Long-term depression

Posted by seeker70 @seeker70, Oct 11, 2017

I have been depressed, when I think about it, since I was a kid (I”m a senior now!) I have been treated off and on with meds and minimal talk therapy, but nothing changes. In the past it has been underlying but as I grow older it is becoming more intense. People ask: ‘why are you depressed? I never get depressed, just get a better attitude’. Or they don’t hear my (probably passive-aggressive) cries for help. Or they say: ‘what do you have to be depressed about?’ Actually although I agree with these opinions to a certain extent, it does not address the problem that depression is not a ‘why’, not is it a ‘choice’. It’s almost like being gay, you just are. Maybe I should just accept it (guess that’s what I have done for decades 🙂 But I don’t want to. I want to feel better now. Earlier in my life I was able to enjoy things, although the depression would keep popping out. But now I seem to have trouble enjoying anything, including my own family, and it’s harder and harder to ‘push depression down’ once it’s popped. So I have longer periods of depression and sadness and sleeplessness and lonliness, an shorter periods of being able to enjoy my life. Or want something. Or look forward to anything. I will say too that I have as much to be happy about as I do to be unhappy – but as I said, it’s not a ‘why’. I’m looking for people to explore this idea, and to help each other begin to overcome. Or maybe it’s just me and there’s no one else who feels this way — 😉 Thank you for reading all this.

@parus

Long term depression is nothing more than a death sentence. The constant battle is never ending. There are no solutions for some. Reality is all there is for some. DNA cannot be a battle that can be won for some. we all do the best we know how. There is no denying genetics.

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Eh…a day at a time. Thanks for asking.

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@parus

Long term depression is nothing more than a death sentence. The constant battle is never ending. There are no solutions for some. Reality is all there is for some. DNA cannot be a battle that can be won for some. we all do the best we know how. There is no denying genetics.

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That's actually a very realistic attitude, @johnsonk. If months or years feel overwhelming, taking things a day at a time can help a lot.

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Just saw this. I am not the greatest at keeping up with my email. But I saw this, and recovery from the effects of depression is very important to me. I think that if you are a sensitive, intelligent person, depression can be a situational thing in response to the way our society has evolved. So many things not right in this world. So many memes on social media suggest that depression is easy to fix. Just get a better attitude. Focus on joy. On others. On yourself. On God. And to a certain extent they can be helpful. I am on the Autism Spectrum, and I have a lot of anxiety to deal with because I am very sensitive. I hear too well, see everything, feel everything. Smells, allergies, getting overwhelmed at too much stimuli. But I do have a great deal of happiness in my life, after all these years of trying to figure things out. I have a great counselor who I trust and I see her for a check up every once in a while. I understand myself better and so I protect myself from the things that are hurtful to me as much as possible. I take a fairly low dose of Cymbalta and practice mindfulness There are so many different things that can help. I hope you are feeling better and have found some things that work for you.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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49% Cherokee and Choctaw here. I have had depression and anxiety since I was a very small child. I am not a member of a tribe yet, because I haven't taken the time to get that part of my life done. Depression is draining. I am so much better than I was. I finally found a really great counselor who believes in me. I practice mindfulness. I pray and meditate. I live gratitude and thankfulness. I have much to be thankful for and try to share what helps me with others. I hope that we have a chance to connect again. We can learn much from each other. We can help each other.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Hello @mamasitalucita

I so appreciate your sharing your struggles (as well as your tools) for dealing with depression and anxiety. I am so happy for you that you found a counselor who understands you. I am also grateful that you have found the tools of mindfulness, meditation, gratitude and thankfulness to be helpful to you. I think of these as the contents for your tool-bag to help you deal with your depression and anxiety. We probably all have different tools for dealing with these feelings and I'm so glad that you shared yours.

We have a couple of discussion groups dealing with ways of relieving depression and anxiety. Here are links to those discussions, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/depression-and-alternative-treatments/ and https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/doing-things-to-relieve-depression-motivation-and-ideas/

You have added greatly to our group! I look forward to hearing from you again!

Teresa

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@mamasitalucita

Good points, I appreciate your sharing those thoughts.

Teresa

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Hi @ mamasitalucita. Thank you for your story, but I would love to hear more of it. I initially thought Hispanic ancestry when I saw your name and because I know just enough spanish(written) to be dangerous, I was curious and now more so. I also appreciate the way you describe your life now. If I can focus on others through gratitude and sharing and kindness, I spend so much less time thinking about what I can not do or don't want to do. Thank you for your very encouraging words and I really would love for you to tell me and all of our members more about you and your life. So nice to virtually meet you!
Gary

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Thank you for sharing. It is great to have a good counselor. I have found great understanding in my primary doctor. I too practice mindfulness, prayer and meditation. I know these practices are my salvation. You are right, we can learn from each other and we can help each other.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Thank you for your response!  I find it to be so encouraging to hear from others who walk the same path as I do.  We learn from each other.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Oh, trust me, it is my pleasure!  Thank you so much for your quick response and the rest of your message!  I am scattered, having been told by my GP that he really doesn't want me taking ADHD Medicine.  I think I would be able to focus more however, if I did take it.  I am also on the Autism Spectrum, having discovered late in life why I am the way I am.  I am an Autism Advocate, retired from the school system.  I was a Social Worker for some years, and now am a Certified Pastoral Counsellor. I love helping others however I can, because I know how important it is to have that connection with other people.  Please, let's keep in touch on here and support our bothers and sisters on this journey.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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Thank you so very much for your kind words!  There are so many things that are in my "tool kit" for managing depression and anxiety.  I have only begun to scratch the surface, and plan to add more as I grow and change daily. Structure helps tremendously, of course.  Having both ADHD and Autism, My little brain is assaulted daily from the screaming noises of life in civilization! I suspect my anxiety comes a lot from my heightened senses.  I hear off the charts, and every other sense is magnified.  I spend a lot of energy just dealing with this world on a daily basis.  My depression used to be so bad, I can only say that it is a miracle I am still here.  And that is why I want so much to help others who are made of the same stuff I am.  Again, thanks for sharing!  Blessings and joy.

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@parus

@sharlynn62 I am 66 and there is nothing anyone else can do. It is up to me. If I cannot use my CBT skills then what else is there? I am 66 and I do not mention the “D” word to anyone. I feel like a leper in society. I surely will get back on track. Currently I lack the desire to even try. Yup, listening to the depression demon. Native Americans left the tribe when they were no longer of value. Welcome to my pitiful world.

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I have a wonderful family doctor.  He listens to me, really cares, and goes the second mile.  He doesn't take offense at my questions, or the fact that I do research on whatever is going on with me.  I believe we should be informed consumers, most importantly about things concerning our health!  Peace and blessings.

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