Married Men and Sex

Posted by Native Floridian @nativefloridian, Nov 25, 2011

Does anyone think there is anything wrong with a married man having fantasy life about other woman?

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@sykes1973

Yea, it’s wrong. Fantasy may become reality someday.so don’t go there!

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It is refreshing to read something that seems so honest and normal.

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@sykes1973

Yea, it’s wrong. Fantasy may become reality someday.so don’t go there!

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Sorry to read of your plight. Maybe you were being punished. My husband punished me for a long time before I realized it. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out.

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would you feel the same if your wife expressed the same interests? i think not.

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I would be suprised if someone told me he has never had a fantasy about other woman irrespective of marriage. Attraction and fantasy are normal biological reactions.
Pornography is also fantasy, which is popular recreation for millions of men and is harmless. Not to act on your particular fantasy is to respect society norms. If your fantasy is likely to consume you so much that you will one day be driven by temptation to act it out you are in a dangerous zone. If the fantasy is innocuous it is wise not to share with your spouse.

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Pornography is not harmless. I definitely disagree with that statement. Married men that view pornography are harming their relationships with their wives. It is degrading to women and not at all honoring a mate behaving in that way. Husbands don’t realize how hurtful viewing pornography is to their wives.

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Fantasies can be healthy and acting on them means the time for a divorce has reared its head.

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@china

Fantasies can be healthy and acting on them means the time for a divorce has reared its head.

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Healthy in what respect?

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@sykes1973

Yea, it’s wrong. Fantasy may become reality someday.so don’t go there!

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Healthy fantasies I like that.

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I do believe in the logic behind the marriage If we only reserve our sexual desire within our marriage then it means we do not place others into our sexual fantasy but we would want to explore our sexual relationship with our individual partner. That also would leads to another level of respects for man and woman to have a higher ground of what we should be thinking of others. In other words, a man should not think of a woman as a sexual objective that he could having a sexual fantasy towards her since she is not your wife. The woman is actually a mother of someone who they have much respect for. The woman who could be someone’s love one. To fantasizing over someone does not need to be in a sexual way alone, a healthy fantasy then should not be a sexual thought since there is only limits for each one of us to have a sexual partner. This is all very much an idealist and only claims it’s not wrong since I have done nothing that has happened in my mind, however, when we have a clear understanding about sex and marriage then we should know what exactly is the right or wrong thing to do. Practice makes perfect applies to all occasions.

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@iraku

I do believe in the logic behind the marriage If we only reserve our sexual desire within our marriage then it means we do not place others into our sexual fantasy but we would want to explore our sexual relationship with our individual partner. That also would leads to another level of respects for man and woman to have a higher ground of what we should be thinking of others. In other words, a man should not think of a woman as a sexual objective that he could having a sexual fantasy towards her since she is not your wife. The woman is actually a mother of someone who they have much respect for. The woman who could be someone’s love one. To fantasizing over someone does not need to be in a sexual way alone, a healthy fantasy then should not be a sexual thought since there is only limits for each one of us to have a sexual partner. This is all very much an idealist and only claims it’s not wrong since I have done nothing that has happened in my mind, however, when we have a clear understanding about sex and marriage then we should know what exactly is the right or wrong thing to do. Practice makes perfect applies to all occasions.

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Nicely worded and I agree.

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This is normal as you did not act out. Men are polygamous by nature women are not.

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