Adults On The Autism Spectrum

Posted by Mamacita, Volunteer Mentor @mamacita, Apr 29, 2018

Maybe you were really shy as a child. Perhaps you took home a huge stack of books from the school library, read them, and returned them the next day. Or did your best friend find you crying in your closet, unable to answer the question “Why?” At any rate, your life could be traced to the Self-Help section of the local bookstore. Unfortunately, most of the books were not much help. ADHD seemed to fit, at times. Your shrink said you might be Bi-Polar, although she wasn’t really certain. All you knew was that you rarely fit in, anywhere. One day at work, it hit you square in the face: I don’t speak these people’s language! Really, it was like you were all playing this game, and everyone knew the rules but you. You couldn’t tell a joke, and you never “got” any joke your co-worker tried to tell you. People started getting annoyed with you, because you had a memory like a steel trap. They didn’t appreciate it when you called them on the carpet. Who knew? This was my life, and worse. I finally aced several tests that pointed me to the answer to my questions. The Autism Spectrum. Guess what? Little kids with Autism grow up to be Adults with Autism. Diagnosed late in life? This is the place for you!

@parus

I am terribly confused with all of the drama and preaching in some of the comments. When in a situation such as being described turns into high drama in the comments I shudder to think what the situation is or may become. Remaining calm in these type of situations is imperative. I have only been reading the comments some of which are scaring me as to resolving things
No longer following this thread and leave with a heavy heart for those dealing with this in the real world.
Keeping a level head is the important thing.
There is a child trapped in this adult world and it makes me very sad. Abuse hurts no matter what age.

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Hello @parus

You are so right! When you spoke of the "child trapped in this adult world" I understood what you were saying. Earlier in the week I had another experience that put me back into the "child-mode" and it was helpful to be able to reach out to others and say "enough" I'm going to let someone else handle this. As I did that I got a break, the matter was taken care of by someone other than myself and I got back to my adult, safe place. Thanks for the good reminder of what these stories can do to us.

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@mamacita

You owe him nothing. You owe yourself and that child peace of mind and safety. Now. Do not look at or even be in the same room with this person ever again. He is seriously mentally ill and is a danger to himself and others. He needs help but you are not the one to help him. He wishes harm to you and only the good Lord knows how many others. Not trying to scarw you but he means harm. Period.

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I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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@mjsmimi

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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Sending positive vibes, good
energy, and everything positive your way. You are an amazing person, and I am so glad to have met you.

Adios,
MamacitaJane

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@mjsmimi

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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@mjsmimi I'm glad that we could "have your back" in this situation. There have been others in the past who have "had my back" and it's good to be able to return the favor. Wishing you well. Will you post every now and then and let me (and the others) know how you are doing?

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@mjsmimi

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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@mjsmimi Please let us know how you are doing, and understand that we are always here for you to vent or to ask questions. There is room for everyone around this table of the internet Connect. Good luck to you, and sending you hugs of support to you and the young gal. It may take time but things will work out.
Ginger

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@mjsmimi

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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@mjsmimi Walking away is wise and you are not being selfish. Admire your strength. Keeping you in my thoughts. Feelings of relief and wishing you well.

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@mjsmimi

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns. I apologize for any I was reaching out for help to help me decipher if I was the crazy one here? You have helped me realize, I am not crazy at all. I have to trust myself. I have to go on my gut feeling always. No matter what is. I am working on second guessing my instinct.
I will be at my son's house until he vacates my property. I will then go back and vacate all belongings and sell it. It will never be safe to return and live there ever. His daughters mother is aware of the situation-she was married to him for 15 years. I am going to alert her school counselor to intervene without my involvement. I think it best I get the information in the right hands for this young girl. The professionals can decide what is best. I need to walk away for my own safety. I will keep you informed. Again thank you for your kindness and protection,. I have all of you to thank for my safety. God Bless all of You.

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Hi, @mjsmimi – thinking of you. Wondering how you are doing?

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Good morning kiddos! Mamacita here with a post for you all to check out today. If you are on social media (Facebook) please do check out what Judy Endow has shared. Why it is hard to function as a "High Functioning" Autistic. See what you think and let me know? TTYL

Mamacita

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Has anyone tried CBD/THC tincture to help with anxiety and deal with obsessions that interfere with functioning? My 31 yr old son has had some success in reducing anxiety but dosing is sometimes an issue

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I have friends American friends whom use CBD oils for Lymes disease treatment and to reduce anxieties I will ask my friend lin SHE IS IN RHODE ISLAND IF SHE WOULD TAKE A MESSAGE FROM YOU ON FACE BOOK.

