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Overwhelmed

Posted by mleffler @mleffler, Jan 10 4:12pm

I have been caring for my father for the last 4 years with his copd and in the last month my mother was taken to er for a large open wound on her chest that she was hiding from everyone, turned out she has a staph infection and basil cell carcinoma (skin cancer) after a week stay at the hospital she was sent home with iv line and myself to give her meds 3 times a day threw the iv line plus changing her wound. We had multiple appts that we have had to travel for and still have a long road ahead. I have 4 siblings but have no help from. One lives across the world so no fault on him. I just feel like im losing it, I have no time for myself, my husband and older kids. My house has been let go to the point everything is overwhelming, I feel so guilty for complaining or even thinking like this or about myself. I just dont know how to prioritize my life. My parents are separated so im going between houses

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rochesterminnesota | @rochesterminnesota | Jan 31 8:53pm
In reply to @linric70 "Your doctor needs to connect you to palliative care in your community. It's not hospice care..." + (show)
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Your doctor needs to connect you to palliative care in your community. It's not hospice care it's Pallative care. Support for YOU, your family and your mom & dad.

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@linric70. Mayo Clinic's website:
Palliative care vs hospice care
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/take-charge-healthy-aging/newsfeed-post/paliative-care-vs-hospice-care-whats-the-difference/

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | Feb 10 7:18pm
In reply to @smmattocks "Try explaining your situation to the hospital social worker?? That's in the job description!! If no..." + (show)
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Try explaining your situation to the hospital social worker?? That's in the job description!! If no help...ask where/what to do. There's got to be state programs that help somewhat. Does your Mom have any friends that could at least do a few days a week?? Doesn't your family - husband, etc. help at your house at all???? That would be a must for me. If something were to happen to YOU....God forbid...they'd HAVE to step up!!I pray that the Lord puts the right people/help into your "world". Prayer doesn't cost a darn thing. Can't hurt..only help. Doesn't seem like it BUT things could always be worse somehow. God bless. Hang in there. The Lord only gives out what we can take.

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@smmattocks
Oh my, We just dealt with the social worker. It was like a ridiculous nightmare
She was expecting comments from my spouse when he had no idea what she was talking about. I am tired of everyone thinking that the Caregiver is to remain silent at all times. If they don't get it then how do we proceed. The best is when you are made to feel like you were an idiot or that you are unable to make decisions. My spouse just stares and she still talks to him instead of who does the caregiving and everything else. You feel like why are you even sitting in our den and this person is talking and accomplishing nothing.
I will be speaking with the nurses who listen and totally understand from both of us! Hugs to you!!!

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