Married Men and Sex

Posted by Native Floridian @nativefloridian, Nov 25, 2011

Does anyone think there is anything wrong with a married man having fantasy life about other woman?

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@iraku

I do believe in the logic behind the marriage If we only reserve our sexual desire within our marriage then it means we do not place others into our sexual fantasy but we would want to explore our sexual relationship with our individual partner. That also would leads to another level of respects for man and woman to have a higher ground of what we should be thinking of others. In other words, a man should not think of a woman as a sexual objective that he could having a sexual fantasy towards her since she is not your wife. The woman is actually a mother of someone who they have much respect for. The woman who could be someone’s love one. To fantasizing over someone does not need to be in a sexual way alone, a healthy fantasy then should not be a sexual thought since there is only limits for each one of us to have a sexual partner. This is all very much an idealist and only claims it’s not wrong since I have done nothing that has happened in my mind, however, when we have a clear understanding about sex and marriage then we should know what exactly is the right or wrong thing to do. Practice makes perfect applies to all occasions.

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Nicely worded and I agree.

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This is normal as you did not act out. Men are polygamous by nature women are not.

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@nativefloridian

Your wife’s mind seemed to be elsewhere because it was. You were wrong to think the relationship was ok, the man just used your wife and she has paid a royal price I am certain. Maybe you should consider the reasons that your wife would possibly consider having a fantasy instead of being there with you. I don’t think alot of men are very sensitive to the needs of their wives. I also don’t think alot of men care more for their wives than they do their self interests. Put yourself in your wife’s shoes sometime and think about it.

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Fantasy and using your imagination are normal Experiencing and the desire to try new things is normal. Not being able to control your impulses and urges needs help. You have to keep it real and safe for everyone.

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You're human and we are naturally attracted to others. As someone said "as long as you don't act on your fantasy" you're good.

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@jenatsky

You're human and we are naturally attracted to others. As someone said "as long as you don't act on your fantasy" you're good.

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Yes, just can't act on your fantasies! I'm hot on other women but I must leave them alone.

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You could use the “other women fantasy” while with your significant other. You may benefit by listening to a podcast by Dr. Esther Perile and especially her TED Talks on sex. I’m pretty sure you’ll find something pertaining to fantasies there.

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The imagination is a wonderful part of the brain. Just don't cross the line.

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You determine the line.

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