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Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c in Men's Health, May 17, 2012

in-law acts real sweet and tries every way to get information on family members. Then anything said (which may be completely innocent and generic) is twisted causing other family members to act strangely and sometimes downright hostile. Am pretty good at reading body language so I have a good idea about what is happening. Other than having no contact with this "toxic" person, how do you handle same?

Tags: mental health, Loyalty, honesty, healthy living, womens health, mens health, Other, preventive medicine

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 17, 2012

Hello Anonymous,
What have you done to cause this friction amongst everyone? Are you a victim or are you to blame for what is taking place in your life? Individual need to grow up and stop blaming the world for his or her mistakes. A person who looks in the mirror and doesn't like what he sees needs to try to become a better person. Going through life always blaming others for how irresponsible you have been gets old.
It sounds like people are fed up with you???. You're not a victim. You sound like you have hurt a lot of people in your life and finally everyone sees how ill you really are. Are you in treatment for your issues? If you can read body language you should realize that there comes a time when people lose respect for a person who cannot admit to themselves and others that they have a serious problem.
You will never be happy until you come to terms that you have not done good things.
Honestly

clay6970

Posted by @clay6970, May 17, 2012

From the hip, off the cuff, harsh, judgmental, talking from your own personal issues, likely hurtful, assuming and hardly empathetic; however, your direct response to this "victim" hopefully seemed constructive, focused, clear, potentially implementable and possibly an insensitively worded example of "tough love." For everyone's sake, let's move to and embrace the latter.

Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 17, 2012

This person is a well known rogue! This person has hurt a lot of people in his life. This person is a sociopath who in order to get what he wants has:
*stated his father died for pity and the father is alive
*stated he was a professional ball player and was not
*Abandoned his own son and has been a deadbeat dad.
*Lied to police and got a loved one in serious trouble and that person was innocent.
*Says hurtful things about his own parents being drug addicts but lives with them rent free
*Lies about everything and when caught runs like a coward
*Likes to live off others and has a longggg history of not working just so he doesn't have to pay child support
*Tried to destroy a woman's career
*Was sleeping with his wife with a knife because it was soothing to him - She's gone couldn't deal with such an animal

Would you like me to continue? When a sick, very sick person does things like this do you really think this person deserves compassion?

This individual is twisted. I believe I know who the writer is and that's why the response was what is was.

However, if I'm mistaken and it's not the rogue then I deeply apologize because I would never disrespect anyone. I just feel that this writer sounds too familiar.

Respectfully, and happy to have awoken!

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china

Posted by @china, May 20, 2012

Sounds like they know each other. Has 2 be.

Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c, May 19, 2012

Are you licensed to give advice? This was a story that came from a group member--the nicest, kindest person. Perhaps the letter from anonymous made you take a look at yourself!!!!! Thus, your reason to vent and "abuse"!!!!!!!! Feel sorry for you. People don't need your nastiness---please seek help for YOU.

Posted by Anonymous-8613a205, May 19, 2012

As a matter of fact I am. Are you? Honesty & nastiness are different. No need to feel sorry for me. Feel sorry for the impact those that may have suffered as a result of a persons inability to live a life free of manipulation and deceit. I feel sorry for victims not perpetrators. You sound bitter. Perhaps you should get help.

Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, Jun 1, 2012

LOL admitting is step I.

Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 29, 2012

You are troubled and it shows.

china

Posted by @china, May 17, 2012

Why would they want info. Who is toxic. Don't understand. Sorry

china

Posted by @china, May 19, 2012

I like this 1 seems juicy. But confused bout the writer.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 19, 2012

Honestly, there's no need for this nonsense. Mayo discussions are supposed to be supportive not demoralizing.
Let's be kind to one another.
Rox

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piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 19, 2012

There is no need I agree with Rox let's have each day being supportive and caring of one another and stop putting people down. Piglit

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 25, 2012

we don't all play games. It's not good to upset peoples lives People that play games hurt peoples feelings and that's so not good

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 25, 2012

So agree Piglit! Not everyone plays games with people's lives.
Hugs,
Rox

Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c, May 29, 2012

You are totally right, Roxie. Let's take the high road and move on. Must remember not to give importance to such miserable people.

china

Posted by @china, May 25, 2012

All play games

leanne

Posted by @leanne, May 25, 2012

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can't stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can't comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 25, 2012

I too have been through this. On the receiving end of a false marriage. A marriage that began with lies and ended in lies. Your discomfort is understandable and you should move on. Get your own place and distance yourself from family that is siding with the person. If you hurt someone it's normal for feelings of resentment. Own what you did but don't own what you did not. I agree people are jerks especially people who put two cent's on matters they know nothing of. Someone who is clueless calling a victim a jerk is a jerk.

Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c, May 29, 2012

Agree. Life has a way of exposing the true character of certain people. Truth always comes to the surface. Jerks are jerks and it is best to have little interaction with some people. They will find other innocent victims to dump on. Such people educate us in many ways, i.e. who to avoid!!!!!

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 29, 2012

Avoid anyone until you can get your own life together. Why would a kind hearted person get into family dynamics unless you also mislead them? Everyone has hopefully learned a valuable lesson. For me, never give anyone the time of day who lives with his mother and what he owns is in a box. Not a grown person. Some times we have to accept accountability when we knowingly hurt someone.
If you lost a loved you hurt just make sure your third marriage doesn't begin the same way.

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, May 29, 2012

Thats the saddest part that another innocent victim is going to be charmed and manipulated and by the time the truth is revealed most of the damage will be done. Sociopaths are charming, cheaters, could care less about how they impact lives all just to satisfy their own needs.
Do you think rehab is successful with sociopaths? Curiously

Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c, May 31, 2012

Since I have no idea what a sociopath is, I can't comment. I feel there are good doctors/medical people out there who can help people -- of course, that is if a "person wants help."

leanne

Posted by @leanne, May 25, 2012

Been through that kind of thing. There is only one way to deal with this, and that is you must stay away. If you can't stay away because they are family, you must not care or let these people under your skin. Be civil but, you must do a cold turkey emotional write off. Understand that your relationship with this person will never be good and they will queer your relationship with anyone you have in common. It is a wide world out there surround yourself with better people. Further when you ask for advice or describe this kind of thing to people who blame you and put your worries off that is a sure sign that those people do the same thing. They can't comfort you because they themselves are guilty of mistreatment bearing false witness, lying and falsely maligning. Good luck, some people enjoy being jerks.

Posted by Anonymous-3f367f8c, May 29, 2012

sound advice! It sure pays to be aware. Yes, SOME people (most are decent people) seem to get through life by being total jerks but eventually people discover them for who they really are, i.e. trouble makers and miserable people. Life has so much to offer --- we don't need to tear people down in order to lift selves up. Take care Leanne.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 30, 2012

Forgiveness is important if we want to live freely. I'm learning to forgive because I don't want to be a prisoner to bad time's.
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 30, 2012

it is good for us all to try to forgive, although hard at time when wev'e beeen hurt

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