Just thinking out loud: Humans Alone vs Social

Posted by stuckonu @stuckonu, Sep 15, 2019

After watching the movie: The Martian I thought once again about being alone. I’m an artist and live alone. I often like, dare I say LOVE living alone. That said, As a HB ( Human Being ) I am an Individual and a social creature by nature. It’s difficult for me at time to explain my SELF. Sometimes I think that is a result of or perhaps a consequence of my choice to not co-habituate with another, or other HB’s.
About this time in this rumination which I’ve written about as well as “shared” with others, I often hear: “what are you trying to say?” That question at times seems to me to be an answer to the question because as I see it HB’s or as think of them now as “ modern HB’s “ are impatient so instead of allowing me to explain myself there is a need for many to hear their own voice. Instead of wanting to explain my thoughts I withdraw to the self voice that reminds me why I close to be alone.
Matt Damon in The Martian was left behind abandoned in a manner of speaking because his crew decided that there was no way that he could still be alive under the circumstance he was in. In a way they were impatient and rationalized, justified for their own wellbeing and survival to leave Mars and Matt’s body behind. In the Marines the motto to leave no one behind to a certain degree is rooted in a knowledge that, even if dead an enemy may likely desecrate a dead enemy. If anyone recalls those horrific images from all wars but in this century the most currents wars, the truth confirms this theory. It makes me think about my opening comment that HB’s are Individual and Social creatures. Maybe the error in my definition is that it doesn’t say enough about HB’s
The world that we inhabit is changing fast and perhaps that’s where impatience comes from.
Surely some here are wondering “ what is he trying to say?” So May I ask you what YOU think I’m trying to say because I am honestly interested. Maybe I can learn something about HB’s as well as my SELF because after all, I’m only YOU MAN.
Pun intended 😉

@becsbuddy

@stuckonu What makes me sad is that you don’t share your life with others, or that you may choose not to. I like to spend time alone but I also get energy from being with people! But, I guess we’re all different😊

Jump to this post

It’s curious to me that conclusions are drawn and assumed to be so. I often like dare I say love being with HB’s
I’d also love to find a “partner” romantically and in other ways such as a business partner, and perhaps in other ways.
Being honest I will confess that the better I get to know my self the more difficult it becomes to imagine having that happen.
A friend of mine said to me: we need to understand that everyone has baggage, but why does it take so long to find out that they have a Uhaul parked around the corner out of sight until you move in together.
BTW this person has always been in my life from the first day we met; over 50 years

REPLY
@2011panc

@stuckonu, If you begin your responses with "@" and the name of the person you are responding to, we are sure to see your response and know who you are responding to.

Jump to this post

FYI: Here's more info on why and how to @mention members in your messages as well as how to figure out who is replying to whom.
– Replies and @mentions: How do I know who is replying to whom? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/about-connect/newsfeed-post/replies-and-mentions-how-do-i-know-who-is-replying-to-whom/
All posts are seen by all members following the discussion.

REPLY
@ethanmcconkey

FYI: Here's more info on why and how to @mention members in your messages as well as how to figure out who is replying to whom.
– Replies and @mentions: How do I know who is replying to whom? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/about-connect/newsfeed-post/replies-and-mentions-how-do-i-know-who-is-replying-to-whom/
All posts are seen by all members following the discussion.

Jump to this post

GM Ethan, I really like that you’re hearing what I’m struggling to figure out
Much Thanks!

REPLY
@ethanmcconkey

FYI: Here's more info on why and how to @mention members in your messages as well as how to figure out who is replying to whom.
– Replies and @mentions: How do I know who is replying to whom? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/about-connect/newsfeed-post/replies-and-mentions-how-do-i-know-who-is-replying-to-whom/
All posts are seen by all members following the discussion.

Jump to this post

@ethanmcconkey Thank you for referring me to a tutorial. I was not looking for one. Did you not want me to see your message? Because you did not begin your message with @panc2011.

REPLY
@2011panc

@ethanmcconkey Thank you for referring me to a tutorial. I was not looking for one. Did you not want me to see your message? Because you did not begin your message with @panc2011.

Jump to this post

@2011panc, allow me to explain. @ethanmcconkey posted the tutorial about @mentions and replies as an FYI to all members involved in this discussion thread, including yourself. It was for everyone to see and was posted to support your explanation to new members.

REPLY
@2011panc

@stuckonu, If you begin your responses with "@" and the name of the person you are responding to, we are sure to see your response and know who you are responding to.

Jump to this post

@2011panc– As the saying goes on FB, I'm stealing this. It's short and sweet.

REPLY
@2011panc

@ethanmcconkey Thank you for referring me to a tutorial. I was not looking for one. Did you not want me to see your message? Because you did not begin your message with @panc2011.

Jump to this post

@2011panc– I love this feature and have been chastised for insisting on it when I first became a mentor. Our guidelines encourage this but it is not mandatory. It would help if everyone does this but I find myself wishing not to a lot- it's a royal pain if you answer or get a lot of posts as all my fellow mentors get. Ethan was just trying to assist everyone, we often try and clarify things for others because it is an open forum and new people join in daily. We have thousands and lots of thousands of people on Connect who just read posts. Perhaps they like to know how Connect works even if they aren't participating?

REPLY
Please sign in or register to post a reply.
  Request Appointment