If your need for affection is overwhelming, maybe look at your feelings a bit more and see if there's any tendency toward co-dependence on your part. Sometimes being co-dependent alot can make you want to help other people with 'problems'. I knew a couple that were just friends for a long time and felt comfortable with one another. One day the man began to share personal stories with the woman and she realized he was interested in more from their relationship. This couple lived in two different cities, so it was easy to be apart for days or a week and not really know what was going on with the each other. Talking on the phone alot gave the impression of both having normal personalities but once they started cohabitating, she realized that he had an anger issue. He was very conflict avoidant and became angered easily. She went to therapy and they told her that his repressed anger would cause depression and it did. He became agitated, difficult to live with, even borderline violent sometimes if he was pushed beyond his limitations. He refused to go to therapy once the doctor started getting into his head. That's when their roller coaster ride started and they are still seeking professional help because the man's mental problems became physical ailments. People that don't 'process' their feelings often make themselves physically sick due to the stress on their bodies. I'm only telling you this to forewarn you, if you choose to stay with him you may be in for a long life living with someone that will probably take alot out of you. It is best to surround yourself with lots of supportive friends and family and let others help you. Don't try to deal with this relationship on your own and expect that it won't drag you down.

As far as your own feelings for affection, whatever decision you make just be sure you can live with it. Be kind to yourself and realize that God loves you, even if you feel like your man doesn't. Focus on gratitude and being the 'best' you that you can be! Best wishes and hope you understand that there are many other people out there dealing with personality disorders. you are not alone.

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