Not Incontinence but bathroom messes and clothes soiling

I'm so sorry you're in this position. I'm glad you are there to support your mom though. My 5 siblings and I did that for our mom, twenty years ago and it was the best decision we could have made.

I'm now going it alone with my husband not wanting in home caregivers and resisting a move. It's so hard to navigate at this point. I kind of wish the disease would progress further to force me to make a move but, for now, I stick with the status quo.

You're right, those who haven't been here don't get it. Moving him seems logical to outsiders but they don't realize the complications and emotions involved.

Sending virtual hugs to all who struggle with this.

I’m dealing with same with my mother. She and dad moved in with me 8 months ago. Mom had a bath this morning after peeing on floor in bedroom. When she was getting dressed in bedroom, she pooped on everything and needed a another bath. But we had to wait because my husband was helping my dad with his bath. Horrible morning. This kind of thing only happens a couple times a month at this point. I am going to try better to make sure she is never without a diaper outside the bathroom, but unfortunately she takes it off herself where she shouldn’t.

I am thankful I have a husband who supports us.

Man, that’s a lot! I think I mentioned up thread that there are sites that sell adaptive clothing for those who have dementia which prevents them from removing them unassisted.

I have read that incontinence is the main reason care is not maintained in the home. I would imagine it is quite distressing.

I’m seeking placement for my dad. In the meantime……can anyone recommend a diet to help ward off diarrhea? Daddy has recently started getting it intermittently. I have cut back his ice cream from 3-4 times a day to once a day. No more beans and limited fruit juice. Also, avoiding any sugar substitutes and fiber cereal. Can ginger ale cause diarrhea? I just can’t figure it out!

Any tips would be appreciated. He is still able to get to bathroom and clean himself, but leaves the bathroom a mess. He likes his regular boxers, but we’re putting him in pullups lately with these incidents.

His meds haven’t changed, except coming off BP meds per his doctor. After you have been on a medication for over a year, what are the chances it would suddenly cause diarrhea when it hasn’t before?

@celia16 We were always told about the BRAT diet: Bananas, rice, applesauce, toast. Think they can just be added into regular diet. I just had that same problem. I peeled all fruit before eating (the peelings are full of fiber).
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/diarrhea/symptoms-causes/syc-20352241
I didn’t see ginger ale on the no list. This contains very good info.
Do you think he’s getting dehydrated?

I’m seeking placement for my dad. In the meantime……can anyone recommend a diet to help ward off diarrhea? Daddy has recently started getting it intermittently. I have cut back his ice cream from 3-4 times a day to once a day. No more beans and limited fruit juice. Also, avoiding any sugar substitutes and fiber cereal. Can ginger ale cause diarrhea? I just can’t figure it out!

Any tips would be appreciated. He is still able to get to bathroom and clean himself, but leaves the bathroom a mess. He likes his regular boxers, but we’re putting him in pullups lately with these incidents.

His meds haven’t changed, except coming off BP meds per his doctor. After you have been on a medication for over a year, what are the chances it would suddenly cause diarrhea when it hasn’t before?

Hi @celia16, when I was a child I had chronic diarrhea and I was on a strict diet - dry toast or saltines with jelly, pretzels, applesauce, bananas, no milk. Coke and gingerale were okay; also apple juice, but nothing else. Tea and sugar, no milk. Once I went to a friend's house, had peanut butter, and an instant reaction!
This was in the 50s. Things might have changed.

Maybe your dad should be checked for an infection. Have you spoken to your dad's doctor?

I did a search on Perplexity.ai:

To prevent diarrhea, it's best to follow a balanced diet that includes foods that are easy on the digestive system and help firm up stools. Here are some key dietary recommendations:

Foods to Include
Soluble fiber: Consume foods high in soluble fiber, which absorbs fluid and can help lessen diarrhea. Good options include:

Ripe bananas

Applesauce

Cooked potatoes (without skin)

White rice

Oatmeal

Binding foods: These help firm up stools and include:

Toast made from white bread

Plain white rice

Unseasoned crackers

Lean proteins: Opt for:

Chicken (steamed, baked, or grilled)

Fish

Lean ground beef

Eggs (scrambled)

Probiotic-rich foods: These can help maintain a healthy gut flora:

Yogurt (if not lactose intolerant)

Hydration
Stay well-hydrated by consuming:

Water

Clear broths

Oral rehydration solutions

Herbal teas

Eating Habits
Eat smaller, more frequent meals throughout the day

Consume foods at room temperature, as they may be better tolerated than hot or cold foods

Foods to Avoid
High-fiber foods: Limit intake of:

Whole grains

Raw vegetables

Nuts and seeds

Fatty and spicy foods: Avoid:

Fried foods

Sauces and gravies

Highly spiced dishes

Gas-producing foods: Steer clear of:

Carbonated drinks

Beans

Cabbage, broccoli, and cauliflower

Foods with laxative effects: Avoid prunes and prune juice

By following these dietary guidelines and maintaining good hygiene practices, you can help prevent diarrhea and promote digestive health.

Thanks a lot! That’s very comprehensive and I am trying to follow it. Today was a good day and everything was normal. On track to keep the diet stable with the recommended foods.

What happened with the peanut butter?