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My mom with dementia moved in with us
We moved my mom, who has dementia, in with us after she had a fall at her own home. We didn't feel that my sister was providing the level of care she needed. Now my mom believes this is her house and that my husband and I should be grateful to her for "helping us out." It's been frustrating, and I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with a similar situation. If so, how did you handle those conversations?
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ctracy1027,
Yes, be ever so grateful and kind to her when the subject arises.
You are already making the greatest contribution to her well being. It's something you've done from your heart, still it involves more difficult sacrifices than yielding to little misunderstandings arising from dementia. There is more and worse to come. If you could clarify the thinking of someone with cognitive decline (or did you know), you'd become quite famous.
Bless your heart and bless your struggle. Bless your mom.
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@gently is right. There is so much more and worse. You have to try and live your life being secretive, fake and always thinking twice before you divulge information, facts, etc., etc., because inevitably almost anything you say can & will be misconstrued, and all you can do smile & move on. No correcting or reexplaining can exist, it doesn't work, period. It's very frustrating, and I'm telling you, it doesn't get easier. My husband has been progressing very slowly for 3 or 4 years and can still look (to outsiders) like there is nothing at all wrong with his cognitive abilities. He's been a know-it-all for many years and is taking that to a new level with his dementia, making it an even bigger challenge for me to cope with and harder to resist correcting. I can tell you, read through as many of the different dementia threads as you can find the time for, it is a wealth of information here. (And so many wonderful, caring people going through so much of the same stuff.) Search Tami Anastasia and scroll down to Support Groups. She's an expert on Dementia, caregiving, why(s) & how(s), symptoms and more. She has written books and holds a webinar on most Mondays @ 4:30 PT that you can sign up for (for free) on that site.
Blessings, Linda
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