people games

Posted by margareto @margareto, May 17, 2012

in-law acts real sweet and tries every way to get information on family members. Then anything said (which may be completely innocent and generic) is twisted causing other family members to act strangely and sometimes downright hostile. Am pretty good at reading body language so I have a good idea about what is happening. Other than having no contact with this “toxic” person, how do you handle same?

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@roxie43

Honestly, there’s no need for this nonsense. Mayo discussions are supposed to be supportive not demoralizing.
Let’s be kind to one another.
Rox

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So agree Piglit! Not everyone plays games with people’s lives.
Hugs,
Rox

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@leanne

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can’t stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can’t comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

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sound advice! It sure pays to be aware. Yes, SOME people (most are decent people) seem to get through life by being total jerks but eventually people discover them for who they really are, i.e. trouble makers and miserable people. Life has so much to offer — we don’t need to tear people down in order to lift selves up. Take care Leanne.

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@leanne

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can’t stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can’t comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

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Agree. Life has a way of exposing the true character of certain people. Truth always comes to the surface. Jerks are jerks and it is best to have little interaction with some people. They will find other innocent victims to dump on. Such people educate us in many ways, i.e. who to avoid!!!!!

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@roxie43

Honestly, there’s no need for this nonsense. Mayo discussions are supposed to be supportive not demoralizing.
Let’s be kind to one another.
Rox

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You are totally right, Roxie. Let’s take the high road and move on. Must remember not to give importance to such miserable people.

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@leanne

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can’t stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can’t comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

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Avoid anyone until you can get your own life together. Why would a kind hearted person get into family dynamics unless you also mislead them? Everyone has hopefully learned a valuable lesson. For me, never give anyone the time of day who lives with his mother and what he owns is in a box. Not a grown person. Some times we have to accept accountability when we knowingly hurt someone.
If you lost a loved you hurt just make sure your third marriage doesn’t begin the same way.

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@roxie43

Hello Anonymous,
What have you done to cause this friction amongst everyone? Are you a victim or are you to blame for what is taking place in your life? Individual need to grow up and stop blaming the world for his or her mistakes. A person who looks in the mirror and doesn’t like what he sees needs to try to become a better person. Going through life always blaming others for how irresponsible you have been gets old.
It sounds like people are fed up with you???. You’re not a victim. You sound like you have hurt a lot of people in your life and finally everyone sees how ill you really are. Are you in treatment for your issues? If you can read body language you should realize that there comes a time when people lose respect for a person who cannot admit to themselves and others that they have a serious problem.
You will never be happy until you come to terms that you have not done good things.
Honestly

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You are troubled and it shows.

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@leanne

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can’t stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can’t comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

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Thats the saddest part that another innocent victim is going to be charmed and manipulated and by the time the truth is revealed most of the damage will be done. Sociopaths are charming, cheaters, could care less about how they impact lives all just to satisfy their own needs.
Do you think rehab is successful with sociopaths? Curiously

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Forgiveness is important if we want to live freely. I’m learning to forgive because I don’t want to be a prisoner to bad time’s.
Rox

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@roxie43

Forgiveness is important if we want to live freely. I’m learning to forgive because I don’t want to be a prisoner to bad time’s.
Rox

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it is good for us all to try to forgive, although hard at time when wev’e beeen hurt

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@leanne

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can’t stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can’t comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

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Since I have no idea what a sociopath is, I can’t comment. I feel there are good doctors/medical people out there who can help people — of course, that is if a “person wants help.”

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@roxie43

Hello Anonymous,
What have you done to cause this friction amongst everyone? Are you a victim or are you to blame for what is taking place in your life? Individual need to grow up and stop blaming the world for his or her mistakes. A person who looks in the mirror and doesn’t like what he sees needs to try to become a better person. Going through life always blaming others for how irresponsible you have been gets old.
It sounds like people are fed up with you???. You’re not a victim. You sound like you have hurt a lot of people in your life and finally everyone sees how ill you really are. Are you in treatment for your issues? If you can read body language you should realize that there comes a time when people lose respect for a person who cannot admit to themselves and others that they have a serious problem.
You will never be happy until you come to terms that you have not done good things.
Honestly

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LOL admitting is step I.

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