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@mamacita

Good morning kiddos! Mamacita here with a post for you all to check out today. If you are on social media (Facebook) please do check out what Judy Endow has shared. Why it is hard to function as a "High Functioning" Autistic. See what you think and let me know? TTYL

Mamacita

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as you knows I am sorta of here and not having seriously considered and planned suicide its a struggle to keep going but I am bloody minded Australian and try and go on

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@mamacita

Good morning kiddos! Mamacita here with a post for you all to check out today. If you are on social media (Facebook) please do check out what Judy Endow has shared. Why it is hard to function as a "High Functioning" Autistic. See what you think and let me know? TTYL

Mamacita

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@mamacita I am not on Facebook. Yep, one of the few, right? Sorry I cannot see what she is saying. I can only go on what my difficulties are as a "high functioning" (altho there are days I wonder how high that is!) Autie.
Ginger

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@gingerw , I will work on getting the article to you in some Neurotypical fashion. Sorry my brain cells don't function really well this time of the day. But I will try again tomorrow!
Adios,
Mamacita

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@lisalucier

Hi, @mjsmimi – thinking of you. Wondering how you are doing?

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@@@ Hello All,
I am doing well all considering. The head shudders from the detox of effexor are off the hook today. I am down to 25 daily. I cut in half and try to make it on 12.5. Struggling today. Been walking 2 to 4 miles daily. That usually helps with the depression for a while but it usually returns. Also continuing the MCT oil. On the fence whether it helps or not? In a nut shell, I am depressed and struggling not to be. I am not sure what I am supposed to do? I need to sell my house and move where I don't feel threatened. I can not live there if BF is around. I don't trust him or any intentions he may have. I am still convinced he is a psycho with harmful tendencies. He has so much anger bottled up inside him it is scary. I feel for anyone he gets involved with. I do know he wouldn't physically harm his children.He did find out that His ex wife( well not ex they have been seperated for 4 years now), has been abusing the middle daughter. She is seeking help at school with a counselor. Its hard not to listen when he wants to talk, we were friends for a very long time. I know I need to cut ties totally but the youngest daughter who lived with me stays in touch. She is very sweet and so innocent. I can't turn my back on her. She is an innocent child. It is very painful though as the tears roll down as I type. Why does life have to be so difficult?
On a positive note I am spending a lot more time with my 3 year old granddaughter. She soothes my heart and soul. Such a sweet little munchkin. Love her to pieces. Thats about it for now Thanks for your thoughts. I am hanging in there. I will make it through this also.
As always, pouring my thoughts to all of you is so helpful. Thanks for listening.

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@mjsmimi

@@@ Hello All,
I am doing well all considering. The head shudders from the detox of effexor are off the hook today. I am down to 25 daily. I cut in half and try to make it on 12.5. Struggling today. Been walking 2 to 4 miles daily. That usually helps with the depression for a while but it usually returns. Also continuing the MCT oil. On the fence whether it helps or not? In a nut shell, I am depressed and struggling not to be. I am not sure what I am supposed to do? I need to sell my house and move where I don't feel threatened. I can not live there if BF is around. I don't trust him or any intentions he may have. I am still convinced he is a psycho with harmful tendencies. He has so much anger bottled up inside him it is scary. I feel for anyone he gets involved with. I do know he wouldn't physically harm his children.He did find out that His ex wife( well not ex they have been seperated for 4 years now), has been abusing the middle daughter. She is seeking help at school with a counselor. Its hard not to listen when he wants to talk, we were friends for a very long time. I know I need to cut ties totally but the youngest daughter who lived with me stays in touch. She is very sweet and so innocent. I can't turn my back on her. She is an innocent child. It is very painful though as the tears roll down as I type. Why does life have to be so difficult?
On a positive note I am spending a lot more time with my 3 year old granddaughter. She soothes my heart and soul. Such a sweet little munchkin. Love her to pieces. Thats about it for now Thanks for your thoughts. I am hanging in there. I will make it through this also.
As always, pouring my thoughts to all of you is so helpful. Thanks for listening.

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Hey, @mjsmimi , how are you doing this afternoon? I am so proud of you for walking! That is one of the best things we can ever do for ourselves! Sounds like .maybe a little bit of sress has been taken off your shoulders. For that, I am very grateful.

Also, I am so encouraged that you have set boundaries for yourself. When we come to realize that we are not safe where we are, and decide to do something about it, well, that just takes strength. And courage. You are very brave for taking the steps you have already taken.

Your love and affection for those children tell me what a kind heart you have. You deserve to be safe as much as they do.

My hope is that you continue this plan of action, and that you will concentrate on first things first. The depression worries me, because I am not quite sure why you are weaning off the medication for it. I must have missed something somewhere.

I hope that you have a good doctor who is advising you on this. Sometimes it takes a while to determine what route to take, with depression. I have dealt with it almost all of my life. Will you be taking a different antidepressant when you are totally off the present one? For me, an antidepressant is as necessary as insulin is for a diabetic. I personally have tried just about every approach there is. I just get worse and worse, without those chemicals my body does not seem to make on its own.

Everyone is different. What works for one doesn't always work the same way for others. And if I have said too much, please know you don't have to answer anything I asked!

I just want you to know I am here for you in my little corner of the world. You are doing great! I will be sending all my positive energies and thoughts, prayers and hugs, your way! Talk to you soon!

Mamacita (Jane)

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