Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?
Lets; say you have neighbors that sit outside your apartment building, smoke "weed" in public view (which is illegal) and use intimidating gestures towards you as you come and go. Could this be enough to cause legitimate depression and anxiety?
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yes, it will make you sick, mentally and physically, if you can move, it's not worth living in this environment,
speaking from experience
good news that your landlord spoke to his nuisance tenants, no need for them to be smiling at you, no need for eye contact with them- I wish you peace of mind, you should live in a place
where you feel safe and not threatened, it has an impact on your health, no doubt-
Update: This morning they were out there smoking weed right in front of the building! I have documented this and we'll see how it goes the next days ahead.
As far as me moving, it's them that need to leave! Why should should I go through the process of moving? In any event this is a nice place, the location is perfect for me and anywhere else I move there may be a similar, maybe even worse situation. Nuisances and safety issues from other tenants are the biggest negatives of apartment living. At some time in the future I'll be looking for a detached house in a safe region, by the sea!
do you smell the weed in your apartment? Is there drug dealing going on? If the answer is no, does it still matter? How long do they hang around smoking, how many are involved? Are they smoking on apartment grounds or public pavement? Have you looked at the rental agreement considering harassment of tenants by tenants? Have you reported your grievances in writing to your landlord? For how long have they lived in the apartment
complex? If it causes you distress, find ways not to monitor them. Have you considered legal advice?
Thank you for your reply. These people stand right outside the apartment building , smoke weed and use threats to intimidate residents coming and going to their apartments. I originally thought this was a knee-jerk reaction for the people but now I believe it's done to keep people from reporting their illegal behavior. To do this right outside someone's residence is the ultimate disrespect and a major safety issue for everyone.
ALL solutions that could be thought of have been considered in-depth, including a number of novel legal methods. These people are extremely aggressive, inconsiderate, persistent and frustrating causing but my best guess is they will not be allowed to live here much longer. It may take law enforcement physically wrangling them out. It's really that bad.
Also, I will add, just for societal sake, drug education, including casual "education", teaches that "drugs are bad", for health. Obviously they are but what the education does not tell is the truth that in addition to bad health illegal drugs cause MAJOR NUISANCE. I'm living it and have seen it, particularly with "weed". It's a myth that it makes everyone peaceful, happy, loving etc.. It makes some people highly aggressive, inconsiderate, loud, reckless and threatening, just like my neighbors. In The Netherlands, cannabis is not legal, it's "tolerated" and what many people do not know is that if there is any nuisance associated with cannabis there can be substantial legal issues for those causing it or facilitating it. That country got it right decades ago but even they still have major issues with all drugs.
Update: They were outside this morning again, hanging out, smoking weed, looking rough. No threats but the once nice building looks like a "drug house" now. I can't believe this happening to me. It's like a scene from a movie about a US inner city.
There is no doubt in my mind that it can. I'm no expert, but there is a limit to how much stress, abuse, antagonism, etc. our bodies can handle. There is a point when we can no longer cope. This point is different for everyone. Our life experiences have a major effect on this. I submit to you that these experiences begin before we are born. The quality of care our mothers provide for themselves (and therefore us), the health risks they take against themselves (and us), the emotional and/or physical trauma they endure during the pregnancy all influence who we are and how we cope, not to mention our post utero experiences, which include our upbringing and how we were treated by people in our lives. Feelings of hopelessness arise when we are unable to resolve the conflicts in our lives arising from our interactions with others. These feelings lead to chemical imbalances in our central nervous systems, often requiring medication to adjust, hopefully giving us the ability to cope with things we have no control over. At best, people don't care how their actions negatively affect those around them. In fact, many take pleasure in antagonizing others. Many of us grew up with such behavior from our own family members. Ber a person. Don't be people.
Since I originally posted I can now say it's true. I have had to come back home after dark now due to daylight savings and my heart and adrenaline starts ramping up even before I get to the parking lot. I look around like a chipmunk looking out for predators and I hurry nervously into the building. What a crumby way to live! The last place I lived, which is far away from this city and much smaller, when I would leave or come back home sometimes a neighbor who I never spoke to and didn't even know, would see me, wave and said out loud "Love you!". What a difference!
The good news is overall the frequency of people hanging out outside is gone down substantially and there have been no threatening body language for at least a week. I certainly feel better now. The day I leave I will celebrate.
I’m truly relating to how you feel, in Canada where I live cannabis is legal and this has opened another problem for me. People are smoking and vaping in their homes and on their balconies day and night and even if I keep my windows closed it gets inside my apartment. It’s not just the drugs, cigarettes are another issue here and I’m constantly plagued by their pollution. I’ve tried sending polite notes to them but they’re totally disregarded, they feel that they’re not breaking any laws so my efforts are ignored. Of course I can always move but the rents here are very high and I pay a little less because I’ve been living here for a long time, I can’t afford to move because I’m on a fixed income so I sometimes feel trapped. My health is not great and I have respiratory problems so it’s very difficult to survive here. The landlord doesn’t help because they aren’t breaking any rules and most newcomers pay higher rents than I do. This is an ongoing problem with no resolution in sight and it truly causes me to feel very helpless and hopeless.
It would be a good change if you could live in a house, apartment living is very stressful because you’re in close proximity to a lot of people, unfortunately some of them are not very nice and they don’t care about their neighbours. It’s truly a cold world we live in filled with many apathetic people and survival is very challenging, I hope that you will find the peace of mind that you deserve in your new home and neighborhood, good luck to you.