Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Oct 26, 2024

Lets; say you have neighbors that sit outside your apartment building, smoke "weed" in public view (which is illegal) and use intimidating gestures towards you as you come and go. Could this be enough to cause legitimate depression and anxiety?

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@lynnecronk

This is harassment on any level. Go to police and file a report and state you fear for your life...verbal threats.

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Apparently the police are well aware of the situation and I believe this has been instrumental in the legal process.

I did not see the men outside today, thank goodness. I'm fortunate that at least in this city authorities seem to take threats against people, particularly when there are drugs involved, seriously. That's the way it needs to be everywhere!

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@robertwills

Apparently the police are well aware of the situation and I believe this has been instrumental in the legal process.

I did not see the men outside today, thank goodness. I'm fortunate that at least in this city authorities seem to take threats against people, particularly when there are drugs involved, seriously. That's the way it needs to be everywhere!

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In Nanaimo where I live, it is the drug capital of BC. Just about every apartment has a clandestine kitchen situation. It is, of course, organized crime so people are afraid and pay backs are happening. There has to be a reason that not one person will help.

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@lynnecronk

In Nanaimo where I live, it is the drug capital of BC. Just about every apartment has a clandestine kitchen situation. It is, of course, organized crime so people are afraid and pay backs are happening. There has to be a reason that not one person will help.

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Are you located in USA?

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@lynnecronk

In Nanaimo where I live, it is the drug capital of BC. Just about every apartment has a clandestine kitchen situation. It is, of course, organized crime so people are afraid and pay backs are happening. There has to be a reason that not one person will help.

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Respectfully, I find that difficult to believe. Just about every apartment?

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@robertwills

Respectfully, I find that difficult to believe. Just about every apartment?

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No.....there is one clandestine kitchen in every second apartment block. Those are words from an outreach worker.

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@lynnecronk

No.....there is one clandestine kitchen in every second apartment block. Those are words from an outreach worker.

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Well that's very different than every other kitchen. Still, I don't know much about your region other than what I hear it's unique in that's it's quite permissive there. One sophisticated approach might be to make it a much more serious offense only if there's nuisance and danger to others.

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Our evolution from the savage has not taken a long time in relation to the age of the earth. Our instincts make us make quick judgements to 'friend or foe'. People are not meant to live in apartment buildings. We crave small protective groups. Since humans do not appear to have the capacity to make rational decisions on 'When to keep it in your pants'. We make our own troubles. Rise above the norm. It is not your place to 'Police the Universe'. Try' Hello'! The people that you judge as bad may turn out to be the person who saves you.

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@tomkofathensga

Our evolution from the savage has not taken a long time in relation to the age of the earth. Our instincts make us make quick judgements to 'friend or foe'. People are not meant to live in apartment buildings. We crave small protective groups. Since humans do not appear to have the capacity to make rational decisions on 'When to keep it in your pants'. We make our own troubles. Rise above the norm. It is not your place to 'Police the Universe'. Try' Hello'! The people that you judge as bad may turn out to be the person who saves you.

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I tried to say hello to the men on at least two of occasions. All I got back were angry scowls. I found out recently that some of these men are really "bad dudes".

I want everyone to be happy and I like to share it with everyone, even though at times I have been going through very hard times. My only mistake, that I discovered many years ago, was thinking that everyone would reciprocate. The fact is some people are simply perpetual jerks and bullies and nothing, I mean nothing you do will change that, in almost all cases. That's been my long experience and I know it's the experience of other people also. The men hanging outside my building are stupid bullies. You do not want these people living near you. Soon they will not be living near me!

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@heisenberg34

What is the possibility of moving? If it gets too bad, I would think that moving would be a great option. Not an easy option, but, perhaps better than having to put up with that nonsense. If you mention to your landlord that you are considering moving due to neighbors activities, he/she may be able to resolve the issue.

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In my experience with landlords, they don’t really care as long as they are raking in their rent. As soon as one tenant leaves, they are free to jack up the rent after doing some “renovations” to the unit, and just get another tenant. Former tenant is the one left with the inconvenience of a move.

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@robertwills

Update: I just spoke with a neighbor. Apparently they spoke with another neighbor who said the men have some idea who reported their behavior. What!? Am I on some kind of "fear factor" reality show? What the heck? Why is this happening to me?

The good news? The neighbor said I have nothing to be concerned about because the men know that it's almost over here and they don't want to risk real legal trouble by retaliating. This neighbor has lived here for many years and knows the "terrain" so I will take comfort in this. But I could have sworn they told me weeks ago that I needed to be very careful in the dark and that I should, if I could, arrange my schedule so I do not leave or come back in the dark!

I'll be updating again soon.

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I’d be wary about sharing your thoughts with any neighbours - some “friendly” neighbours may be using you to be their mouthpiece because they are too afraid to deal with the problem themselves and by using you to fight they can stay safe from any repercussions. Just discuss your concerns with the landlord and the police but don’t discuss this problem with anyone else in the building, even if they try to initiate discussion.

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