Why?” At any rate, your life could be traced to the Self-Help section of the local bookstore. Unfortunately, most of the books were not much help. ADHD seemed to fit, at times. Your shrink said you might be Bi-Polar, although she wasn’t really certain. All you knew was that you rarely fit in, anywhere. One day at work, it hit you square in the face: I don’t speak these people’s language! Really, it was like you were all playing this game, and everyone knew the rules but you. You couldn’t tell a joke, and you never “got” any joke your co-worker tried to tell you. People started getting annoyed with you, because you had a memory like a steel trap. They didn’t appreciate it when you called them on the carpet. Who knew? This was my life, and worse. I finally aced several tests that pointed me to the answer to my questions. The Autism Spectrum. Guess what? Little kids with Autism grow up to be Adults with Autism. Diagnosed late in life? This is the place for you!

@sirgalahad

bear hugs mamacita i lubs you and so so sorries that you have to acquire shingles ontop of fibromyalgia and its so bloody unfair as well as being a felloww autistic . lubs and cuddles you dear mamacita and lubs

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paw hugs miss janey so sorries

@karen00

@gingerw Hi Ginger! I’m not on the autism specter (i hope I said that correctly) but I searched for you and this is where I ended up. I’m admitting it-I’m sliding down into that black hole of depression and I need help. I read the instructions for sending someone a private message . It tsaid after you are brought to member’s profile page to click “send private msg”, which of course, was not on my screen. So here I am. I have so many physical things going wrong and all my friends are back where I used to live. I live with my younger brother and the relationship is horrible. I can’t get my strength back from my recent hospital stay. I’m having panic attacks, but running quickly out of medicine, for which I’ll have to go to dr to refill( more $) which we don’t have. My brother lost his job and works part time-he supports me as I am on disability. I’ve been the soc serv route and the waiting lists here are at least 1 year. I don’t know where we’re going to live, as we have no relatives. I can’t go through this with my physical problems as well as mental ones……Karen

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@karen00 – I, too, am sorry to hear about your feeling like you are sliding down into a black hole of depression. I've had depression myself, and the feeling you are describing is very discouraging. Were you perhaps talking with @gingerw before in this discussion https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/depression-and-anxiety-at-an-older-age? That might be a good spot to post about what you are going through so a number of the members there can also offer their input.

Shalom. Happy Easter. Happy Spring. Wherever you are on this still wonderful world of ours, be blessed. I hope and pray that your dreams come true, your needs be met, and that you have hope for tomorrow. Get outside and listen to the birds. Let the sun fall on your face. You are a child of the universe. You belong here.

Mamacita

Shingles update. I did not go to the ER after all. The swelling and redness stopped just short of the very rim of my eyelid. I used eye drops and the scratchiness went away. No infection on my cornea whatsoever. My scalp still itches like crazy in spite of starting the second round of Valtrex and double dosages of Benedryl. Lots of naps, which, apparently were needed. I am hoping to get back to my ordinary routine of slaying dragons and fighting werewolves within the next week or two. Thanking all of you for your good thoughts and prayers. Y'all are the best!

Mamacita

@mamacita

Shingles update. I did not go to the ER after all. The swelling and redness stopped just short of the very rim of my eyelid. I used eye drops and the scratchiness went away. No infection on my cornea whatsoever. My scalp still itches like crazy in spite of starting the second round of Valtrex and double dosages of Benedryl. Lots of naps, which, apparently were needed. I am hoping to get back to my ordinary routine of slaying dragons and fighting werewolves within the next week or two. Thanking all of you for your good thoughts and prayers. Y'all are the best!

Mamacita

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@mamacita So glad to hear you did not require ER services! As an autie, quite an ordeal besides not feeling well, huh? Would a rinse of chamomile tea for your hair help calm down the irritation, or perhaps the water of a cup of oatmeal soaked in a saucepan then sacrificed for the resulting water? Resting the body can do wonders to help heal.

Sending you cyber hugs and prayers of peace.
Ginger

@mamacita Glad to hear you are feeling better Happy Easter The rinse for your hair sounds good also may I suggest make a tea of ginger@tumeric rinse may help

@mamacita

Shingles update. I did not go to the ER after all. The swelling and redness stopped just short of the very rim of my eyelid. I used eye drops and the scratchiness went away. No infection on my cornea whatsoever. My scalp still itches like crazy in spite of starting the second round of Valtrex and double dosages of Benedryl. Lots of naps, which, apparently were needed. I am hoping to get back to my ordinary routine of slaying dragons and fighting werewolves within the next week or two. Thanking all of you for your good thoughts and prayers. Y'all are the best!

Mamacita

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So good to hear from you, @mamacita, and know that you are doing better. Keep resting for a while longer. Even though you feel better now you want to give yourself more time before you start your "ordinary routine of slaying dragons and fighting werewolves."
Be well! We certainly missed your wise, kind posts and look forward to hearing from you again when you are able.

@gingerw

@mamacita So glad to hear you did not require ER services! As an autie, quite an ordeal besides not feeling well, huh? Would a rinse of chamomile tea for your hair help calm down the irritation, or perhaps the water of a cup of oatmeal soaked in a saucepan then sacrificed for the resulting water? Resting the body can do wonders to help heal.

