Intimacy and cancer
My husband and I have not been intimate since my cancer (glioblastoma) diagnosis (5 years now). At first it was due to fatigue. But now I don’t know why. I try to talk to him about it but he avoids the subject. Anyone else having this issue?
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Sex, sexuality and intimacy are all important to varying degrees for each person and/or couple. With cancer, intimacy may be redefined, but not absent. When sex is put on hold (temporarily or permanently), what intimacy do you still wish for? Cuddles, conversation, hand-holding, TV watching, touches in passing?
…for me, I miss hugs and cuddles, we used to be interested in same tv shows so sat together, now each have own tv…but it's been a 40 year marriage and whereas sexual intimacy played a big part, over the initial years, an almost platonic? friendship evolved and I get that…but as has been said I think, it's odd that the sexual intimacy faded into a memory after cancer treatment… wonder if this happens with other illnesses … as might another type of life changing occurrence in a partnership/marriage? Well I do now have a teddy bear!!!!
Food for thought.
I would love some hugs and be able to communicate about things that are in anyway positive. Therapy is on the table, however due to an significant move we will make in a few months (post latest treatment) couple therapy is on hold so as not to leave a therapist and then locate a new one several states away. Sending you all a virtual hug.
We have gone through many physically life threatening conditions, extensive surgeries & recoveries together. Cancer has been different; it has taken away our intimacy.
We have been stumbling around for months now. I remember coming here to look for answers. We fnally broke down recently and got some blue pills.
So happy to see this being addressed.
Not offensive. Welcomed.
Good for you both!!!!
We use them, and it brings the touches and cuddles along with the closeness.
I just have to buildup the energy and then we go for it.
That’s good news. Thank you for bringing this issue for open discussion.
Intimacy is an important issue in cancer survivors. Mayo Clinic has a unigue clinic-The Menopause and Women's Sexual Health Clinic (MWSHC) in Rochester, MN. We have multidisciplinary team including a sex therapist with a special focus on intimacy in cancer survivors.
We work with all types of cancers and have frequent referrals from medical, gynecological, and radiation oncology.
Carol Kuhle, D.O., MPH
Director, MWSHC 507-266-3988 for an appointment