My father is on day 3 of ICU delirium
Need some advice here. I’m 35 with a wife I love dearly and a mom, sister, and father that I love just as dearly.
My father recently had a back surgery. He aspirated 1 day post up and and the immediately moved him from the floor to ICU. From there his polyartritis nordosa flares up requiring 50mg doses of steroids. After being in the ICU for 3 days he started to get agitated and would want to pull his ekg leads off and his IV lines. I tried to couch him not to do it because it was best for him but he refrained and said he was getting out of here. Before I know it the nurse is coming in trying to put mittens on his hands which made him more combative. Next comes about 4 more male nurses and the doctor. They start tieing him down to the bed while I’m outside in the hallway crying. It was too painful to see my father who is such a gentle man have to be restrained at really no fault of his own. His lack of sleep and the steroids he was on made him act out in a way that he would never do. They gave him an injection in his leg. He was screaming he was calling the police and he was going to sue. He also screamed that he has never been so disappointed in me to let them do this. This all began to settle down around 2 am and I had to go home. I was so upset about what just happened and can’t believe that had to happen to my dad. I’m actually crying writing this.
We are now 2 after the incident. We have had some good doctors and nurse help me and my family cope, but we are not out of the woods yet. The first day he couldn’t believe his family would allow someone to tie him up and take him to a foreign country. Day 2 which we are just wrapping up he is saying he is going to report his incident to the hospital, that he is divorcing my mom, and he will no longer live with us. He and my mom have been together for 40+ years and would never get divorced. When we tell him we love him he doesn’t reciprocate which is not like him.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how we communicate with him right now. He get very angry and says I can’t believe my family wasn’t there when they tied me up and put me in the insane asylum. I love my dad so much and badly miss him. He just retired and I’m hoping to father his first grandchild this year. Any help is so much appreciated