Sending you cyber hugs and prayers of peace.
Ginger

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Hi, @gingerw , yes, I think one of the good old home remedies is something I should try. Allergic to cammomile, unfortunately. But I have oats! When some Auties ( like me) are stressed out with sickness and uncertainty, we tend to either melt down or go into hibernation. Being a Psychology major, former Social Worker, and presently a Pastoral Counselor, I have so many options available in my head.

So I counsel myself. I am cheap. I listen. And I encourage myself to follow through with what works to make me feel better.

Just having this "table" to come to where I am accepted and heard means the world to me. Finding out you are Autistic after living so much of one's life thinking you are a failure, is an answered prayer. It is freedom. It is a day of jubilee. Blessings, love, and light to all who enter here!

Mamacita

@hopeful33250

So good to hear from you, @mamacita, and know that you are doing better. Keep resting for a while longer. Even though you feel better now you want to give yourself more time before you start your "ordinary routine of slaying dragons and fighting werewolves."
Be well! We certainly missed your wise, kind posts and look forward to hearing from you again when you are able.

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@teresa,Volunteer Mentor, thank you for your kind words. You are so right in your admonishes to take it easy. If I am not mistaken, even our own Mayo Clinic says it takes around six or seven weeks to fully recover. I may not be contagious but I am not 100% yet.

Resting is so hard for us with Hyperactivity Disorders! Acck! But I will try my best!!!

Love and light to you, darling.

@parus, how are you doing? I hope you are doing well and enjoying the beginning of Spring. I miss your posts. When I finally sit down long enough I will go back and read much of what I missed while I was gone. Take good care and I hope to see you soon!

Mamacita

@mamacita

Hi, @gingerw , yes, I think one of the good old home remedies is something I should try. Allergic to cammomile, unfortunately. But I have oats! When some Auties ( like me) are stressed out with sickness and uncertainty, we tend to either melt down or go into hibernation. Being a Psychology major, former Social Worker, and presently a Pastoral Counselor, I have so many options available in my head.

So I counsel myself. I am cheap. I listen. And I encourage myself to follow through with what works to make me feel better.

Just having this "table" to come to where I am accepted and heard means the world to me. Finding out you are Autistic after living so much of one's life thinking you are a failure, is an answered prayer. It is freedom. It is a day of jubilee. Blessings, love, and light to all who enter here!

Mamacita

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@msmacita You are so gracious I pray your shingles get better We use to do a oatmeal bath on people who where itchy that may help you maybe some aloe vera for comfort rub it on take care Nameste

@mamacita It doesn't take long to get behind. Mostly I am trying to keep my immune system strong to handle the stress of THE SYSTEM. Go here, go there and nothing is done other than bouncing me back to the primary care doctor. Enough to make a grown woman cry or go stark raving mad.

@parus

@mamacita It doesn't take long to get behind. Mostly I am trying to keep my immune system strong to handle the stress of THE SYSTEM. Go here, go there and nothing is done other than bouncing me back to the primary care doctor. Enough to make a grown woman cry or go stark raving mad.

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Parus, I can certainly empathize with you on all of that! I was yet again misdiagnosed for over a week by my beloved PCP. .
After a week of Keflex doing absolutely nothing for my "folliculitis", I saw the PA who took one look at my patchy red face and declared""Shingles."

It was Shingles all along and my wonderful PCP just didn't catch it. The introvert part of me says "Yay!" I'm contagious. But the extrovert me says "Boo" I'm contagious!

And now my husband reslly, really wants to build a brand new home in the country, an hour away. So I am looking at house plans and pouring over pictures of land, while eyeing my furniture and thinking " Can I really live without this?"

Marie Kondo has the right idea. Does it give one joy?

Blessings to you my friend. You are a light in the datkness.

Mamacita

@lioness

@msmacita You are so gracious I pray your shingles get better We use to do a oatmeal bath on people who where itchy that may help you maybe some aloe vera for comfort rub it on take care Nameste

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@lioness , some days I feel like the meanest Mama who ever lived. Other days I feel like I could rule the world.

Some days I am content to do laundry, even if it doesn't get put away. Other days. I regret not pursuing my Masters or finishing that book.

Do all people feel this way from time to time or is it just me? It doesn't really matter, I suppose. Either way, I think It's what I do about it that matters

Your words are kind and uplifting. Thank you for your comments. It is good to be back .

Mamacita

@mamacita

@lioness , some days I feel like the meanest Mama who ever lived. Other days I feel like I could rule the world.

Some days I am content to do laundry, even if it doesn't get put away. Other days. I regret not pursuing my Masters or finishing that book.

Do all people feel this way from time to time or is it just me? It doesn't really matter, I suppose. Either way, I think It's what I do about it that matters

Your words are kind and uplifting. Thank you for your comments. It is good to be back .

Mamacita

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@mamacita I feel like that sometimes I could rule the world other times the world rules me Ups and @downs I think everyone has them I'm happy your posting again missed your post

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