Adults On The Autism Spectrum

Posted by Mamacita, Volunteer Mentor @mamacita, Apr 29, 2018

Maybe you were really shy as a child. Perhaps you took home a huge stack of books from the school library, read them, and returned them the next day. Or did your best friend find you crying in your closet, unable to answer the question “Why?” At any rate, your life could be traced to the Self-Help section of the local bookstore. Unfortunately, most of the books were not much help. ADHD seemed to fit, at times. Your shrink said you might be Bi-Polar, although she wasn’t really certain. All you knew was that you rarely fit in, anywhere. One day at work, it hit you square in the face: I don’t speak these people’s language! Really, it was like you were all playing this game, and everyone knew the rules but you. You couldn’t tell a joke, and you never “got” any joke your co-worker tried to tell you. People started getting annoyed with you, because you had a memory like a steel trap. They didn’t appreciate it when you called them on the carpet. Who knew? This was my life, and worse. I finally aced several tests that pointed me to the answer to my questions. The Autism Spectrum. Guess what? Little kids with Autism grow up to be Adults with Autism. Diagnosed late in life? This is the place for you!

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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Kitties are my best friends! I've never met a cat (all cats are kitties to me) that I couldn't relate to. I remember my Mom once took me to visit my kindergarten teacher. I think her mother may have died. I sat down on the floor with a book as they talked, and within a few minutes my teacher's Siamese cat came over and curled up on my legs. The teacher was amazed and said her cat doesn't like any strangers, especially children. I continued to pet the cat and love on it the remainder of our visit.

At one time I had the unofficial "kitty rescue" in our small town. I caught over 100 feral or abandoned kitties, and had them spayed or neutered at the vet in the neighboring town. We gave many of them to local farmers who need barn kitties. Some were adopted by our inn guests, and I took litters to the Amish spice store where the lovely owners kept them contained to give away to visitors to their store. We kept about 5 or 6 around the B&B, as long as they had been "fixed." I was the original Kitty Whisperer.

We had a 19 acre ranch at one point with 16 miniature horses, 3 quarter horses, numerous chickens, turkeys, and a dog. I love all animals. The main thing I noticed when we sold all the horses and other animals as we were preparing to sell the ranch, was how "dead" it seemed when I was outside. Their presence was definitely missed and had contributed to the peaceful, wonderful feeling our ranch had. Our daughter has 3 indoor kitties that I love. I'm so happy to have these little furbabies to love! Yes, I'm an animal person.

Gail
VolunteerMentor

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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Absolutely an animal lover and a believer in how they can help people with all types of ailments. If a person is unable to have their own pets they can volunteer at shelters and help socialize cats or walk dogs etc.. You can even go to dog parks and just visit the pets/owners there because USUALLY dogs brought to a dog park are friendly and get along with other dogs, etc.
I was also involved with both my children and my pets with our local 4H in the Pet Therapy group. We visited assisted living places, the VA homes, etc. What a joy to see how those residents even the bed-ridden ones loved seeing the pets.

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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We like you too!

Oreo2

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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@mamacita There is a hospital in my locale that has an active dog therapy program. Dogs and their owners walk the halls and everyone has a drop in blood pressure and feel happier after petting a dog! Teresa

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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@calypso those are the kinds of things that make life worthwhile and besutiful. We had a precious Sheltie named Franklin who we had to put down. He was suffering, and old, and he was only going to get worse. When he died we all went to the vet to see Franklin and love on him. It brought family members back together who hadn't spoken in years. Couldn't even be in the same room together. But there they were, one on each side of the precious soul who gave so much unconditional love to all he knew.

@mamacita

If there was a " cure" for Autism, what would you do? Would you research it first? Would you not check into it at all? Or would you study the research, knowing that there are so many people on the Spectrum who have not had the compassion, the encouragement, or maybe the training you have had? What about the late diagnosed children who cannot speak but a few words? But they can type a novel on a keyboard. What about them? What about us? What would you change if you could?

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Canada here! It seems wonderful to me that we can reach out to each other around the world and offer each other support and encouragement!
Best to you all wherever you are!
Ainsleigh

@mamacita

If there was a " cure" for Autism, what would you do? Would you research it first? Would you not check into it at all? Or would you study the research, knowing that there are so many people on the Spectrum who have not had the compassion, the encouragement, or maybe the training you have had? What about the late diagnosed children who cannot speak but a few words? But they can type a novel on a keyboard. What about them? What about us? What would you change if you could?

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@ainsleih, you are all the way from Canada! I have always wanted to go to Canada. Thank you for joining the conversation. I look forward to learning more about your experiences and sharing information with you.

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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sad and stupid and also discriminatory

@mamacita

I think that one of the most challenging aspects that I find as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, is the ability to balance all my responsibilities at the same time that I carve out time for the creative, joyous part of me. I was so neglectful of myself for so many years, it is actually like waking up and consciously deciding who I want to be that day. Does that make any sense? There are so many demands on my time, your time, everyone's time. But we have to breathe. We have to relax, and enjoy taking our time with the beauty that is all around us. I feel as though I have been given a second chance at life. I try to stay in touch with what is going on around me. But I deliberately schedule time for me to do "Autism things" every day. To study about what makes people tick. To look at past mistakes and move on, realizing that they were lessons learned. To be patient and kind with myself helps me to be more patient and kind with others. I was not raised to be a planner. I was not raised to be organized. But for me, learning daily how to be more structured, and to plan the things that matter to me, helps me to weather the stress of living in a world that is too loud, too busy, and extremely anxiety-provoking. I am a concrete thinker. Whatever you tell me, I will believe, unless it is proven otherwise. I don't get jokes, cannot tell a joke, although people do say I have a good sense of humor. I am a Mac in a PC world. I think differently than most people, outside of the box. I don't fit in. But I do come in handy. And learning to live in the moment, to be mindful, to have balance, is a noble task. To sum it all up: Make every day count! That is my challenge!

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sad and I have 2 undergraduate degrees a graduate degree and hons and a masters in medieval English history and a dr in anglo indian history .I forgot farm management and an unordain Anglican church minister .Anglicans are like Episcopalian and church of England and an animal scientist

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Guys and dolls, please check out Autism Support Network. Tell me what you think. I especially enjoyed reading the article about self care. Have a wonderful day, my precious Auties. You were meant to be here. On the planet, I mean. And here, as well! Love you all!

where dear mama

@mamacita I could not find the article, either. Can you point to the link? Teresa

@sirgalahad

where dear mama

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@sirgalahad , it is a web site. All kinds of information.

@hopeful33250

@mamacita I could not find the article, either. Can you point to the link? Teresa

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I will do my best!

Everyone, I am not particularly techno savvy, and my IT guy is doing school work right now. Soo, here is the best I can do for now: http://www.autismsupportnetwork

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