Managing Lifelong Mental Health as a Senior

Posted by georgette12 @georgette12, Jan 13, 2017

I have just started using this site so this is my first message.

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@elizabethbryant

Hi Patti, I spoke with my neighbor (suffered with white tongue also) we both agreed it comes from stress and it comes up from the
stomach and you MUST control the stress at all costs. These words don’t mean much perhaps, because I thought I could get
away with the stress, and just kept on…….one day the stress will eat you up. Got to stop it, the white stuff comes from your stomach
as a result of the stress. I am now taking a nausia med and this helping as it cuts back a bit on the extra salvia. We need salvia to
have healthy teeth. With this condition I had pooling of the salvia, Yours may be different, it took awhile for me to produce the extra
salvia, I think I am producing extra as the body’s way of protecting the irritated tissue, hopefully you don’t have the irritated tissue yet.
Keep believing beloved one of God and He tells us to be anxious for nothing. We must be obedient or we now pay the consequences.
He knows we will we anxious, so God repeats this over and over again in Scripture.
Remember the white stuff on your tongue is coming from your stomach. It would be good if you could take 1 M G of clomazepam
an anxiety drug at night. Check with your doctor as this works best if you have not taken other medications for this issue.
God bless…..Elizabeth

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Thanks so much for the info. My appetite hasn’t really been that good and I know its because I am worrying about this tongue thing. But I will try what you have suggested. Hope you are doing better and as always talk to our LORD and FATHER for guidance he will always come through for you. My trouble is I can’t sit and listen. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. I really want to be kept informed on your condition and maybe someway it will give me the extra strength I need right now.
Patti

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@elizabethbryant

Hi Patti, I spoke with my neighbor (suffered with white tongue also) we both agreed it comes from stress and it comes up from the
stomach and you MUST control the stress at all costs. These words don’t mean much perhaps, because I thought I could get
away with the stress, and just kept on…….one day the stress will eat you up. Got to stop it, the white stuff comes from your stomach
as a result of the stress. I am now taking a nausia med and this helping as it cuts back a bit on the extra salvia. We need salvia to
have healthy teeth. With this condition I had pooling of the salvia, Yours may be different, it took awhile for me to produce the extra
salvia, I think I am producing extra as the body’s way of protecting the irritated tissue, hopefully you don’t have the irritated tissue yet.
Keep believing beloved one of God and He tells us to be anxious for nothing. We must be obedient or we now pay the consequences.
He knows we will we anxious, so God repeats this over and over again in Scripture.
Remember the white stuff on your tongue is coming from your stomach. It would be good if you could take 1 M G of clomazepam
an anxiety drug at night. Check with your doctor as this works best if you have not taken other medications for this issue.
God bless…..Elizabeth

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Liz, your post made me laugh when it was auto corrected to read, “put a heaping tablespoon of Trivia”, which was obviously supposed to be “Truvia.” I laughed, and every time I read it, I laugh again. Thanks for the unintended humor in what are often very serious discussions. Gail B

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@brit

Thank you Gail. I have started on Citalopram and hoping it will calm my stress level to where I can live a normal life.
Patti

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Are you feeling OK doing the pills this way? You can always cut back to just 1/2 the 40 mg a day. That may feel more comfortable. Its your choice always. Keep us informed about how you are doing. Gail B.

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Hi tallygirl and everybody else! I havent been on the forum since my last post … Which i think was about not believing that doctors can tell you how long you are going to live. I was in the process of moving to an apartment. But i also have a problem staying connected because i am just not getting any better dealing with this depression. Tomorrow will be the 7th month anniversary of my son’s suicide. As i might have posted, i am not getting grief counseling for the PTSD stuff and the continuing nightmares. Small mountain town in colorado that offers no resources and friends and family and everyone else…do not accept the reality that people in this world actually do kill themselves…yep….this strange and totally unacceptable event actually exists! Oh…and that the folks who choose to opt out of life do leave behind people who are severely traumatized to the point where leaving the planet can often sound like a good idea.

I am definitely aware of the consequences of submerging the awfulest of feelings. And i am definitely aware that these feelings are starting to surface. I have discovered that the word suicide is forbidden in much of the society we live in…even though the suicide rate is steadily increasing. Reminds me of the folks who truly believe that if you utter a negative word…that makes it happen. When my one son was born a long time ago…i told him that he is not to be jealous because he has a new baby brother… cause i would always love him as much as always. I did not love the new baby more than him. But my husbands mother had a fit because she thought …and truly believed….that my sayiny that out loud “would give him that idea.” more later guys. Many hugs.

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@georgette12

Hi tallygirl and everybody else! I havent been on the forum since my last post … Which i think was about not believing that doctors can tell you how long you are going to live. I was in the process of moving to an apartment. But i also have a problem staying connected because i am just not getting any better dealing with this depression. Tomorrow will be the 7th month anniversary of my son’s suicide. As i might have posted, i am not getting grief counseling for the PTSD stuff and the continuing nightmares. Small mountain town in colorado that offers no resources and friends and family and everyone else…do not accept the reality that people in this world actually do kill themselves…yep….this strange and totally unacceptable event actually exists! Oh…and that the folks who choose to opt out of life do leave behind people who are severely traumatized to the point where leaving the planet can often sound like a good idea.

