Remaining independent: Tips & tricks for creating good habits

Posted by fiesty76 @fiesty76, Jan 8 8:49am

Concerned because a neighbor has called three times in recent months to tell me my garage door had been standing open for several hours and was checking to see if I was ok. While very grateful for the calls and after the 1st call immediately posted a sign on my utility door as a reminder to “close door”, two more calls followed that 1st one.

I’ve lived alone in my home for decades. I’m 76 and still maintain my home and do my own yard work. While I’ve laughed for years that I have always been a bit scatter brained, I am also fiercely independent and not yet ready to relocate out of state near my daughter and into a sr living establishment.

I’m looking into installing a locking system for my automatic garage door but if I continue to fail to press whatever buttons required to close or engage the system, I will not be able to live alone in this house. Any suggestions or tips on how I can “train” myself to be Sure that garage is firmly down?

@robbie1956

Hello,

I have been doing that lately….it always happens when I bring in groceries from the front door….what happens is this: when my wife and I get back from grocery shopping, we back the second car (SUV) up into the driveway to unload groceries….we engage the automatic door opener so we can judge how close we come to the garage without hitting the sides that jut out…we then unlock the front door and take them in that way….(we do it like this because there is very little room with the sedan parked in the garage….) unfortunately by doing this, we have recently forgotten to check the garage and close the door again…so, what I’ve been doing is to visually check the front door and open the utility door of the garage and check that the garage door is down also, not just when we go to the store….that way, I can train myself …..I hope my story helps….

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@robbie1956 I recently found that if I open the blinds on the north wall in master bedroom, I can see the garage door. Window faces north, with really no visual to anyone looking in. Then as dusk falls and I close the blinds, I can look to make sure the door is closed if it was opened during the day. So far, working out well!
Ginger

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@gingerw That works for me too – if I remember to look out! Seriously, my husband installed a light right above the window (outside) that stays on when door is open & it has helped me remember to close the garage. What I can't figure out is, if 2 of us live here and use the garage, why is it my job to make sure it is closed, and my fault if it gets left open?
Sue

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@sueinmn

@gingerw That works for me too – if I remember to look out! Seriously, my husband installed a light right above the window (outside) that stays on when door is open & it has helped me remember to close the garage. What I can't figure out is, if 2 of us live here and use the garage, why is it my job to make sure it is closed, and my fault if it gets left open?
Sue

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@sueinmn Oh, my, you're "preachin' to the choir"! That and the front gate, or the food dropped on kitchen floor….
Ginger

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@gingerw

@sueinmn Oh, my, you're "preachin' to the choir"! That and the front gate, or the food dropped on kitchen floor….
Ginger

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@sueinmn and @gingerw Boy did you both get my attention (in a good way!!). We have been married 55 years this June and I am still learning from my wife and that's a good thing. I will catch myself placing the blame where it doesn't belong and back peddle very quickly. So, please be gentle…just saying. 🙂

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@fiesty76– Good morning. Although I live with my husband I try and be as independent living with him as I can be. He tends to be smothering at times trying to protect me. I love him for this but it is stifling. It is easier to give in but I don't want him to feel that I am incapable of doing a lot of things myself. I think that it's important for everyone.

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@lmspencerpac, Hi, Lindsay, I’m not a health professional and haven’t had to endure the covid illness. Just wanted to share another welcome to the group with you and let you know how much I regret your lingering, prolonged symptoms.

As @mkqq shared, it sounds as if the aftermath and 100% recovery takes a very long and painful time. I hope you have help with your children and that your employer will agree to allow you full recovery before insisting that you go back to work. Would your physician agree to write a letter to your employer stating that you are not yet well enough to return to work?

@zeiracorp, Thank you for sharing “We Are Not In the Same Boat”. During this period of growing divisiveness in the U.S. which is threatening to tear our country apart, I readily admit that I’d like throw those elected leaders urging reopening before guidelines have been met on top of a fire ant hill. (for those who haven’t been both bitten and stung by fire ants, you can’t imagine the pain!) However, this piece is well worth individually contemplating and sharing with others.

@moonlightlady, Thank you for acknowledging my post. It was intended for “live alones” especially but the title got changed.

@lioness, Hi friend, Yes, I’m not driving but with the walks in the neighborhood, I am thinking of upgrading to the Alert 1 version for traveling away from home. Mine will respond if at the alley dumpster and across the street in neighbor’s yard but the distance covered is limited. The upgrade, which is the same cost as the “instant alert at home version which I’m using” is the same, approx. $30/mo.

@sueinmn, and fellow gardening enthusiasts, because of our erratic temps, I’ve not yet planted any veggie seeds. While perennials and self-seeding flowers are popping into bloom, I’m missing starter veggie plants that are usually in place by this time. While I don't know how to upload photos on the computer…or for that matter even turn on the camera, I've been trying out this method on celery and green onions. You can't imagine the Thrill of watching those tiny green shoots start up from the centers. R E A L L Y this is great fun!

