In-home care can often be of great help for caregivers

Posted by FWW @fwentz, Jun 14 9:51am

In-home care can often be of great help for caregivers. It can be scheduled for certain days of the week so the caregiver can do errands, schedule appointments, and just get away for a time.

My wife has advanced Alzheimer's disease and is now in an adult care facility. I was her caregiver at home for 8 years. A good next-door neighbor came over once a week as a companion for Judy for a couple of hours which enabled me to go grocery shopping, etc. We also arranged for in-home care for each Wednesday morning from 8am to noon. It was a challenge to find an individual whose chemistry was compatible with Judy's! We tried several caregivers who were good people but not compatible. Finally we found one who Judy really liked. Sabrina became like a treasured member of the family for several years!

It's important for a caregiver to maintain their good physical and mental health through the challenges they face. In-home care can sometimes help with that.

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@fwentz I’m so glad you found Sabrina! It can be so difficult to find the right person, can't it? Was Sabrina found through an agency or word-of-mouth? We’re you able to find substitutes when Sabrina was ill or out of town? Lots of questions, I know, but we’ve been looking for a home health aide for our Mom and we live several hours, by plane, away. Not an easy task.
We’re there any county or state agencies that gave you good advice?

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@becsbuddy

@fwentz I’m so glad you found Sabrina! It can be so difficult to find the right person, can't it? Was Sabrina found through an agency or word-of-mouth? We’re you able to find substitutes when Sabrina was ill or out of town? Lots of questions, I know, but we’ve been looking for a home health aide for our Mom and we live several hours, by plane, away. Not an easy task.
We’re there any county or state agencies that gave you good advice?

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Great questions, Becky. They were just the ones we found ourselves looking for answers to at the time. We found Sabrina through Visiting Angels. It was a local resource recommended to us by the local state agency which here was called Aging and Long Term Care. ALTC assigned a case worker to us provided continuity to meet our needs as they changed as the disease progressed. They had lots of good information about helpful resources in our community.
Visiting Angels also assigned a supervisor to me who arranged for substitutes when needed. Over time I developed a preference for certain ones and the supervisor did her best to arrange it if schedules could be matched.
The caregiver (usually Sabrina) made notes in a journal (that stayed in our home) about what she did while she was here and how things went with Judy. We coordinated well together and helped each other "problem solve" as changes in Judy's behavior happened. The supervisor stopped by every month or two to look at the journal and to ask me questions about the caregiver's care.
I was very pleased with the way things eventually worked out but it took a couple of months before we got settled down with Sabrina. I would guess she was the 4th or 5th caregiver. It's not easy for the supervisor because many of the caregivers are fully scheduled and even if she knows which one(s) would be best for us, it's partly a matter of waiting until they have a schedule opening and are available.
Sabrina was able each week to give Judy a safe shower and pamper her a little (Sabrina would say "The Queen is going to the spa today!" And I would say "It's great to be Queen!" Sabrina would also do some light house cleaning when Judy was comfortable with her coloring books and gel pens or watching the Great British Baking Show on TV.
Maybe there is a friend or neighbor of your mother that can meet with the caregiver when she is with your mother to oversee how things are going. Otherwise, you may be able to have them email copies of the journal entries or phone you frequently to learn how things are going and to exchange ideas on what to do.
I hope you and your mother get together with a great caregiver!

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@fwentz

Great questions, Becky. They were just the ones we found ourselves looking for answers to at the time. We found Sabrina through Visiting Angels. It was a local resource recommended to us by the local state agency which here was called Aging and Long Term Care. ALTC assigned a case worker to us provided continuity to meet our needs as they changed as the disease progressed. They had lots of good information about helpful resources in our community.
Visiting Angels also assigned a supervisor to me who arranged for substitutes when needed. Over time I developed a preference for certain ones and the supervisor did her best to arrange it if schedules could be matched.
The caregiver (usually Sabrina) made notes in a journal (that stayed in our home) about what she did while she was here and how things went with Judy. We coordinated well together and helped each other "problem solve" as changes in Judy's behavior happened. The supervisor stopped by every month or two to look at the journal and to ask me questions about the caregiver's care.
I was very pleased with the way things eventually worked out but it took a couple of months before we got settled down with Sabrina. I would guess she was the 4th or 5th caregiver. It's not easy for the supervisor because many of the caregivers are fully scheduled and even if she knows which one(s) would be best for us, it's partly a matter of waiting until they have a schedule opening and are available.
Sabrina was able each week to give Judy a safe shower and pamper her a little (Sabrina would say "The Queen is going to the spa today!" And I would say "It's great to be Queen!" Sabrina would also do some light house cleaning when Judy was comfortable with her coloring books and gel pens or watching the Great British Baking Show on TV.
Maybe there is a friend or neighbor of your mother that can meet with the caregiver when she is with your mother to oversee how things are going. Otherwise, you may be able to have them email copies of the journal entries or phone you frequently to learn how things are going and to exchange ideas on what to do.
I hope you and your mother get together with a great caregiver!

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Thanks for the information about Visiting Angels. I am going to reach out to them this week basic upon your comments and suggestions.

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Great! Best wishes for you and your loved one!

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@jal333

Thanks for the information about Visiting Angels. I am going to reach out to them this week basic upon your comments and suggestions.

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I am also going to reach out to Visiting Angels! Thank you so much!

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