Loving someone with a personality disorder
I’ve been in a relationship with a man who has a personality disorder for nearly four years. He hasn’t been diagnosed as of yet, but I see a psychologist for anxiety & depression. I’ve struggled with my issues for some time, but I do a lot of reading & research to help me to better understand & cope with my own issues. I decided to do the same with my significant others personality traits. His traits are characteristic of Schizoid PD & Avoidant PD I can’t decide which, but mostly I can’t figure out how to live with loving someone who has a personality disorder. It’s difficult because while I’m aware of it & understand it I find it hard to cope with when my own needs for affection are overwhelming. In all my reading the partner got out the relationship. I don’t really want out of my relationship, but I find it hard to live with. In the begining things were great I felt like a teenager again, we talked on the phone til the sun came up, he called me numerous times a day it was great until the relationship became intimate. It;s been a roller coaster ride since then. The hardest thing to deal with is that the relationship seems one sided, he’s not there for me or my needs but I am for his. This is very difficult because he used to be, he was a great listener & he was encouraging before sex. Afterwards it seemed that he became uncomfortable with how attached he’d become to me, or the emotion that he felt for me; things are good until it seems he begins to feel attached then he’ll withdraw & not say a word to me for weeks. I don’t know what to do??!!