So far, the only drawback is that Precious prefers onion/celery water to her daily refreshed water in her bowl. No difference noted in her breath so far but then we don't get nose-to-nose often. Also elevated the water containers by placing on the step ladder in entry with front door open for most sun. Now I have to remember to keep the celery water replenished and the front wooden door closed each night. All in a day for the new “enterprising” life of a retiree practicing covid cautions! Maybe by Memorial Day, veggie seeds will go in and I’ll be eating home grown celery and shallots. Smiles to all.

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@becsbuddy, So glad we’ll be continuing our “virtual walks”. I completed another week on Sat. but do admit to wishing for a bit of newer scenery in my still “too quiet” neighborhood. The cyber support of the walking group is really helpful and appreciated.

@helenfrances, Your post and sense of humor brought a smile! I got stung by a bumblebee as a small child. Always blamed that sting on my flakiness growing up. My parents never agreed..grins

@jimhd, I’m with you 100% on the lessening energy. I am so glad I bought an electric lawn mower and can still use my weed eater in the alley. However, the gal who used to think nothing of going after any limb with her chain saw and spending hours with the electric shrub trimmer just doesn’t attempt that now. I’m just not as strong or fearless as I once was. I think one of the hardest and most important challenges aging and changing health issues create is learning to adapt while still doing whatever we can that brings us pleasure. Sorry, still too many weeds in my own yard to tackle so can’t come over to play with you in your dirt. However, if you do get caught up, feel free to mosey over my way. Smiles

@merpreb, Merry, I’ve lived alone for so long now that I can barely remember those years of compromising and living with an overly protective hubby. Always fiercely independent, that may be one of the reasons I now live alone…??? lol

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@fiesty76 Hi friend yes I think I would also When I go out I would feel safer is I had the Alert 1 anywhere . I dont think you could walk over to your daughter,s I know it would take me probably half a day I would have to stop and rest alot . Hope your doing well today . About the garden . I started beets in my apt had a large pot so they are coming up ,yea. When I had my garden in Pa. it was a decision as to when to plant . The tomatoes where after Memmorial day as we always had a freeze in May . Mostly everything else I could plant before then . Early peas sometime in April . Nothing like fresh vegies.

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Update on the garage door, @gingerw, @johnbishop, @virgo1952, @sueinmn, @jo54, @danab, @robbie1952,@merpreb, @lioness, After weeks of keeping the garage door down and preening my feathers for being so consistent, last night about 9:45pm a neighbor called to tell me the door was open and the light was on.

Earlier Ginger had responded how lucky I was to have a good neighbor to alert and check on me. Others of you made me feel better by your responses and suggestions. I thought I'd really solved the problem by turning on the utility hall light and leaving it on, regardless of time night or day, whenever I entered the garage. It had worked so well and I was so proud of little self for finding a solution that was working.

When she told me, I impulsively wailed: "Ohh, but I've been so good!" Now does that sound like a wizened adult to anybody else??? ummm, what I thought.

Of course I thanked her but was so put out with myself. I Knew it had been daylight when I'd opened the garage to take tools to the backyard and hadn't been in the garage since. Finally dawned on me that instead of turning on the garage light, I'd flipped on the utility light next to it. Bizarre to find comfort in realizing my negligence was a result of not turning on the right light but we take our comfort where we find it, yes? So maybe a strip of painter's tape over the garage switch will do the trick??? Stay tuned…foibles occur frequently here. Smiles and best to all.

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@fiesty76

Update on the garage door, @gingerw, @johnbishop, @virgo1952, @sueinmn, @jo54, @danab, @robbie1952,@merpreb, @lioness, After weeks of keeping the garage door down and preening my feathers for being so consistent, last night about 9:45pm a neighbor called to tell me the door was open and the light was on.

Earlier Ginger had responded how lucky I was to have a good neighbor to alert and check on me. Others of you made me feel better by your responses and suggestions. I thought I'd really solved the problem by turning on the utility hall light and leaving it on, regardless of time night or day, whenever I entered the garage. It had worked so well and I was so proud of little self for finding a solution that was working.

When she told me, I impulsively wailed: "Ohh, but I've been so good!" Now does that sound like a wizened adult to anybody else??? ummm, what I thought.

Of course I thanked her but was so put out with myself. I Knew it had been daylight when I'd opened the garage to take tools to the backyard and hadn't been in the garage since. Finally dawned on me that instead of turning on the garage light, I'd flipped on the utility light next to it. Bizarre to find comfort in realizing my negligence was a result of not turning on the right light but we take our comfort where we find it, yes? So maybe a strip of painter's tape over the garage switch will do the trick??? Stay tuned…foibles occur frequently here. Smiles and best to all.

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@fiesty76 Yes I can definitely relate im the same we try so hard to remember something and just when were patty ourselves on the back it happens again. Oh well just makes us humble I guess.
Have a Blessed Day
Dana

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Thanks for your response, @danab. Smiling because humility isn't one of my top traits however, I'm becoming more and more familiar with the concept as time passes. Be safe and well.

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