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I just don't know what to do anymore.

Posted by val29 @val29, Jan 1 1:42am

I'm 26, female. grew up with strict, abusive parents and still live with them due to circumstances and compulsion. my mum still hits me, along with verbal abuse. sometimes it feels like this is my life, i have to live through the pain. i cry a lot. I used to go to a psychiatrist but they won't allow me to go now. they control my finances and everything. maybe i should just end it for once and all. i feel incredibly done with life.

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val29 | @val29 | 5 days ago
In reply to @denisestlouie "Val29, I see the pain you are in. I would like to share something with you..." + (show)
@denisestlouie

Val29, I see the pain you are in. I would like to share something with you and I would like to ask a question if you don't mind.
My nephew who is 28 still lives with his parents because his situation is complicated also. He was born with Spina bifida and as a result he is paraplegic. His situation is different because he isn't being emotionally or physically abused. But he is dependent on his parents for nearly everything.

Have you ever had a case manager working with you? In most states there is an agency that can oversees care of adults who are dependent due to either physical or mental difficulties. In my state it is the Division of Aging. It sounds like it would be for seniors but it works with people over the age of 21. A phone call to their toll free number will start the process. My nephew worked with that agency. That agency referred him to other services that also help him to become more self sufficient. What state do you live in? I would look the agency for that State to give that information to you.

Denise

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I don't live in USA. Maybe it's not the place to rant...I don't know...

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smugzs | @smugzs | 4 days ago

My heart aches for you. Your situation is so tough...the people who should care for you the most betraying your trust and hurting you when they should, instead, be loving you. I've been through it, and I survived it. It wasn't easy, it still isn't, but it is worth it, I can promise you that. You're an exceptional person, you're a survivor, and through your pain and trauma you can be an inspiration to others who feel the same as you do now. I know it's feels so dark and lonely, but you're not alone There are millions of us, survivors, in this world. You deserve healing, love, connection and community, and it's out there for you.

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kdalda75 | @kndaustin71 | 3 days ago

If they won't let you get a job, how and where are your finances coming from that they are controlling. Have they been appointed as legal guardian and/or custodians? It sound as though there is more to your situation and in order to help more information would be beneficial. Hope we can help you out of your situation or at least afford guidance for you to do it.

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depressedbutnotdead | @depressedbutnotdead | 3 days ago
In reply to @val29 "I don't live in USA. Maybe it's not the place to rant...I don't know..." + (show)
@val29

I don't live in USA. Maybe it's not the place to rant...I don't know...

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I gathered from you use of "mum" that you weren't in the States. Are you in the UK or Ireland? I'm wondering since that's the common name for mothers over there.

Please don't feel like you shouldn't be reaching out here. Pain knows no borders. We're here to help. We need to get you into a safe place. That's important. You're being abused.

Here's a resource for England:
https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/our-refuges/
Here's one for Scotland:
https://womensaid.scot/find-nearest-wa-group/
Here's one for Ireland:
https://www.safeireland.ie/get-help/where-to-find-help/
I found this as well:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

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elisabeth007 | @elisabeth007 | 2 days ago

where are you? Most countries have abuse hotlines. You deserve a much better life. You do not need to suffer in silence.

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kayraymat | @kayraymat | 2 days ago

Hurray for "val?".
I did not know there were so many abuse hot lines available.
I used one in the US & am now free of an abuser.
Go for it, girl!!
Why suffer when there is help out there????

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jann422 | @jann422 | 16 hours ago
In reply to @depressedbutnotdead "I gathered from you use of "mum" that you weren't in the States. Are you in..." + (show)
@depressedbutnotdead

I gathered from you use of "mum" that you weren't in the States. Are you in the UK or Ireland? I'm wondering since that's the common name for mothers over there.

Please don't feel like you shouldn't be reaching out here. Pain knows no borders. We're here to help. We need to get you into a safe place. That's important. You're being abused.

Here's a resource for England:
https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/our-refuges/
Here's one for Scotland:
https://womensaid.scot/find-nearest-wa-group/
Here's one for Ireland:
https://www.safeireland.ie/get-help/where-to-find-help/
I found this as well:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

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Great resources you have provided

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