I am definitely aware of the consequences of submerging the awfulest of feelings. And i am definitely aware that these feelings are starting to surface. I have discovered that the word suicide is forbidden in much of the society we live in…even though the suicide rate is steadily increasing. Reminds me of the folks who truly believe that if you utter a negative word…that makes it happen. When my one son was born a long time ago…i told him that he is not to be jealous because he has a new baby brother… cause i would always love him as much as always. I did not love the new baby more than him. But my husbands mother had a fit because she thought …and truly believed….that my sayiny that out loud “would give him that idea.” more later guys. Many hugs.

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Thanks for your post, @georgette12. I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. You are certainly articulate in expressing your feelings and that counts for a lot in the healing process. Look forward to hearing from you again! Teresa

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Georgette, coping with the memory of losing your son because of suicide must be almost unbearable at times. Anytime we’ve lost children, no matter the cause, leaves a sore open place in our hearts and memories. My son didn’t take his life, but I knew he wanted to at times. As far back in our family as I know of, there have been suicides. My mother’s father shot her mother and then himself. Life can be hard and some people just can’t cope. When I was deeply depressed and first diagnosed as Bi-Polar, I thought about it, but I’m too big a wimp. It takes a lot of nerve to end your life. I kept thinking it would get easier and it does at times. I actually love life even when it’s not going so good. Keep your chin up and remember to do something to help someone each day because you end up helping yourself.

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@georgette12

Hi tallygirl and everybody else! I havent been on the forum since my last post … Which i think was about not believing that doctors can tell you how long you are going to live. I was in the process of moving to an apartment. But i also have a problem staying connected because i am just not getting any better dealing with this depression. Tomorrow will be the 7th month anniversary of my son’s suicide. As i might have posted, i am not getting grief counseling for the PTSD stuff and the continuing nightmares. Small mountain town in colorado that offers no resources and friends and family and everyone else…do not accept the reality that people in this world actually do kill themselves…yep….this strange and totally unacceptable event actually exists! Oh…and that the folks who choose to opt out of life do leave behind people who are severely traumatized to the point where leaving the planet can often sound like a good idea.

I am definitely aware of the consequences of submerging the awfulest of feelings. And i am definitely aware that these feelings are starting to surface. I have discovered that the word suicide is forbidden in much of the society we live in…even though the suicide rate is steadily increasing. Reminds me of the folks who truly believe that if you utter a negative word…that makes it happen. When my one son was born a long time ago…i told him that he is not to be jealous because he has a new baby brother… cause i would always love him as much as always. I did not love the new baby more than him. But my husbands mother had a fit because she thought …and truly believed….that my sayiny that out loud “would give him that idea.” more later guys. Many hugs.

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@georgette12

I’ve learned that saying the word, “suicide”, in a conversation is a quick way to squelch the conversation. I know that it’s difficult for my wife to cope with the knowledge that I’ve attempted a number of times, even though it’s been several years ago. I live with a lot of guilt for having put my wife through so much trauma over the past dozen years. I don’t know why I think about it as much as I do. I’m fairly sure that for me, it’s connected with depression. I’ve gone way past doing it for attention. I know that I’m still alive today because of my wife. I don’t want to cause the grief that my suicide would result in. I’ll certainly be talking about it with my new therapist.

Jim

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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I am an alcoholic in recovery and I have had major depression which is mostly controlled by medication. It look forward to being able to connect with others who have these problems or a dual diagnosis

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Dispite having PTSD and Bipolar Disorder I too love life. I know it’s difficult to say that when suffering from depression but I always try to be as positive as possible.

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@lesbatts

Dispite having PTSD and Bipolar Disorder I too love life. I know it’s difficult to say that when suffering from depression but I always try to be as positive as possible.

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what a special person you are. When I am depressed I feel helpless. My husband is my insperation and really helps with my daily exercise and doing things around the house. I love life too, but every 3-4 years this depression come about me that just comes from nowhere. My sister and mother too had it so I guess its just a gene that we have in the family. I work on it on a daily basis and have been in one of those “funks” now for about 2 months. I am on medication and it does help but I also know that the main thing is I push myself and that also helps. My husband said pills won’t do it all you have to participate.
God Bless you dear and my prayers are with you. You can do it!!!!!!
Patti

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I believe mental illness is like other diseases, we just have to keep trying. I stay on a rollercoaster ….. not only daily, but off and on during the day. Sometimes it would be wonderful to just stay on the couch and give up. It takes a lot of energy to cope. This is why I try to get outside at some point during the day. Being among people helps me to put my best self forward because I know this is what they want to see. The feelings we have when down are hard to explain. Sometimes when out, I simply walk through a department store, feeling totally alone and still not caring. Do you find yourself wanting to try to explain your feelings? I pull out all the things that have deeply hurt and poke at them to see if they still bleed. I don’t blame anyone for things that have happened, I just can’t totally trust. I sometimes need someone who could love me unconditionally, but maybe more than this, someone who could find what they need in me. Does this make sense?

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