Leaving memory care

@saraemma3709 We used a tactic many years ago with both my Grandma and my uncle when they were unhappy about us leaving - we would time our departure with the beginning of an activity in the common area/meal in the dining area and take them to it before saying goodbye. They were distracted by what was going on and seldom fussed. Sometimes it was as simple as pushing them near the aviary, fish tank or big screen TV where others were gathered.

My daughter was a memory care nurse, and a master of distraction. Some of her families would push their loved one near the nursing station and start a conversation between staff and the person, then step away

Maybe you could try one of these?

Thank you I usually leave when dinner time starts and take him to his table and try to get him interested in the mail. He’s still stops and says you’re not leaving not being able to care for him at home anymore. It is sad for me when he isn’t happy, life’s journey isn’t easy.

One of my mother's favorite sayings was, "A lie well told is as good as the truth." My spouse will obsess about having her stash of old coins valued and I tell her, "How about we go to a coin dealer tomorrow?" And she says, "Oh, that would be a good idea." I've said it to her many, many times.

Thank you all for your hugs and concern...we each to find our way with our love ones. To me now that he is in Memory Care and I am not able to visit him daily it is: THE LONG GOOD-BYE.

I used to "borrow" my MIL from the nursing home and take her out to lunch at her favorite park and as we were returning to the nursing home she would ask "can I go home" (she lived with us for 18 years) and I had to explain that we couldn't provide the support she needed. I cried on the way home.
now my wife is starting with Easter Seals because of her dementia. more crying because I can see her journey in the near future.

Another hard journey for you.